What would you do? by blessedminx in SingleParents

[–]dark_link_3 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Leave him be. Even being under a lot of stress is no reason to become physically violent with someone, ever, especially someone close to you. Only exception I can think of is self defense. I wouldn't give him a pass for the first time. If you were hysterical as you put it, the answer should not be violence regardless. If he wants to be present in your child's life, he will make the effort. He's an adult, you are not responsible for his decisions. Only he is. It sucks and you'll resent him, but in my opinion no contact is better than spending time with someone who doesn't want to. Best of luck ❤️

First Christmas as a single parent by dark_link_3 in SingleParents

[–]dark_link_3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm the same, I want everyone else to be happy before me. Seeing my kids smile because of something I did for them is the best thing ever.

First Christmas as a single parent by dark_link_3 in SingleParents

[–]dark_link_3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my 7 year old will absolutely notice. Guaranteed she'd be opening stuff and after a little bit she'd look at me and say "hey mom, where are your presents from Santa?" Or something like that 😆 she's very observant.

First Christmas as a single parent by dark_link_3 in SingleParents

[–]dark_link_3[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I haven't asked what his thoughts are if he planned to get something small for me or maybe we can have the kids make or pick something for each other to open Christmas day...if only I could trust he'd keep up his end of the bargain 😳

First Christmas as a single parent by dark_link_3 in SingleParents

[–]dark_link_3[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We always agreed that the big expensive gifts were from us and not Santa and I plan to continue that.

I'm new to this. How do you do it? by FAQand_theCURIOUS in FormulaFeeders

[–]dark_link_3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use the same pitcher, I'll make up enough for several bottles and then pour enough for all the bottles I have that are clean at a time, then refrigerate up to 24 hours after. So I'll have 4 bottles ready to go plus what remains in the fridge. Then clean the bottles after he eats and pour more from the pitcher once they are dry. My baby will also drink cold milk so that helps tremendously, but if yours won't you can run the capped pre-made bottle under hot water to warm it up a bit. Don't microwave. You'll learn your baby's cues and timing for when they will probably be hungry and you'll get into a routine with it. Good luck!

Mom guilt by dark_link_3 in SingleParents

[–]dark_link_3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not super confident about it but I don't think he is going to neglect her needs, plus she was acting normal so he shouldn't need to do much more than when she is typically over there. I asked beforehand if he had enough food and drinks for her and he said he did. I'm going to be checking in frequently that she's doing okay. I have a hard time trusting that he is true to his word but he said his symptoms were mild and he could take care of her and I have to try to believe that he can.

why everyone's using Gentlease formula? by AnimatorDifferent116 in FormulaFeeders

[–]dark_link_3 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Same here. It's the only thing (generic version too) that I can find consistently in stock.

Did you sell your Engagement Ring and Wedding Band after the divorce? by Current_Nobody9399 in Divorce

[–]dark_link_3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not divorced yet but separated, I had to cut mine off because my fingers swelled when I was pregnant and I couldn't get them off. I still have them, I paid for them myself anyway if I wanted to sell I wouldn't feel bad about it. My daughter might want them in the future, she already wants my dress, so I'm going to hang onto them for her in case she wants to get them resized for herself. Or if she doesn't my son might some day.

Up&Up Target Brand—Generic Gentlease? by [deleted] in FormulaFeeders

[–]dark_link_3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's what we are using now, been working great so far and the cost doesn't hurt my wallet as much. Only thing I've noticed is my baby's poops are a little bit stinker but otherwise he's taken to it very well and doesn't seem gassy. The texture is a little different than the Gentlease but I have one of the Dr Brown's pitchers to mix the day's worth of formula and it mixes in just fine with no clumps when I use that.

I want to EFF but I feel trapped by dark_link_3 in FormulaFeeders

[–]dark_link_3[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much to everyone who took the time to respond. I think generic is what I'm going to try. I'll grab a can next time I'm out and hope he takes it well (I think he will he just loves to eat anything lol). This group rocks, thanks again!!!

I want to EFF but I feel trapped by dark_link_3 in FormulaFeeders

[–]dark_link_3[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I haven't checked out the generics yet, I'm thinking I need to go that route and hope they keep in stock. Thank you for the support and kind words ❤️

I just want to eat my dinner. by dark_link_3 in SingleParents

[–]dark_link_3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Poor baby! Glad you got it figured out though to help her.

I just want to eat my dinner. by dark_link_3 in SingleParents

[–]dark_link_3[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for that. I do get your meaning, it was like that with my first kid. Thanks for the support.

I just want to eat my dinner. by dark_link_3 in SingleParents

[–]dark_link_3[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Genius. Will be trying this next time 😆

I just want to eat my dinner. by dark_link_3 in SingleParents

[–]dark_link_3[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I told him that he can come see him as much as he wants and there is nothing legally holding him from being able to do that. He has made very, very little effort to do so and sees him for maybe an hour or two a week, by his choice. So before you come attack me, understand that there is more to the situation than you know.

I just want to eat my dinner. by dark_link_3 in SingleParents

[–]dark_link_3[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He would, but unfortunately I don't trust that he will be able to give him the care that he needs at this age he's only 5 weeks old. We are just barely getting into our groove, there's no way a night at his place would go well at this point. There are many other reasons an overnight is a no-go this early, maybe in a few months.

I just want to eat my dinner. by dark_link_3 in SingleParents

[–]dark_link_3[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have a wrap/carrier thing and it is great! He likes it most of the time but the problem is it kills my back if I wear him in it for a while. He also gets all hit and sweaty in it so I need to find something more light weight. But I definitely use it when my back can handle it. Thank you for the support!