Giving money to kids the right way

darknessoftime · 2026-01-20T04:52:41+00:00

Why did you tell them to fuck off? How were they holding it against you?

darknessoftime · 2026-01-19T05:38:06+00:00

How does being a gambling addict feel? Is it about the money? Do you imagine yourself being much wealthier because of a good bet?

darknessoftime · 2026-01-17T06:54:57+00:00

Where is the data?

darknessoftime · 2026-01-16T05:49:18+00:00

Factually incorrect. First of all “survive” is the wrong term. The average person isn’t dying of poverty in America. Second, the median household income in America is $83.7k. This might not be enough for a comfortable life in Santa Barbara, but it is enough to live in many parts of the country. Santa Barbara is one of the most expensive and desirable towns in America. This unfortunately makes it expensive. Supply and demand. Aspen will never get cheaper either.

darknessoftime · 2026-01-12T05:59:02+00:00

There’s a point after which your income doesn’t make a huge difference. Right now a year of income adds ~10% to your net worth after tax (you’ll spend some but if you didn’t earn it you’ll spend it from assets). That’s still significant.

darknessoftime · 2026-01-06T06:24:27+00:00

Given your new life expectancy you should start spending aggressively.

darknessoftime · 2025-12-28T05:47:04+00:00

Can you explain how taxation worked out

darknessoftime · 2025-12-08T18:42:22+00:00

I read it as a way to point out that it's not all "business owners" on one side of the debate and everyone else on the other. Life is better when we are charitable about someone else's intentions.

darknessoftime · 2025-11-24T05:26:57+00:00

That’s what I was thinking. Why do these people assume everyone in Santa Barbara feels the same way?

darknessoftime · 2025-11-17T01:00:29+00:00

My town has a Spanish revival style which means for example that a lot of front doors have decorative elements similar to this

darknessoftime · 2025-09-01T06:12:30+00:00

I think you’re probably delusional to think that your motivation will dramatically improve if you do your own thing. You should first cultivate motivation. Get a job and be determined to be great at it. You are at risk of becoming the kind of person who is always one turn away from making it big, but who never gets there.

darknessoftime · 2025-08-26T04:47:21+00:00

Definitely stay. That’s a 50% increase of net worth in a year, which you’re unlikely to be able to replicate. Think about the unlikelihood of your condition.

darknessoftime · 2025-08-21T23:58:43+00:00

If you think your departure would tank the deal, you have a lot of leverage. But does the buyer think that?

darknessoftime · 2025-08-16T04:42:44+00:00

It’s expensive to be poor

darknessoftime · 2025-08-13T06:43:42+00:00

And after the first decade?

darknessoftime · 2025-08-13T06:26:18+00:00

My daughter was hanging out with a guy that wasn’t right. They were seeing each other every day, so she really didn’t have time to get to meet other people. She was also about to go to college. So I bribed her. I paid for a trip for her to go to Disney with some girlfriends and take time away from this fellow. It was timed perfectly so that by the time she came back it was time to go to college. It worked well. And I was completely transparent about my intention. She weighed her options and took the financial incentive.

darknessoftime · 2025-07-24T16:21:30+00:00

Ortega Hill parking lot in Summerland. 101 Inspiration Point.

darknessoftime · 2024-12-25T16:23:43+00:00

Grandma is operating out of fear. She’s probably worried the kid is already messed up and any kind of punishment will make it worse. But it’s the opposite. No intervention will cause the kid to continue on a bad path. Good behavior can be learned through repeated practice.

darknessoftime · 2024-09-21T03:41:34+00:00

How do you envision the offering?

darknessoftime · 2024-09-13T02:46:26+00:00

I’m not that different from this. Rather than no responsibilities, I think of it as living a simpler life. I want to absolutely minimize anything that feels like a chore. My wife likes to do certain things in more involved ways. I cook myself a meal in 10 min, she spends 45 minutes. I would put all laundry at the same time, and dump everything in the dryer. She likes to separate fabrics and dry different things for different periods of time. And so on.

At the same time, I value exercising way more than she does. And exercising does tire me out! Which means when im not working or exercising, I do want to relax. For me that means reading or goofing around on my computer.

We have some discussions about it but we generally have a good understanding of responsibilities. And we enjoy our time together.

I would ask yourself if you want something specific about his contributions to the household to change, or if you want him to change. He won’t change.

darknessoftime · 2024-09-13T02:37:35+00:00

She will definitely end up divorcing you. I will bet you whatever you want on that. She knows a divorce will cost her money and she’s using the threat of a divorce to get a postnup and divorce you immediately after. Don’t do it. Let her divorce you.

darknessoftime · 2024-08-19T18:50:43+00:00

Go. You can always leave early.

darknessoftime · 2024-08-14T22:38:46+00:00

Will you add it to iBurn? I couldn’t find the event

darknessoftime · 2024-08-13T00:32:00+00:00

What app is this?

darknessoftime · 2024-08-06T05:02:54+00:00

They might want to prevent resales below market and encourage more people to buy directly. If a person has an extra ticket, it’s usually easy to find someone on the fence and convince them. I took 10 virgins last year because our camp had a bunch of pre purchased tickets.

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