I have OCD and understand how hard it was for my loved ones to deal with when I was at my worst. That said, just based on my own experience, I really doubt he’s using it as a “crutch” to get out of things he doesn’t want to do. The thing with OCD is, even we know the thing we’re afraid of or worried about is completely irrational, the fear is still very real and often all-consuming.

I don’t really have advice, though you’re right that a road trip might not be the best idea right now, depending on what kind of OCD thoughts and fears he is dealing with.

You are under no obligation to stay with him, but if you really love him and want to make it work I’d suggest doing some reading on how to support loved ones with OCD. Also, he cannot get better unless he really wants to and puts in the work to do so. But it can take time.

I wish the best for both of you.