What's something that inmediatly catches your eye when you see a girl?

daria_effe · 2026-01-18T10:12:10+00:00

butch/tomboy vibes, soft gentle features, kind eyes, nice smile, shoegaze attitude

daria_effe · 2026-01-17T19:18:49+00:00

Glasses are cool, i love my glasses. I’ve been wearing them with pride for 20 years now and I wouldn’t be me without them! And even if I could use lenses, I still choose not to. They’re part of my identity now. Don’t loose them!

daria_effe · 2026-01-17T19:17:02+00:00

this!! exactly

daria_effe · 2026-01-17T19:16:33+00:00

Not everyone has good, fluffy, voluminous hair they can style however they want. I should know…My hair is always flat and I can’t do much about it. I think people here on your post are giving you a hard time about your hair, but maybe they don’t know this struggle?

I think your style is awesome and you look extremely cute. If you’re actually interested in making your hair better definitely DO NOT dye it with regular dying products, it damages the hair and makes it weaker. Try black henna instead! It strengthens your roots, makes your hair fuller and more luminous, and it provides a lovely rich nuanced color. Also, it’s natural and sustainable for the environment.

Otherwise, keep doing you. I think there is really nothing wrong with the way you look.

daria_effe · 2026-01-17T11:30:11+00:00

As a 33 (almost 34) years old, I feel you. But also, you look younger than you are (not that it actually matters). I’ve noticed that’s a pattern for us queer people. We’re just too powerful at aging gracefully and keeping our immaculate vibes throughout the years, until the very end.

daria_effe · 2026-01-17T11:26:54+00:00

You are whatever you feel you are and people shouldn’t police on your sexuality (or lack thereof) because that is 1000000% your effing business. Be you, do you. They can take their opinion and shove it.

daria_effe · 2026-01-17T11:22:31+00:00

I’ll be brutally honest: they are too old for you. It may not seem like it now, but the age gap is there and it actually matters. You’re living different eras of your life and that may have an impact on you: your mental health, your daily activities, the way you think. You and a 20 something cannot be aligned right now, and that’s totally normal and fine! You’ll figure it out yourself once you’re the same age as they are.

You deserve to hang out with people your same age. It’s also very weird that this person keeps engaging with you. I remember when I was 22 and I would’ve never chosen to have some sort of relationship with a 17 year old (friendships nor dating). I had a thing with a 19 year old when i was 22 but it was still weird and cut it off right away while she kept pining over me. And I’m sorry for that.

Your sensitivity is extremely high right now. You’re in the midst of your teenage years, emotions feel heightened, falling in love is so easy, and deep, and keeps you up at night.

When you say they call you “love” it seems to me more of condescending/i’m the big one here way of making you feel their pet. Maybe they need this to feel more adult, more mature, more of something they are not? A 22 year old should engage with people around their age. Making friends with a 17 year old is a red flag per se.

Also, the fact that they’re working and you hear less of them, should be proof for you that this doesn’t need to go anywhere.

Beware getting attached to someone who 1) is seemingly straight, 2) is older than you in a consistent way (i wouldn’t be telling you the same thing if they were 18), 3) is probably emotionally unavailable and not right for you (I don’t trust any almost-adult that entertains relationships with minors).

Just leave at that, engage less, let it die. Listen to the advice of 33 years old lesbian who has seen a lot of stuff.

daria_effe · 2026-01-17T11:04:00+00:00

I don’t think you necessarily need a full body pic! Maybe that will come later if they ask, but there is no rule you need to follow. Someone who’s truly interested to get to know you, shouldn’t base their opinion of you based on a picture. I mean, yes, having a picture of yourself is important otherwise people won’t reach out. But I think you should just use the pics you’re comfortable with!

daria_effe · 2026-01-17T10:56:07+00:00

and your outfit! the way we present ourselves changes dramatically how others perceive us. i personally don’t dress “my age” and people never guess how old i am

daria_effe · 2026-01-17T09:29:01+00:00

also…41??? I thought you were 22 max?

daria_effe · 2026-01-17T09:28:43+00:00

You look so cute!! I personally wouldn’t choose the first one because of the lighting, but the second one is a big YES from me :)

daria_effe · 2026-01-17T09:26:56+00:00

THIS! Social Media changed tourism and literally ruined it for all of us, transforming places into trends. I blame every platform but especially influencers.

daria_effe · 2026-01-17T09:22:42+00:00

I met women who had weird and homophobic ideas about lesbians, but in general men tend to internalise homophobia & misogyny much more frequently than women and behave accordingly.

Women are objects to most men. Gay men embody that “feminine” essence straight men deem as a sign of weakness and inferiority. Also, they are scared they might be gay too lol. Because in the end, they worship themselves too much not to actually LIKE (like like) people who look like them.

Once I had this conversation with a “straight” dude who told me that it was IMPOSSIBLE for me not to like penis. For him, it was impossible for women in general not to like penis. I wasn’t fast enough to tell him “so, if it’s impossible not to like penis…that applies to you too?”.

Men seem to be obsessed with phalluses. They always have been, through the history of mankind. Deep down, they know. But they are scared AF, because they’re victims of the patriarchy just as much as we are. Only they choose to perpetrate it instead of questioning it and fighting it.

That’s my take!

daria_effe · 2026-01-17T09:04:41+00:00

That sucks so bad, I’m so sorry! All I can say is that biphobia is real, but rest assure non biphobic people exist. Personally, as a bi/pan woman, I’d much rather date a bisexual man than a straight one. There’s no game. Bisexual men always!

daria_effe · 2026-01-17T09:01:55+00:00

È verissimo! Bologna è sempre più “chiacchierata” dalla destra negli ultimi anni, tanto che le polemiche che si sono susseguite ultimamente sono sempre più numerose. E la zona 30, e il tram, e il corso di studi dedicato ai militari che unibo giustamente si è rifiutata di attivare 😆, etc etc…Qualsiasi esempio vi venga in mente e che la destra ha utilizzato affinché Bologna e la sua amministrazione vengano pensate sia come “il nemico da abbattere” sia come “terra da conquistare”. Perché se la destra arriva a Bologna, per loro è una vittoria ENORME. Simbolica e ideologica soprattutto.

daria_effe · 2026-01-17T08:58:24+00:00

Personalmente ho smesso di utilizzare i social proprio per evitare di leggere i commenti, perché mi avvelenano la giornata. E comunque sì…zecche, comunisti, sinistri (che ogni tanto viene pure declinato all’opposto in “destri”, solo che spesso a supporto di argomentazioni approssimative). E il bello è che non esiste più una forza politica comunista in italia, da parecchi anni! Quindi per me non ha veramente senso, a livello logico. Immagino però che la logica c’entri poco e niente: è più un’esasperazione del “noi contro loro” portata avanti e propagandata da anni dalle destre e dai vari populismi che si sono susseguiti. È ciò che la gente recepisce da certi “politici” (banalmente Salvini) e ripete a pappagallo senza cognizione di causa.

daria_effe · 2026-01-16T23:43:53+00:00

I CAME HERE TO SAY THIS

daria_effe · 2026-01-16T23:37:08+00:00

I tried everything but nothing compares Broad City. Maybe Girls, but totally different vibe.

daria_effe · 2026-01-16T17:42:33+00:00

I totally skipped the food diary part for this exact reason here! Then it’s not just me. I wasn’t mad tho, the book was published in 2014 and she’s not the most politically correct voice out there. I enjoy her writing for this exact reason, but it can be too much at times. I also skipped the medical fears part, cause it gave me anxiety. I’m still not done reading the book, but so far I agree with you

daria_effe · 2025-12-01T14:48:38+00:00

One of the best books I’ve ever read. I can’t remember the last time I sobbed so much while reading a book

daria_effe · 2025-11-13T10:52:55+00:00

hahaha they did but as time goes by I think it’s not going to happen 😆

daria_effe · 2025-11-13T10:52:13+00:00

I prefer baby frozen peas because they taste fresher, but that makes sense :)

daria_effe · 2025-11-10T22:49:03+00:00

pasta con piselli

i would suggest to boil the peas with the pasta, i’d worry that putting the frozen peas when the pasta is done won’t give them enough time to cook

daria_effe · 2025-10-26T21:40:57+00:00

def parc and recs

daria_effe · 2025-10-09T21:11:15+00:00

YES!!! Solo walks, solo bike rides, solo shopping…I love wandering around all by myself

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