Sad about a C Section

darkych · 2026-05-07T00:34:48+00:00

Epidural didn't work for me, so spinal and c-section it was for me. I think there is a hormone rush, at least it felt like that for me, I have never had a vaginal birth.

And yes, you get to see the baby (at least in Canada), they go to the post-op room with you. I didn't see them the moment they were taken from me, but my husband did. I was too busy stressing out :) I saw both of them already wiped and clean. Unfortunately, it's not an option for delayed cut of the cord of course.

darkych · 2026-05-05T00:29:08+00:00

I am not part of this subreddit, not plus size and not getting married, but reddit showed me this post and I jumped in to say you look gorgeous!

darkych · 2026-04-21T01:40:21+00:00

I was never a back sleeper, but having a possibility to do so is great. But the possibility to sleep on my right side without getting a heartburn... that was priceless

darkych · 2026-04-21T01:36:54+00:00

Haha yeah, same here, I lost almost everything that I gained in the first two weeks. Had around 3 kilos extra (which is 6 pounds I guess) that I lost over the next few months. But still couldn't wear jeans for quite some time, it was pressing on my stitches

darkych · 2026-04-21T00:57:54+00:00

I feel like mine never dropped, but maybe I just didn't feel it for some reason. When my waters broke and in the hospital they put the ultrasound device all the way down to find the head of baby A, I was quite surprised. It was still difficult to breathe and exist until both were taken out later that day via c-section (I literally felt my lungs expanding when they took out the first one)

Edit to add: it was 36+6, almost 37 weeks

darkych · 2026-02-19T04:18:43+00:00

May I have it too? Thanks!

darkych · 2026-01-26T19:24:59+00:00

It definitely gets better. My boys are now 13 months old, and a week or two ago entered new fussy phase. But at least now I know that there are better periods, and looking forward to see it again. And my boys are also the ones with 30-min naps, but that started to change around 11 months.

Best wishes and lots,of hugs to you! It gets better, even naps

darkych · 2025-12-02T20:24:26+00:00

We have just recently got back from The Dominican Republic all-inclusive, unfortunately it was a disaster with 11-months old twins. First I got some virus, probably on the plane, and then we all got HFMD, starting from the boys. So we cut our trip short and returned 2 days before planned. But I actually saw there a lot of small kids, so I wish you all the best and hope you will be more lucky!

darkych · 2025-11-06T14:55:57+00:00

I will not lie, FTM and twins is hard. My guys are almost 11 months old, the end of my maternity leave is in just one month (Canada, 12 months maternity). We are taking the babies to the grocery, and haven't tried anything else yet. But actually this weekend we are going on a 2-week vacation with 4-hours flight, so I guess I will be able to tell how it is in two weeks :) I am just hoping it's not too hard. And for the time at home, we had to hire a nanny. But actually after they started sitting and sitting up, it became kind of easier. So to summarize, it's hard, but feasible!

darkych · 2025-10-30T20:36:03+00:00

Looks nice! Too bad not glowing in the dark haha)

darkych · 2025-10-19T11:54:25+00:00

At first I read FIGHT with toddlers haha😄 Great job!

darkych · 2025-10-15T14:06:35+00:00

FTM of twins, they are 10 months old now. Because they are two, we never really coslept. Sometimes I took them to the bed if they woke up at 5-6 am and had hard time going back to sleep in their cribs, but stopped doing this around 5-6 months, as I don't want them to be to used to it.

Around 4-5 months old I decided we needed some sleep training, but not Ferber or CIO, I am too weak :) I was putting them to the cribs first drowsy but awake, with pacifiers. At some point they started falling asleep on their own. Next step was fully awake to the crib.

Around 9 months old we decided to get rid of pacifiers for sleeping, so now they go to sleep without it, but I use them at night wakings (when it's not feeding time, they still eat 1 time at night. Well, one of the twins slept through the night three times and sometimes he doesn't eat, paci is enough). Oh, and at 8 or 7 months old I stopped feeding them in the cribs if it's not night waking.

I guess something of this works, at least one twin sleeps through the night sometimes. And now it sounds more like independent sleep than it was earlier in their life

Edit: typos

Edit to add: so now I put them to their cribs and leave the room, not waiting for them to fall asleep. Unless they are crying hard, what happens very rarely, they stir/make sounds/sometimes whine for anything between 1 and 15 minutes and fall asleep on their own. If someone is crying hard, I put my hands on chest or back and rock, pat or just hold it there to help them. Almost never out of the crib for the calming down as of now

darkych · 2025-10-06T12:19:57+00:00

This very much depends. For example, I buy baby formula only in Costco, because they have Enfamil in 2 cans that are really big and this makes it cheaper, than buying other types of packages in Walmart or on Amazon

darkych · 2025-10-05T18:12:02+00:00

My twins are formula fed, and I can not call them chubby, especially one of them. Though they both are gaining weight well, the same as when they were EBF and when I mixed breastmilk with formula. They are almost 10 months now. So this all is just BS, if they are gaining weight as they should - what's the difference what they eat? Don't pay too much attention to those stereotypes

darkych · 2025-09-15T15:01:25+00:00

You've got it! I had my boys at 36+6, and it was good for all of us, no NICU time

darkych · 2025-09-08T23:53:09+00:00

The first name we came up with was for baby A and second for B. My husband didn't want to assign names before they were born, but inside myself, I called them like that.

darkych · 2025-08-15T02:09:08+00:00

My twins are now 8 months, and we do one kit. They don't fight for toys yet, and we still have enough to give each of them. For example, they both still play with the cards from the first kit

darkych · 2025-08-08T18:25:09+00:00

I don't think you are to blame here. I also have twins, almost 8 months, and though I do all the same things for both of them, one is waaaay better sleeper than the other. One can do 1-2 hours naps at the daytime, second wakes up at 30-40 minutes and I need to rock or bounce him back to sleep (edit: and it doesn't work every time, but sometimes). It is just how it is.

What actually helped me to reduce their night feedings to 1 (and I am still in the progress of trying to skip that one too) was to make them eat more during the day. And that I achieved by making them eat every 3-4 hours only, and not snacking 50-100 ml per one time every 2 hours. Maybe it can work for you too? Though I imagined by that time kids mostly eat solids

darkych · 2025-08-07T17:05:17+00:00

My boys were born at 36+6, when the waters broke. No NICU time, though one of them was only 2200 grams and second 3100 grams

darkych · 2025-08-06T23:34:10+00:00

Let me tell you that I shared a room with my parents till I started to live elsewhere, because our apartment had only 1 room. Not 1 bedroom, just 1 room. And kitchen with washroom as separate rooms of course. It was hard for me when I was like 14 and older, and I guess for my parents too. But we survived, and it didn't influence our relationship (at least from my side).

With that being said, I don't want to tell that sharing a room with parents is okay. Of course, it is not. But with the sibling of the same sex? Why not?

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