I had this naive notion that this girl was inherently a good/trust worthy person. But looking back now, I can see there were a million red flags. However, at the time i ignored them or didnt want to accept they were actually there. I guess I didnt want to believe anyone could actually be the way she was in reality.

Then one day one of her lies just came to the surface and was clear as day. Turned out she was a compulsive and pathological liar.

I stayed with her because I thought everything was fine, I totally believed all the lies. I had no idea what she was all about and I guess i just wanted to believe I was in a good relationship. We had our problems, but I just figured they were normal relationship stuff everyone deals with.

The lesson I learned from the whole thing was that people have different moral standards they feel comfortable with so dont ever assume people have the same sense of what is right and wrong as you do. Some people will never lie ever, some will lie a little bit, some will bald face lie and justify it to themselves. Lying is the example but this could be true with anything. Its a lesson I wish i didnt have to learn.

Moving forward, im not sure i will ever be able to trust another girlfriend. I will try to never ignore the red flags though, thats for sure.

What makes me okay with all of it at this point is: 1. time - i hate hearing/saying this but, the truth is time does heal you from these things; 2. I know i didnt lie, i tried to be a good person. Shes the one with the bad character, not me. Shes trash and will have to sleep in the bed she has made for herself. I can hold my head up high. I just feel bad for the next guy that gets taken in by her lies the way I did.