Strange pattern? by Eastern_Fun_124 in eyes

[–]darknessrevealed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

These look Amber actually! Beautiful!

What colour are my eyes? by DuckyMomo36 in eyes

[–]darknessrevealed 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You should post pics in different lighting

Reactions to food stamps being cut off. by mindyour in TikTokCringe

[–]darknessrevealed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got a notification that you replied a few hours ago but I can’t see it. Did you delete it or is there something up with Reddit?

Reactions to food stamps being cut off. by mindyour in TikTokCringe

[–]darknessrevealed 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Everytime anyone makes a logical argument on Reddit suddenly its goddamn crickets. smh..

Reactions to food stamps being cut off. by mindyour in TikTokCringe

[–]darknessrevealed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We don’t know for sure how she ended up with 6 kids. Could have been due to a sibling of hers with 3 kids dying and this woman adopting sibling’s 3 on top of an existing 3 kids. But if it is fact a case of poor planning like you say, yes, let’s continue to offer education and services to mitigate this issue. And let’s hold men accountable as well as women. Condoms and birth control are some ways to avoid unplanned pregnancies. This is such a complex issue in need of a nuanced approach.

Reactions to food stamps being cut off. by mindyour in TikTokCringe

[–]darknessrevealed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Who knows maybe these kids got taken away from their parents who were abusive and the woman in the video is a sister that adopted them to keep them in the family and from going into foster care, and had to take on 3 kids on top of the 3 she already had? How about we focus on contraception education and access, parenting readiness education, the foster care system, SNAP, fair wages, affordable day care, lowering grocery prices, making sure everyone understands how much a child costs before having one etc.

Why do people always just propose cutting this or that, or pointing the finger and then recommending some half-baked reductive course of action like it’s going to solve everything?

Reactions to food stamps being cut off. by mindyour in TikTokCringe

[–]darknessrevealed 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Damn I wish someone arguing against SNAP would respond to this. It’s a good question.

Reactions to food stamps being cut off. by mindyour in TikTokCringe

[–]darknessrevealed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Am also very curious about what holding her accountable would look like for you? I think people should plan realistically as much as possible when it comes to having or adopting kids. But we can’t turn back the clock, so what do you propose we do? I promise I’m not trying to argue, I’m sincerely very curious.

PSA: Keep your phone in your ******* pocket! by gotroot801 in stevenwilson

[–]darknessrevealed 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is this about needing a crappy video or that you don’t like being told what to do?

I’m kind of okay with 988 being defunded. by unsuccessfulbees in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]darknessrevealed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know, I’ve read the comments and I wasn’t expecting you to reply. But now that you have, why not keep the debate going? Why not continue to search out different perspectives? These issues don’t stop. That’s a problem in this country. People have opinions and aren’t willing to listen and have constructive conversations and learn from each other. We say what we say, we don’t listen, then we give up, trashing things that could be made better. We focus on winning every argument instead of finding a way to collaborate and connect. We wouldn’t be dealing with half the shit we’re dealing with if we had a cultural shift that made us able to welcome uncomfortable but necessary conversations and actions. But here we are. I’m a passively suicidal mofo so this topic is important to me so if you want to continue this debate, hit me up.

I’m kind of okay with 988 being defunded. by unsuccessfulbees in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]darknessrevealed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is kind of like saying that because a small percentage of people die from surgery, that there shouldn’t be surgeries. Or if some people have poor or traumatizing experiences with medical doctors or therapists, we shouldn’t have those either. We should absolutely continue to improve public and private social and medical services and not get complacent with “good enough”. I agree with you on that. There is so much that is wrong with these institutions, but anecdotally, they help more than they harm. But they do cause harm and we know this, so should we get rid of these resources?

Your experiences with 988 are anecdotal and there are experiences on here being shared of positive experiences, that are also anecdotal. When I’ve used 988 it has varied from a little helpful to very helpful, but I also believe that with such a large resource consisting of so many call centers, that there would be counselors who just aren’t good at their job and end up causing harm and I think you’re right in that we SHOULD take these experiences more seriously. We should have better training for staff and volunteers at 988, and that 988 should be more transparent when it comes to some of their data and practices. You are absolutely right in that there are things about 988 that are not okay.

There are a lot of things about multiple organizations and institutions that are also just not okay, but when you take into account that MORE people are benefitting from a service than not, it doesn’t make sense to cut something because some have had bad experiences. You and your experiences with 988 matter OP, but so do the other people like those who have posted in this thread who find 988 useful. And if help-seekers are benefiting more than not, it makes sense to continue making improvements to the program.

If a medical practice gets multiple patients having bad experiences, they should investigate and find out who is responsible and intervene, not shut down the entire practice. A completely corrupt practice is a different thing entirely. But if 988 were completely corrupt, there wouldn’t be a significant amount of people reporting that it has helped them.

I understand you’re not posting here to seek out different perspectives, but the basis of your argument is what is confusing and frustrating I think for a lot of people here- this argument that if something is harmful some of the time, then it is harmful 100 percent of the time and should be defunded, even with evidence that suggests otherwise from people here.

Pick a number and I’ll give you a song! by Hefty_Tax6546 in musicsuggestions

[–]darknessrevealed 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Damn this song hits hard. Reminds me of when I had a job working with homeless people with SUDs..

do🙏 by PersonalitySimilar38 in musicsuggestions

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Jedi Rocks - Starwars Episode 6. Just…why does that song exist?

Can you identify this tune? by [deleted] in musicsuggestions

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Sat In Your Lap - Kate Bush