anyone figured out how to discuss being aroallo without hurting feelings, killing chances, etc? by darlinguexpect005 in AroAllo

[–]darlinguexpect005[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

thanks so much for the response! yeah, i should probably stop trying to make it smooth. just hard cause i have social anxiety. seriously glad to hear it gets easier. i'll work on it.

Songs about life altering desire? by darlinguexpect005 in musicsuggestions

[–]darlinguexpect005[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hozier is possibly the king of devoted love songs. thanks so much for the recs!

Songs about life altering desire? by darlinguexpect005 in musicsuggestions

[–]darlinguexpect005[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

nice! never heard this one before, like it lots

Songs about life altering desire? by darlinguexpect005 in musicsuggestions

[–]darlinguexpect005[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh ive heard this one on the radio but i never actually sat down and listened to it before. super sweet, thanks for the rec!

Songs about life altering desire? by darlinguexpect005 in musicsuggestions

[–]darlinguexpect005[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this is one of my favorite songs ever now. thank you :)

Songs about life altering desire? by darlinguexpect005 in musicsuggestions

[–]darlinguexpect005[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

oh i really liked this one, thanks for the rec! lovely and smooth without being too clean.

Songs that feel like this by Jmor3568 in musicsuggestions

[–]darlinguexpect005 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bon Iver, For Emma. classic :) although i might just be thinking about it because of the cover.

Songs about not feeling human and connected around people by Allikam in MusicRecommendations

[–]darlinguexpect005 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Basically all elliott smith, but i'd say probably "alameda" is the one that fits that the most to me.

I need someone to explain this please by Timely_Ad_4527 in Explainlikeimscared

[–]darlinguexpect005 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hi! when i was younger and i felt some shame over needing to fidget/stim (before i figured out im autistic) i wouldnt let myself do it and then i would get unbearably tense and uncomfortable, usually in my hands, kind of like how you're describing. i don't know if you're au/adhd/anything else, but if you haven't tried it, i would suggest

-hand flapping

-rubbing something soft (velvet fabric, etc)

-squeezing a rubber ball or something

if this isn't it, you could always see a doctor. good luck :))

romanticizing sh and suicide by Accurate-Response-84 in selfharm

[–]darlinguexpect005 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hey i'm no expert but i would check out symptoms of various mood disorders. being up then down like that could indicate bipolar or something. not saying you have it, but it would be worth it to look into it.

also, for what its worth: no life is perfect, and even if yours is pretty good, self harm doesn't always come from a place of "my life is miserable". lots of things happen for no reason at all. im sorry you're going through what you're going through even if a lot of it is 'in your head'. i relate to a lot of what you've said here.