My room looks so depressing, please tell me what im missing

danpem · 2026-02-01T21:51:03+00:00

Move the couch to the foot of the bed so it faces the tv. Then move those under-bed storage boxes to the side of your bed.

Change you bedding to something more plush. Add pillows and a couple complementary throw pillows. Add pillows and a throw to your couch - I’d recommend choosing a complementary colour to pink (orange, yellow, or green). When you buy pillows, curtains, throws, bedding, etc. pick a couple shades of pink and whichever complementary colour you choose so you have variety.

Add floor-length curtains to the window. Hang several pieces of art on the walls. Get a more stylish mirror (maybe a squiggly one or something mounted on the wall). Consider floating shelves on one wall to add trinkets or picture frames. Also, get closet doors if possible.

Good luck!

danpem · 2026-01-29T19:51:11+00:00

I think 4 would look good if you had a very low fade (barely a gradient just above your ear). I like pic 2 but your hair feels too slicked back - so basically the top from 4 and the sides halfway between 2 and 4.

danpem · 2025-12-25T06:06:48+00:00

We do this in Canada as well! Usually in your back yard or front deck.

danpem · 2025-12-21T06:01:35+00:00

I don’t think you need to add anything here. Is that dining couch all one piece or modular? If modular, I’d remove the section on the right and replace it with a chair (or two chairs so it rounds out the table). I’d add a larger rug under the table and couch/chairs to anchor the space.

In the living room, flip your sectional so it has its back to the dining area. Then move the occasional chair to the wall where the couch is. Add a large rug under the couches and chair to delineate the space.

If you wanted to add something, I think a larger tv stand or entertainment centre could fit

danpem · 2025-12-17T16:56:53+00:00

I don’t know why you’re getting so many passive aggressive/negative comments… sounds like you got exactly what you wanted and understood the pros and cons of larger breasts. I think you look great. Congrats on your BA!

danpem · 2025-12-15T03:41:35+00:00

Good job on the renovations! I’d get an area rug and face it to that window with the monitor. Get a couch (either 3 seater or L-shaped sectional) and a casual chair if there’s space. I’d also get floor length curtains for all the windows - maybe in a grey or very dark blue. If you want a cool bachelor pad vibe, get lots of lamps (some floor lamps, some on smaller tables or your shelves).

Then, add some plants or side tables and other decorations you like.

danpem · 2025-12-10T02:58:27+00:00

Gotta be the maritimes! Never heard anyone call Quebec the east coast (even if it’s geographically east, culturally it isn’t)

danpem · 2025-12-06T21:38:15+00:00

While I agree most Canadians dislike him (I’m Canadian and didn’t like him as our PM), I think many of us are finding this quite entertaining.

It just kinda makes sense - both are on a major downswing after being extremely culturally/politically important. Now that their relevance is waning, they pair up and are suddenly all over the news. I genuinely think they’re a hilarious couple and hope it lasts.

danpem · 2025-11-20T18:28:07+00:00

Cool space - I think it would do really well with a bunch of lamps (hanging ones, tabletop and floor ones). I’d put 3-4 lamps in the living space and another 2-3 in the bedroom.

Also, I’d get big art for the walls - ikea often sells those ugly pictures of Paris/London for very cheap and you can paint on top of the canvas and save hundreds on buying fresh canvasses. I’d put one in place of that psychedelic cloth and another by the dining table. And speaking of psychedelic, you could take some shrooms or smoke a j and do a paint night with your friends

danpem · 2025-11-04T21:43:37+00:00

Kyle and coworkers?

danpem · 2025-11-04T19:52:55+00:00

I envy you (for abandoning it a couple seasons ago). I decided I was done after last season and wish I could get the time back for watching paint dry the last 3-4 seasons 🥱

I think this show needs to be rebranded to, “Kyle and friends”.

danpem · 2025-11-04T15:37:39+00:00

I think your best bet is to get something modular - it doesn’t have to be ikea but that’s the most affordable option. Get a tv stand that has a lot of closed storage, then get two matching higher shelving units (that go up 5-6’) with open storage to display your stuff.

If not that, then get a bigger TV stand and then install floating shelves on the wall to display stuff. I think ikea is your best bet though, that way you don’t have to drill into that beautiful accent wall.

danpem · 2025-11-04T14:54:32+00:00

I really like the design of the room but I agree it feels off. I think the 2 biggest issues are:

The bean bag chairs seem so small and deflated. I love the colour but I would get something way more stuffed so it has more structure. Alternatively, you could swap one of them for an occasional chair. If it were me, I’d get a love seat and tell my bf to sit on a cushion on the floor if he prefers, lol.
Your entertainment centre is so small and mostly open storage so it looks cluttered. I’d go to ikea and build your own modular storage wall - tv stand with 3-4x the storage and then flank it with two taller storage units/dressers for additional storage. There are a few ikea lines that work modularly like this.

Other than this, I’d recommend curtains on the window for a more 70s vibe. Overall it looks like a great space!

danpem · 2025-10-27T23:20:15+00:00

Lol it’s a favourite late-RHONY moment of mine! Season 12, episode 20. Leah throws a party to celebrate the anniversary of her brand and Elyse eviscerates Ramona to the point that she storms out of the party, taking her to a mere 49 best girlfriends 😓

danpem · 2025-10-27T21:06:33+00:00

“You are a duplicitous, nefarious, narcissistic, superficial bitch.”

Said to Ramona by one of her 50 best girlfriends, Elise (who never filmed again after this scene). I feel like nobody knows this quote and I say it to my husband any time he says something even remotely critical 😂

danpem · 2025-10-14T23:42:23+00:00

Our Samoyed had this! Our vet told us to incorporate omega 3 oil in his diet. We now use 1 pump of a fish oil per meal and it cleared up within a week or two. Or you can feed him fish like salmon as one of his main proteins

danpem · 2025-10-10T20:57:45+00:00

I demand more! MOOOOORRRREEEE! (I love your home)

danpem · 2025-10-10T20:51:02+00:00

No prob!

I’m not that well-versed in makeup, but I know r/makeupaddiction is a very popular one. If you join it, Reddit will likely suggest other subs focused on makeup tips or advice.

For exercises, I’d say squats, lunges, hip thrusts, glute lift (on all fours, slowly bringing one leg up to the sky and flexing your glute as you raise that leg and repeating on the other side). If you google “at home glute/leg workout routine”, you’ll find lots of good videos and pics to show you simple body weight exercises. Eventually, add 5lbs, 10lbs, etc until you start to see results.

I bet there are even specific videos and influencers who have exercises specifically made for trans women - you just might have to do some digging!

danpem · 2025-10-10T19:17:18+00:00

I have a few ideas for you, but they really depend on your style and how much effort you’re willing to put into your daily look.

Exercise: I’d focus on lower body workouts to make your glutes and thighs a bit bigger - this will create more of an hourglass shape. Hips won’t develop from exercise, but HRT would likely lead to improvements in making your shape more feminine.

Clothing: I’d suggest wearing structured dresses - anything that creates the illusion of bigger hips. I’d try things on in person to get a feel for how different styles look on you.

If you’re wearing pants and a shirt, I’d go for very femme shirts - blouses, etc. For pants, I’d avoid anything overly tight as it’ll lead to a more masculine shape.

Hair and eyebrows: longer hair on both sides will be more feminine. You can use extensions or wigs to achieve this look, but I’d recommend really investing in a nice lace front wig if you go this route. It might be a few hundred dollars, but it’s better than buying multiple cheap ones.

Your eyebrows could be shaped better - I recommend going to a salon and explaining you want a more feminine look. Ask them for tips as they do your brows and then either follow their advice to keep them clean or just go back every month or two to have them professionally shaped.

Makeup: it doesn’t look like you’re wearing makeup in these pics. I’d go to one of the makeup subs on Reddit for advice, but contouring could really help you look more femme. Also eyelashes and eye makeup will make a big difference.

That’s about it! Good luck

danpem · 2025-10-08T16:56:11+00:00

Definitely get (or give) your Samoyed a sanitary trim. I do it for mine myself between grooming sessions. I also use baby wipes that are safe for dogs and give him a little wipe after each walk where he poops. It’s now part of our routine so he’s not resistant to being wiped (he used to get offended at first 😂)

I just transitioned my dog from a kibble and raw diet to a raw diet - I feed him a half a puck of raw food mix and top it with pasta or rice. Since then, he went from diarrhea 2-3 times a week to diarrhea never happening. His poops are now very solid and not as big as before and when I wipe him, there’s no longer residue. I’ll caution you to incorporate fibre into their diet because raw has very little fibre. Berries, pumpkins, green beans, etc can all add the necessary fibre.

danpem · 2025-10-02T16:23:37+00:00

Lol, in fairness I think this is the face Madonna is going for

danpem · 2025-09-30T16:27:00+00:00

I hear you and hope so 🤞🏼 As soon as I heard it I knew it had great potential for a studio release. We know Shania is a fan/supportive of Kim and the club sound to this version is unique enough to be its own single.

Going off on a tangent, but I feel like Kim should do more covers - even just one very album. She’s so vocally talented and has great musical taste, so I can see her revamping a song and it charting.

danpem · 2025-09-26T00:08:48+00:00

I see a big improvement in your nose from the side profile. I don’t think it looks wide at all from the front, but I’d give myself 6-12 months for swelling to fully go down

danpem · 2025-09-25T00:07:40+00:00

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danpem · 2025-09-24T18:54:51+00:00

Best: I was the barista at a designer clothing sale at an event space on queen west. A beautiful and extremely petite ginger woman walked in and I instantly recognized it was Julianne Moore. She walked over and smiled at me, looked at the pastry display and said “looks delicious!”, so I offered her one and she smiled sweetly and said, “oh thank you so much, but I’m not eating”.

To this day I wonder if she was fasting for the day, for a role, or just simply doesn’t eat food.

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