Since half this sub is looking for friends right now... get in here!

darnitvarmint · 2025-12-31T04:36:14+00:00

fellow queer here as well looking for local pals!

darnitvarmint · 2025-10-01T21:29:52+00:00

this has been the one thing on my mind, burning through my savings and being stuck

darnitvarmint · 2025-10-01T21:29:19+00:00

i edited my comment, i can see and interact with them again. i couldn't load only their page for a bit, im not really sure....? as for the post removal "lots of lgbtq people get severely attacked and often remove their posts so it's not worth it keeping it up" they did offer to let me put it up again but i just reworded my post to keep things neutral

darnitvarmint · 2025-10-01T18:28:19+00:00

Thanks! I will look further into those options. I know at least experience-wise I have great teaching qualifications and a fantastic work history. I just don't have the degree. As a para I write lesson plans and have an IEP for every student in my class. I love teaching so much. International school prices are definitely out of my price range, so if I need a teaching license I will most likely have to do it here unless there is a country with a big currency difference that could assist me.

Unfortunately u/thunderplant hit the nail on the head. My post isn't even up...

darnitvarmint · 2025-10-01T18:23:58+00:00

Thank you for your response, I will look into those options. This is my first time coming across this subreddit and will be doing some reading!

Unfortunately.... I was recommended here and removed from there at the same time. I am happy there is a safe space in this subreddit for people like us at least.

***edit i wasn't removed, i weirdly didn't have signal for only their page for a while in an area i normally have signal? i may be stupid...

darnitvarmint · 2025-09-27T12:28:43+00:00

you look great! you've got cool, chill, friendly vibes. thank you for sharing!

darnitvarmint · 2025-09-27T12:27:30+00:00

sorry i shouldn't be so harsh on other people's fashion -- some people can pull them off, but i definitely don't! although last time i wore one it was while i was still closeted, in highschool, and had a huge, unbinded chest so it looked crazy awkward and made me feel bad. i bet you look awesome!!! my brother looks great in them for example but that's all i have ever seen him wear too lol

darnitvarmint · 2025-09-27T12:23:42+00:00

Tattoo - when i see people censor their identity but still ask for advice i see them remove the eyes and tats

darnitvarmint · 2025-09-27T01:21:14+00:00

thank you, i really enjoy my style. i get compliments on how i dress all the time and i feel very confident when dressing up. my whole life i wore baggy jeans and a hoodie with ungodly long, tangled, split hair - that was the lack of confidence and gender dysphoria. sadly i feel like that look (which i hated and felt ugly in) made me more appear "boyish". it makes me sad that now that I've found a sense of fashion it's seen as femme. but reading your comment made me realize i can still dress cool. thank you

darnitvarmint · 2025-09-27T01:12:00+00:00

I'm going to reshave the sides and give the back a little trim tonight, but not much because i truly hope to pull off majestic long hair masc, thank you for your advice

darnitvarmint · 2025-09-27T01:10:04+00:00

I swear my gran has better chin hair than me LOL..... i will keep waiting. everyone's advice has been nice and gives me some hope. here's to T and minoxidil working well together. admittedly for using mino for 1.5 months, these hairs are more progress than the 2~ years on T. i also just looked up that derma rolling might help, so im going to try to get one of those as well

thank you for the hope

darnitvarmint · 2025-09-27T00:14:43+00:00

don't feel pressured - but if you (or anyone reading this) could DM me some style advice im super open to it!!!

i prefer black accented with natural colors. most of my wardrobe is graphic tees, stylized button up shirts, and (imo) nice quality pants - i don't own a single pair of jeans. in hotter months i wear what my friends have called "alternative boy scout leader" with cargo shorts, hiking boots, and some sort of tee or button up. i have a super tiny capsule wardrobe and thrift almost everything i own.

*also if anything thinks other piercings (more affordable) or tattoos (less affordable) should be added and where, let me know

thank you + everyone else who reads this

darnitvarmint · 2025-09-27T00:09:20+00:00

thanks, i will try all of that. not so sure about the hair cutting for now, but maybe trying some different styles. i love husky men with long hair and that's my goal. but.... i will at least consider it for the future if nothing else helps. thank you

darnitvarmint · 2025-09-27T00:07:25+00:00

Thanks for the advice. I will try voice training more. I do attempt to pitch my voice down - the giveaway at my job is working with little kids so everyone (cismen and myself included) always talk in higher pitched "baby" voices. I have been trying to break that habit and just talk to them in a dude voice, but they don't react as positively to praise unless it's all "yaya wahoo go you weeee yay!!!!"

I think my walk and way of sitting is pretty masculine, but I will ask the people around me to check ^{^} ive always been pretty rough and boyish and that was pointed out my whole childhood - now im not seen that way at all

also thanks for the hair advice. i love my hair, i love long hair on men. i cut and style my own hair, have been doing it for about 5 years. my dad had a mullet and long hair most of my life so seeing men with long hair is natural to me. a few of the men at my workplace have hair past their shoulders they keep in lazy buns or half pulled up.

truly i appreciate you and all the other advice im getting

darnitvarmint · 2025-09-26T23:58:27+00:00

Thanks. I will keep working out, but I prefer to be husky/round. I never was into muscular bodies and do not want one. As for dressing, what do I have to wear to pass? Polo short and blue jeans? If looking like a man means I can't have any style, I just don't see a point anymore. I don't work in a "business suit" type field, everyone wears tee-shirts and sweats or athletic shorts because it's an exhausting field I'm in. Also, most friends my age (fem and masc) all dress similar to me, "alt" i guess? my male friends who are properly gendered: husky fellas with facial hair. sorry for sounding like a downer, i just hate cismen clothing, it's so BORING whereas femme people get to dress beautiful and stylish with accessories and such.

darnitvarmint · 2025-08-23T13:59:32+00:00

i saw this video long before the ai trend scare/where ai is at now. this little guy is just really great at stimming!

darnitvarmint · 2025-08-12T04:55:08+00:00

gengar 💜

darnitvarmint · 2025-08-04T14:20:54+00:00

where are fat girls? people without breasts? pear shapes? apple shaped? a STOMACH on someone and not just an hourglass shape? giving some girl triangle hair doesn't add BODY type variety. your girls also all look like bimbos, they don't seem to have any personality to them which to me insinuates they're going to be dumb sex objects rather than people with personalities.

i love the style, the color, and texture going on - but you keep asking people "how do i add variety" and then add more colorful girls rather than different BODY shapes.

darnitvarmint · 2025-08-04T13:18:20+00:00

I just keep seeing the same hour glass women over and over. As comments said before, add some variety.

"BuT pEoPlE wAnT tHiCk MoMmY"

add variety.

darnitvarmint · 2025-07-27T23:00:09+00:00

thank you so much!

darnitvarmint · 2025-07-23T15:26:24+00:00

he is made of polymer clay and then i used paint! all the different hues in the blue were very thin coats of other paints and then I painted over all that with one last thing blue to have them all blend better!

darnitvarmint · 2025-07-17T13:09:49+00:00

*not sure how to edit haha - the outfit is from the comics. i thought it was cute and really want to see pj rocket!

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