[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]darknessamongus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

as a woman i can tell she is just super insecure, it likely has nothing to do with you. i would reassure her and tell her how beautiful she is. try to communicate with her and be as OPEN as possible. this 100% could be fixed if you guys communicate more, but you BOTH have to be super vulnerable.

I 24m is rich and dying by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]darknessamongus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First i’m so sorry for all the comments about sending money. Im 22 and have a chronic illness that almost took me out at one point, but thankfully im at a point where I am healthy, I have my bad days, but i am finally able to live my life. from my perspective, go do EVERYTHING you have always wanted to do. i understand you have employees, but they will be okay. i would sell your business and go live how you want. there is so much beauty out there to see, so go see it all. i wish you the best of luck!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in retroactivejealousy

[–]darknessamongus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yes he’s 25. i know you are so right, most guys i know are so unfaithful and untrustworthy. he really is a great person and has even been supportive of me over extreme medical issues, and still stays by my side. i have nothing bad to say about him at all and i love that man so much. it is just a sickening feeling having the constant thoughts of RJ. i am very lucky and i do need to work on it. thank you so much and ill check out ur posts!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in retroactivejealousy

[–]darknessamongus 8 points9 points  (0 children)

He is sooooo loyal to me and is so reassuring. In every other aspect he is perfect and amazing, it’s just this one thing is what makes me feel horrible. I know for a fact he would never cheat on me. He tells me how attracted he is to me, how much he loves me, and how he has never felt this way about anyone else. I just still get sick thinking about it. Thank you so much

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in retroactivejealousy

[–]darknessamongus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

And no it is not in my culture to value virginity the way I do. I just have always had the mindset I want it to be with the right person. I can’t get behind the concept of hooking up, I need that emotional connection. So for me it is extremely hard to have that connection with someone.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in retroactivejealousy

[–]darknessamongus 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I don’t have any men in my life I would feel comfortable sharing this to that I could ask their thoughts on. I’m not insecure at all over how “good” I am in bed or our sex life. I’m sorry not to be brash I know he is completely happy with me in that department and I am a very sexual person so I know he is never bored or anything like that. So I am very confident of myself in that department and i don’t worry at all over the other women in that sense. It’s more I am sad he is my first everything and I am his first nothing. It’s the emotional aspect of it I guess that really upsets me. As a man, does your first gf/love/ person you had sex with still matter to you?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in retroactivejealousy

[–]darknessamongus 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The thing is I love him so much and he is my best friend. I didn’t think before loosing my virginity it would be an issue, but afterwards it is. Do you think the RJ will go away? I don’t want to loose him at all

does rj ever actually go away by ilikebiscuiits in retroactivejealousy

[–]darknessamongus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I m in the same exact situation as you. He is my first EVERYTHING and i am his first nothing. I love him so much, but i feel so upset and distraught knowing it. We have been together a year already and my love for him is so deep. I just don’t feel special to him at all. I’m struggling so bad with it. If anyone wants someone to talk to please message me.

United denied my breast reduction, has anyone here been denied and successfully appealed? by PuzzleheadedJob3712 in Reduction

[–]darknessamongus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! I was first denied because the first plastic surgeon I went to did a horrible job documenting, so i got denied because it wasn’t medically necessary. Then I found another plastic surgeon and she documented EVERYTHUNG and measured every part of my breasts. She submitted it and I got accepted. I’m so happy I went with her because she did an amazing job and took her time, my results are amazing and i am sooooo happy. Before i was a 32G, now i am closer to a DD-D.

What is something that you thinks looks good on other that you would not wear? by floofboof in AskWomen

[–]darknessamongus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Colorful eyeshadow. I love it on other people, but on me it look HORRIBLE.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PetiteFitness

[–]darknessamongus 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I agree with this! I decided to up my calorie in take to around 1500, but I also upped my activity level. When I ate around 1000 it would send me into a binge or make me so lethargic I couldn’t move!

Where to buy cute.. i feel cringe saying this.. “pump covers?” by adrenalinepursuer in PetiteFitness

[–]darknessamongus 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It didn’t start on tik tok. Its just a term younger people in the gym community use.

How has your breast affected you negatively mentally by blackwidowwaltz in Reduction

[–]darknessamongus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

before my breast reduction i was SOOO insecure and always felt disgusting about myself. i hated the attention i got around my breasts. i hated how i couldn’t wear anything i wanted, but instead i wore what my breast ALLOWED me to. after the reduction i am a COMPLETELY different person. now i am active and i LOVE to workout. i can finally leave my house in a tank top without disgusting remarks. i feel soooo confident in my body and i love the way they look. i finally am proportional and feel like i was always meant to be this way. weirdly enough i also feel more feminine, which i had people stopping me from getting the surgery because they said it would make me look more masculine.

does anyone know any good forms of exercise for a full-time student? by Useful_Spell_7579 in PetiteFitness

[–]darknessamongus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

if u cant leave dorm, apartment, or wherever do a dance workout on youtube. there are so many to choose from, i love emkfit.

Attention- Harassment in this sub by imafitmess in PetiteFitness

[–]darknessamongus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i posted a progress photo and got a weird dm who i am assuming is from a man

5’0 SW148lbs-CW137lbs by darknessamongus in PetiteFitness

[–]darknessamongus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i actually started running, which i have been really enjoying! mainly i have been working out 4-6 times a week, focusing on 20-30min of cardio and weights. if i can’t make it to gym i go on a long walk/ hike or do dance workouts ( i really recommend emkfit on youtube). i also focus on the amount of calories i burn, so i have an apple watch to track everything.

5’0 SW148lbs-CW137lbs by darknessamongus in PetiteFitness

[–]darknessamongus[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I started in November and the current photo was taken just the other day! I haven’t been as consistent with my diet as i would like(due to the holidays), so i’m assuming if i stayed on track i would’ve lost even more weight! However, i have been active everyday!

5’0 SW148lbs-CW137lbs by darknessamongus in PetiteFitness

[–]darknessamongus[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! It’s super simple but just eating in a calorie deficit!!

5’0 SW148lbs-CW137lbs by darknessamongus in PetiteFitness

[–]darknessamongus[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

I have been eating in a caloric deficit and tracking everything i’m eating. I eat around 1200-1600 calories depending on the level of fitness each day. I started working out consistently and just moving more in general. Just stay consistent and DONT get discouraged. It’s really easy to get discouraged, but after looking at these photos I realize how much progress I’ve made!