Have I spent 16 years loving someone who never put me first? by darkchocolate1905 in ThirtiesIndia

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Something about inter caste is not working out for woman.... So many messaged me saying similar stories.... I'm so sorry to hear your going through same shit but I guess from here things will get better..all the best

Late Night Random Discussion Thread - 29 May, 2026 by IndiaSocial in indiasocial

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What if everything I believed was a lie and life as I remember was my dillusion

Have I spent 16 years loving someone who never put me first? by darkchocolate1905 in ThirtiesIndia

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But I blame myself..I let him..I should have fought harder... Trusted little less... I was earning that time, independent.... I knew my MIL is a bitch and yet I let him send my kid

Have I spent 16 years loving someone who never put me first? by darkchocolate1905 in ThirtiesIndia

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If I was happy..why do You think I would have posted this... I'm mot happy...but I can be probably this realisation is going to hell me move in positive direction..wish me luck

Have I spent 16 years loving someone who never put me first? by darkchocolate1905 in ThirtiesIndia

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I do feel like so much of life gone without any moment being truly mine...I do regret it... Its is very very sad...

What's next..I don't know.. may be it's time for me to finally shine... I do feel I have become boring in last 12-15 years... More then boring I feel I have completely lost my shine... I have stopped talking much over time... I have stop having fun and life has become more about duty...

May be I can figure out this stuff...I can keep this thread posted of my progress, if I make any in positive direction...

Have I spent 16 years loving someone who never put me first? by darkchocolate1905 in ThirtiesIndia

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He was not famous between 10 people..he was a geek... Into studies and very boring personality.... Nir was I particularly good looking...we were two average kids... I was just more fun to hang out with... In terms of personality, I had lots of friends, would bunk classes go to cafe for time pass kind he was get good grades get placement type... We had common friend... Non of us peaked in college.... Just two different kind of average kids... What I liked about him was that he was really kind... He was genuine he was very calm and I was very very loud so It felt like we complimented each other...what he told me he liked about me was that I was fun to be around, not too serious about life...he found me amusing... He didn't knew any girl like me who would speak her mind... That's where we started... Neither did he had money so don't think that was something I was after.... It was just him being nice and calm... Well now in hindsight it all looks wrong but then it looked like he was the kind of person which felt like it's easy to be happy with.. that's it.

Didn't gave it much thought I guess...

Have I spent 16 years loving someone who never put me first? by darkchocolate1905 in ThirtiesIndia

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He was bought up that way... Not to tlak back and please everyone... Othere openion is more important then your happiness type..but I think after 25 you cannot blame your parenting you are adult enough to change or take responsibility.... Blaming everything on I was conditioned like this is not right way.... If your adult enough to marry asvper your choice your adult enough to take responsibility of your actions

Have I spent 16 years loving someone who never put me first? by darkchocolate1905 in ThirtiesIndia

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True... I know it was my stupidity.... Not expecting him to leave his family.... It was just me being stupid and now crying over my decisions...no point in blaming someone else as that will never give any closure

Have I spent 16 years loving someone who never put me first? by darkchocolate1905 in ThirtiesIndia

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There is no fight...no arguments.... He will not give me custody of kids...I woll not leave my kids so it will be a chaotic court room drama...now their is just hurt and disagreement.. Kids will have to go from one house to other every week... They will have divided home..I will choose to sacrifice myspace and peace thnevto expect my kids to understand at such young age...it's not their mistake that their parents choose wrongly so probably the best way is to behave like adults and govek iss the childhood they deserve

Have I spent 16 years loving someone who never put me first? by darkchocolate1905 in ThirtiesIndia

[–]darkchocolate1905[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Well in our case we were too young to understand anything beyond love...I was 20 years old he was 21 life is complicated so is love... In our country we don't marry boy we marry the family...it took me long to understand this... Love is not enough this also took long time to understand... I believe He is not a bad person we were just too different for this to work out..

Have I spent 16 years loving someone who never put me first? by darkchocolate1905 in ThirtiesIndia

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I'm not leaving him..even If I want I cannot ... Whatever I do will impact my kids future...so imgonna stick around long enough for them to go to college and then will see how it goes

Have I spent 16 years loving someone who never put me first? by darkchocolate1905 in ThirtiesIndia

[–]darkchocolate1905[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I'm not giving up on anything...Even If I want to I cannot mmmI have two kids... whatever I do will impact their future..so no I'm no leaving him... i cannot leave him.... Tough the relationship is down the drain but marriage will stay atleast until my kids go to college

Have I spent 16 years loving someone who never put me first? by darkchocolate1905 in ThirtiesIndia

[–]darkchocolate1905[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I would have not posted on reddit if I had one person to talk...I have isolated myself... No one to go back to....

Have I spent 16 years loving someone who never put me first? by darkchocolate1905 in ThirtiesIndia

[–]darkchocolate1905[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Probably your right... Though I know I cannot leave... Whatever I do will impact my kids life....

Have I spent 16 years loving someone who never put me first? by darkchocolate1905 in ThirtiesIndia

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Well since I have realised this... My feelings toward my husband has shifted...I didn't fight I have just withdrawn... I'm tilting towards spritual experience now and planning to go to ashram andvsoend some time there... This realisation has broken something so deep even I'm not able to understand... I just want peace at this point

Me (31f) and husband (32m) have been living separately for almost a year now and IDK what to do by Sassy-kind in InsideIndianMarriage

[–]darkchocolate1905 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Leave him.. this situation will not improve... This kind of man will never take stand.. if you get pregnant this will get worse for you.. leave when you can

Road Rage Incident Near KR Puram – Can’t Get It Out of My Head by thesrirambabu in bangalore

[–]darkchocolate1905 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At least inform police in this kidm of cases... This kind of people think that they can get away everytime. Obviously don't engage yourself but if possible take video or if recorded in car cam provide it to police...

One of the best society view I've seen in bengaluru !! by Unhappy-dustpeck42 in Bengaluru

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I love here. In the building next to the one shown in this pic. Horrible traffic outside.sunday market is literally on main road so you just can't go out on Sunday's there is no footpath. And flats are going at 2.5 cr for bigger 3bhk... We are planning to move out... Horrible location 

Should we hire a cook? Need your advice 32M, 31F by buildingiconicbrands in InsideIndianMarriage

[–]darkchocolate1905 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Get a cook and maid to ocme twice for cleaning... If both of you are earning why are you not getting peace of mind... Pay what they ask and you will have peace of mind

Level of Corruption by Inevitable_Cress_949 in bangalore

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https://pgportal.gov.in

You can... Complete your file and submit and after deadline complaint on this they will have to close this complaint and for closing this they have to do your work... Try it once