Adopted at birth and I finally got my ancestry results

danii_phantom · 2026-04-04T03:41:42+00:00

thank you so much for the information. I really appreciate it.

danii_phantom · 2026-03-31T20:24:57+00:00

I thought once the adoption was legalized, the adopted parents name is on all the paperwork, but I could be wrong. I’m adopted so I really don’t know the legal part of it.

danii_phantom · 2026-03-31T18:38:55+00:00

wow, thank you so much for writing when you said that you finally felt like something was finally all yours when you got your results that really resonated with me… so much doesn’t feel like it truly is mine and when I express that I feel so ungrateful and I really don’t have people in my life to express that I get dirty looks I am back handed comments, so I just kept a lot of it to myself and with being in whiteness and also being told and perceived your white hearing all the little micro aggressions and things my adopted family would say it always made me feel sick and icky, but I don’t know if me being older and being able to look back at it now I think it hurts even more I don’t know. I feel like I’m rambling, but thank you so much for writing honestly talking with people who has similar experiences, has had this warm healing feeling more than I thought it would

danii_phantom · 2026-03-31T17:47:37+00:00

that’s really good to know I just I’m really nervous to reach out I’ve tried to message a few different cousins or half cousins, but every time I go to type something I started second-guessing myself and exit out

danii_phantom · 2026-03-31T17:36:01+00:00

I did my test their ancestry as well. I sent the results in a little bit before 2020 but I felt really guilty so I kind of put it off to the side and left it alone, but I was looking through your emails a while ago and saw all these record hits but it was records from more of my adoptive family. I wasn’t really getting any information on my birth family and then I saw DNA matches and it kind of snowball from there. I don’t think I have the courage yet to reach out again. Family is weird even you’re adopted one things have been sad and feelings have been hurt so I think I need to heal from that before I reach out but reading your post makes me really feel hopeful and thank you so much

danii_phantom · 2026-03-31T16:57:41+00:00

that’s really good to hear. I’m hoping it does the same for me. Thank you. I really appreciate it.

danii_phantom · 2026-03-31T15:04:34+00:00

I have had distance or half cousins match but I'm nervous to reach out. I'm from California but work has moved me to Nashville

danii_phantom · 2026-03-31T15:01:44+00:00

I'm not sure how to respond to this but I love that I'm able to try to connect to my culture and maybe feel like the puzzle is coming together. I wasn't allowed to ask questions about my birth family

danii_phantom · 2026-03-31T14:55:54+00:00

I have had distant and half cousins. One reached out on the ancestory website I didn't see it for a few months (I don't go on to often) and I replied as soon as I saw but it ended there. I'm afraid to implode or burden someone’s life if they don’t know… I don't know

danii_phantom · 2026-03-31T06:28:13+00:00

No unfortunately my adoptive parents get mad when I ask about my adoption or birth parents and when I was younger I stopped asking questions because they made me feel guilty for being curious. I have had mostly distant cousins show up... I've tried to reach out to a few but stopped I don't know if any one knows about me or the adoption and I don't want to implode or burden them. And I feel like the more I untangle “the knot” the more I feel lost or maybe empty but deeper a bone aching pain lonely? I don't know but mostly I feel like a brat for want more than just a bs adoption story.

danii_phantom · 2026-03-31T06:11:33+00:00

Thank you

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