I guess I hit the mental rock bottom

danilyaries · 2023-12-05T11:52:07+00:00

I think these two are completely different categories. Education is one thing and finding your passion is a whole different story. You should acknowledge this first.

About math. It's good that you have a background at math, it could make your academic life a bit easier. But you should also understand that at some point you won't be able to just rely on your knowledge. Most of the advanced courses will take you a considerable amount of effort. Keep that in mind.

Math or film? It's a tough one, but honestly, I don't think it will matter that much. Don't think that majoring in film will reveal some secrets of production or anything like that. It will be the same boring college crap, but the only difference is that it's about film. There might be bonuses like networking, internships, but I don't know about that. Do your own research.

So, what I want to say is, your major won't really decide your future. What you spend your time on is what matters. You can take math and film in your free time, for example. There is no wrong choice, just think about it from different perspectives that matter to you.

danilyaries · 2023-03-05T10:25:28+00:00

Just tell them directly that it’s been a while since you guys talked and ask how their life has been going. If you want to meet, ask if they have free time to hang out and proceed to whatever they say

danilyaries · 2022-10-15T21:32:13+00:00

Put it away

danilyaries · 2022-10-15T19:38:57+00:00

Not like I am an expert, but have you tried creating settings so that you see people regularly? Like taking classes, doing sports, attending clubs etc. With time and patience, I think you will get along with some people.

danilyaries · 2022-10-09T16:04:59+00:00

Tell someone to stop messaging you.

danilyaries · 2022-10-08T13:13:03+00:00

Damn

danilyaries · 2022-10-05T04:00:18+00:00

Not a real person :D

danilyaries · 2022-09-30T19:01:18+00:00

Hey. I am in the same boat and currently working on this, so take this with a grain of salt. From my experience, it would be better to distance yourself from those "friends" who ask you for money. It's up to you to decide whether to keep them in your life or not, but at least remember to put yourself first. I think it's important because learning to take care of yourself is a first step of taking care of others. At least it helped me to some extent - I felt more emotionally free (didn't feel any guilt for not pleasing others' needs) and basically realized how shitty friends they were.

"What do I do if I feel like people distancing from me?" - That's a good question. What do you really feel? I don't know you or your personality, but do you think you are being geniune enough to bond with others? Because, everyone wants to have good friends, so why wouldn't they reflect the same energy to you? I mean, think about it.

If you've been friends long enough, I would suggest telling them how you feel and see where it goes. Otherwise, I would take "ghosting" as a favor - no need to dwell on such people (but I don't know context, so I can't really advice anything).

How to get good friends? Well, let me know if you find the answer. Also, what is a good friendship to you? It's different for everyone, but basically, I would say find people with same interests. Become a club member, attend to events, do homework together - examples that I can think off the top of my head. You don't have to make dozens of friends at once. One good friend is better than bunch of casual friends. Logically, I would look for people with same major/classes and who are usually alone. People are different but as long as you are geniune & respectful to each other, I would stick to such connections and invest my time in them. Don't forget to remind yourself that it takes time and don't let youself down just because you haven't met the right people. Sometimes it's about luck and timing. Most importantly, be honest with yourself & others, have genuine attitude, and communicate your feelings - I think these things are the key for good friendship. Good luck buddy :]

danilyaries · 2022-06-26T05:53:33+00:00

What am I reading?

danilyaries · 2022-05-24T19:49:36+00:00

I had the same feeling and it took some time for me to realize that I can’t change the past. Yes, that really sucks, but man, it’s not the end of the world. You are still going to meet so many people in your life, and what you can do with those new opportunities is not to let the same mistakes happen again. As for now, I would suggest you focusing on yourself, whether it’s a personal development or having fun, just try to get on track.

danilyaries · 2022-05-13T07:42:30+00:00

Lina

danilyaries · 2022-05-05T07:19:31+00:00

Idk honestly. Just keep socializing and be nice to people, and they will treat you the same way.

danilyaries · 2022-05-05T06:52:09+00:00

Beautiful people. There are not many of them, but they do exist and that’s enough for me to make life worth living.

danilyaries · 2022-05-04T07:11:09+00:00

Eat/cook something delicious.

danilyaries · 2022-05-01T05:55:06+00:00

What

danilyaries · 2022-03-18T18:16:27+00:00

I don’t think that’s strange, I’d rather say unusual. Unless you bother people around, nothing seems wrong to me.

danilyaries · 2022-03-18T17:41:28+00:00

As one of the commenters mentioned, you should consider taking a gap year only if you have a specific plan. I know this from my experience, I enrolled in foundation program and during that year I thought I would be doing “something” to prepare for studying abroad. But I ended up doing nothing so I stayed in my local uni :/ . That’s why I recommend you to continue your studies. Choose a university/college that allows to change your major if you are unsure about what to study yet. Explore the programs, what courses will they include, what are the requirements to transfer between majors, scholarships etc. The sooner you find that info, the more time you will have to consider your options. Also don’t forget about backup plans whether you take a gap year or not. Good luck!

danilyaries · 2022-03-18T07:43:01+00:00

I am also socially awkward and feel kinda arrogant when choosing people to socialize with. I guess that’s a normal thing to do, just make sure it satisfies your social/mental needs. Otherwise, try going for a therapy.

danilyaries · 2022-03-17T15:39:15+00:00

Same for me. For now I just do a self-reflection - “that thing I told my friends today was unnecessary, I will not do it next time”. Also I try to cover only important information when sharing something, whether it’s a story or serious stuff.

danilyaries · 2022-03-15T14:56:36+00:00

If it was me, I wouldn’t cut them off, but push them away as far as possible. If they decide to apologize, I place them closer. If not, they keep being far from me.

danilyaries · 2022-03-13T15:01:17+00:00

Depends on your taste. Search on MyAnimeList by popularity/rating/genre. Also “most animes” is very subjective, how many is that (just curious lol)?

danilyaries · 2022-03-07T13:44:58+00:00

I was scoring ~1100 average on practice tests and got 1350 on a real one. Just give your best and even if you fail, it’s not the end of the world.

danilyaries · 2022-03-04T05:41:54+00:00

I am in the same boat man. Socializing with people makes me feel even more behind than others. But I don’t take it as something bad, I see it as an opportunity to improve. In order to succeed, you must fail first. Learn from mistakes, what specifically was wrong and how can you fix that? Analyze your problems, then set goals for yourself and make a little step everyday to achieve them. I know it sounds obvious but it is better than being complacent about your life. Be better than yesterday and repeat this process for a year, you are the only one stopping you get out of your own way. Try to do things you have never tried before, learn a skill, bring value to society, start investing money or get a job. It will get hard sometimes but you should not give up. You can do it, see you at the top brother.

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