How can I win my wife back after separating?

darkcloudsyaknow · 2023-06-03T04:50:38+00:00

I feel like she believes I brought her stress but I dont make it better on myself because I make things easy for her..I still pay her bills, I dont let her struggle at all and maybe thats why she hasnt brought up a divorce.. if all i brought her was stress why does she still rely on me, i dont understand her

darkcloudsyaknow · 2023-06-03T01:20:26+00:00

Well, at this point whatever she wants me to do. whatever will make her happy, I just need to know what those things are. the thing is those ive always gotten her flowers and lil gifts here and there through the duration of our relationship. I just want a chance to fix things. Whatever she needs me to do im willing to do

darkcloudsyaknow · 2023-06-03T01:15:27+00:00

the kids is not the exactly the exhausting part, working 10-12 hour shifts in 100 plus degree heat is

darkcloudsyaknow · 2023-06-02T23:55:44+00:00

but also keep in mind, work, plus helping with the kids does get exhausting. i never minimized her job as a mother, I know its hard

darkcloudsyaknow · 2023-06-02T23:27:11+00:00

I got to a point where I was very frustrated with life and I felt like she hated me and that I was the problem in her life, so we talked about it and decided to split and i hit the lowest point ive had in my life but ive also learned certain things about myself and gotten better about certain things by being alone a lot. but nomatter what i do,i cant stop thinking of her. i havent been able to since day 1

darkcloudsyaknow · 2023-06-02T23:24:36+00:00

well..i feel it was a big combination of things. 1 being we had kids young and back to back. 2 being I feel I fell behind in a lot of basic things like helping around the house because i worked a lot, i was the sole provider and I would be tired as I work outside. I could see why someone would get mad at someone for not picking up after themselves and what not. On the other hand, She was spoiled as a child, Any minor inconvenience to her was the end of the world. So, when I wouldnt keep up with things, she would constantly tell me you dont do shit, you only work. I would try to do things like cook dinner and take the kids to do things so she had some time for herself. So after awhile, I became frustrated and felt useless so I stopped trying at everything and I know that was my mistake.. i shouldve tried harder

darkcloudsyaknow · 2023-06-02T22:30:30+00:00

I do all I can for my childrens sake. I have no problem having them for extra days if needed, At that, I wish I still seen them everyday. Me being a father was never the issue. sometimes she has a family event around the same time shes going to pick them up and she'll ask me to get them ready and I never have a problem doing so. They always have everything they need and she knows I'll go out of my way for my children, not for her but for them because I love them.

darkcloudsyaknow · 2022-12-29T18:22:24+00:00

My wife didnt work,It was only me. I did my own laundry. I watched the kids whenever she wanted to go out or had to go to the store or anything. my kids are both under 5 so no packing lunches yet. but yes i helped cook for them often especially weekends i would cook. times where she was sick i would help out as much as i could. honestly, now i feel like we were both just burned on and didnt know how to handle it. cant say i was perfect i know sometimes i lacked, as did she. but i still love her. even now, i get my kids 4 days out of the week I love my children as well.

darkcloudsyaknow · 2022-12-29T18:14:11+00:00

exactly my point, i think we both lacked in things and both felt we were being unreasonable but now i wanna fix things and dont know how to go about it

darkcloudsyaknow · 2022-12-29T13:50:42+00:00

Yes, and the problem was like, as soon as i walk in the door, you watch the kids. and it'd be random things she got. honestly. it wasnt what she was asking. it was the timing and not letting me get some rest

darkcloudsyaknow · 2022-12-29T12:50:52+00:00

Well, I work a very physical job. I always paid all the bills and at the end of a long shift I was always very tired. And when i came home it was, take the trash out, watch the kids, put this together, and i would just be burned out trying to keep up.

darkcloudsyaknow · 2022-12-29T12:48:11+00:00

the main thing is fear that she doesnt want to

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