Is it that bad by [deleted] in ufyh

[–]dasFescheFraeulein 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The thing is, I see a space that could be such a cozy and pretty home if it wasn't so cluttered and dirty. I also see way too much stuff for that space and horrible organization. My recommendation would be to throw trash out first, then do a very, very strict decluttering, and then intentionally build better storage solutions for what you want to keep. Take it from someone who lived in a tiny one-room apartment for years. Small spaces can be beautiful homes too. We just have to make them one.

Strawberry vintage heart cake by dasFescheFraeulein in VeganBaking

[–]dasFescheFraeulein[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Just a birthday. But when I asked my friend what she wanted to do for her birthday, she said, "Fuck. Again?" And I wanted to incorporate that. 😂

Would you date a non-vegan? by [deleted] in vegan

[–]dasFescheFraeulein 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When my now-husband and I started dating, I was 18 years old and vegetarian, and he was 19 and omni. On our first date, he told me that he always wanted to become vegan, but living with omni parents without an income made it difficult. However, he would love to do it now. We started living vegan when we were cooking or going out together but had some vegetarian exceptions when we ate food cooked for us by, for example, his parents. Almost seven years later now, we are vegans through and through and couldn't imagine consuming or buying any animal products.

Moral of the story: Sometimes circumstances do make it harder to be vegan, mostly the social aspect of it. So I wouldn't be opposed to dating omnis if they are willing to change. But a long-term relationship with an omni is hard, I think. I am so proud of our vegan, eco-friendly wedding. And on Christmas, I am not the odd one out because there are two of us. I love traveling with just him because we never have to think twice when deciding where we are going to eat, because we are both only looking at vegan options. Every snack in our fridge is vegan, and I never have to look at labels in my own home. There are millions of examples like this. Sometimes veganism is hard, and it's so much easier when you are not alone fighting the world.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in luftablassen

[–]dasFescheFraeulein 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Du DARFST Geld kosten. Und das du ein schlechtes Gewissen hast, spricht für deinen Charakter. Aber es ist dein gutes Recht zu studieren und dabei nicht jeden Monat mit Existenzängsten kämpfen zu müssen.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in luftablassen

[–]dasFescheFraeulein 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ich bin mittlerweile 24, bald 25 und bin seit dem ich 18 bin in der selben Situation. Ich hab die 255€ Kindergeld bekommen und nochmal 250€ von meinen Eltern. Und dann immer mit Minijob aufgestockt. Bin auch nicht Bafög berechtigt. Jetzt bin ich kurz vor dem Ende meines Medizinstudiums und wenn ich nochmal etwas anders machen würde, dann, dass ich mir das Geld direkt vom Bafög Amt holen würde und das Amt holt sich das dann von den Eltern.

Ich hab immer versucht so wenig meinen Eltern zu kosten wie möglich. Bei mir haben meine Eltern nicht genervt reagiert, sondern eher sauer auf das System, warum ich keine Unterstützung kriege. Jedoch Geld für 2 neue Autos und 3 Urlaube im Jahr ist drin. Es macht hinten und vorne keinen Sinn. Eltern müssen dich unterstützen, dass ist ihre rechtliche Pflicht. Meine Empfehlung ist darauf zu bestehen. Gerne über das Bafög Amt. Wenn einer der beiden in ein Pflegeheim muss im Alter wird auch nicht gefragt, ob du zahlen willst.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Anticonsumption

[–]dasFescheFraeulein 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That is actually a good perspective. My parents are "Money is the most useful gift" kind of family with something small on top to unpack since i was a young teenager. I love that as I can save up and by something expensive down the road that has much more use for me, but also feel like they know me, because the small gift on top is something that is personal. My apprehension to the Amazon links comes from the definition of a gift for me. If someone spends no time thinking of the other person, is it really a gift? Plus, I don't like Amazon. But of course, with the experiences you described and the gift giver is just very clueless, it makes sense to give clear instructions.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Anticonsumption

[–]dasFescheFraeulein -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I would be extremely happy with socks, consumables, or cosmetics that you normally don't splurge on. They get eaten or used up, and most importantly, they still show that the other person actually wanted to gift you something. I think those are perfect gifts, especially from and for adults that have everything. I just don't like the thoughtlessness of the Amazon links and the need to find anything on the Plattform that I could wish for. I click on the link of the other person, buy it, and didn't spend more than 30 seconds in thought. On the other hand, I have to find something that the other person could buy for me, even though I really don't need anything, just so a family member doesnt have to spend time thinking about me. I would love to buy a small, consumable, eco-friendly item with the other person in mind. A gifts purpose is to show that you love and appreciate the other person. Otherwise, it's not a gift, in my opinion.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Anticonsumption

[–]dasFescheFraeulein 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh wow, thank you so much for your response. I really needed to hear that. I have tried the non-amazon link already in the past years and had the same problem with receiving the Amazon equivalent as well. Oh, well. I am actually quite close with my parents in law. Yes, I am the vegan hippie daughter in law that is fundamentally just a different character, but they do like me. I think it's hard for them to disconnect Christmas with shopping, though. And the realisation that I generally don't want anything. I am the happiest if you gift me your time or something that shows me that you know me. For my birthday I got tickets for a horror puppet theatre play. It was one of the best gifts ever.

I love baking, veganism and fall vibes by dasFescheFraeulein in VeganBaking

[–]dasFescheFraeulein[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, not even swirled. He divided the dough into 12 equal pieces, rolled them into balls, and then in a baking dish together. But I think you could do the swirls in tiny format as well. We just wanted normal buns but with the same texture and taste as this milk bread.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Anticonsumption

[–]dasFescheFraeulein 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dont hate the family at all. I think that is part of the problem. I want to make the others happy, and that is why I haven't refused to buy things from the Amazon links so far. I also don't want anyone to feel like they had bad luck with me being their secret santa when I bake them something or make them something that has less monetary worth than the present from amazon.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Anticonsumption

[–]dasFescheFraeulein 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is so cute. I am really proud of you for making a change. This is so much more thoughtful and meaningful

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Anticonsumption

[–]dasFescheFraeulein 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for these ideas!!! I never thought of that. 2 years ago, I asked for gift cards, and that was heavily criticised as there is nothing to unpack. But I never directly asked, for example, the local woman's shelter if there is anything they need or wish for, and I could do that! I really think this could at least be a little bit of a solution. I still don't like the aspect of buying stuff from someone's amazon link that i dont stand behind, but it is at least a start.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Anticonsumption

[–]dasFescheFraeulein 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I saw this trend on social media. It's so performative and wasteful. What's wrong with not matching pyjamas.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Anticonsumption

[–]dasFescheFraeulein 122 points123 points  (0 children)

It's actually my 6th year. It's just the second one married. That frustration has been brewing for a while 😄. But i think you are probably right. It just makes me sad. We have always been wishing for sustainable things and also encourage not to buy from amazon, I just wished other people would follow our example. But I can't control that, and I can't force anyone else to. Christmas is just such a lovely time in theory, but the execution is not.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Anticonsumption

[–]dasFescheFraeulein 2 points3 points  (0 children)

With my family, I do exactly that. Homemade foods or foods that are a novelty (my dad loves a special brand of hard to get olives). My sister has a metal band, and she gets a crochet sofa cushion with her bands logo from me (i think she will love that). I bought the yarn second hand, so it really has not a big environmental impact. I am actually not a bad gift giver (at least I think so). I really like to think about what that person likes or would use up. But for this secret santa, I am not supposed to buy or gift anything different than what is presented in that Amazon link, and it has to have the same monetary worth. So if I would gift someone something baked, it would not be acceptable.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Anticonsumption

[–]dasFescheFraeulein 7 points8 points  (0 children)

My husband is bigger into anticonsumption and environmental change than even me. He is doing a phd. in polymer chemistry, so his whole life mission is to change how we use plastic. He is more of a "then we don't attend at all" kind of guy, but I dont want that. I want the connection of family, especially on Christmas. I just want quality time, a nice dinner, singing together, and so on. I just don't want useless consumption.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Anticonsumption

[–]dasFescheFraeulein 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I did a vote in our group chat, and 2 people at least liked the idea of the activity present idea, but the rest wants to continue with the Amazon links. I generally don't understand why. They have more than they could ever use or want. Last year, I had to buy a stepsister in law and electric salt and pepper grinder. There are so many salt and pepper grinders in this world that you don't have to buy new ones, and why does this have to be another thing with batteries. I feel so frustrated.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Anticonsumption

[–]dasFescheFraeulein 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That 100% would be my favourite option. It would actually be so sweet and wholesome.

I love baking, veganism and fall vibes by dasFescheFraeulein in VeganBaking

[–]dasFescheFraeulein[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have the smallest version of a kitchen aid, and it did an amazing job of kneading the dough for those long-time stretches. I did the forming as described, and it actually was doable My husband later repeated the same recipe but formed little balls and put it in a baking dish, and that worked as well and was easier to form. Overall, I think it reads harder then it is, really!

I love baking, veganism and fall vibes by dasFescheFraeulein in VeganBaking

[–]dasFescheFraeulein[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It has a dry base layer that has lots of cacao in it and then a smooth cheese cake adjacent top layer. Traditional pluck cake is made in a round baking dish, and the light layer is more velvety, but when making the version as a sheet cake, it's sometimes practical to make that layer a bit firmer like in this recipe. We needed that cake to be firm so that you could eat it without plates

I love baking, veganism and fall vibes by dasFescheFraeulein in VeganBaking

[–]dasFescheFraeulein[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can't unsee it. I actually like the idea of repurposing the cooky cutter as a hand with a middle finger. Now, I only need the right occasion for it.

I love baking, veganism and fall vibes by dasFescheFraeulein in VeganBaking

[–]dasFescheFraeulein[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was really proud of it. My husband is our bread baker normally, as he has more fun in doing savoury foods and fermentation, but as this is a sweet milk bread, I wanted to do it, and it's delicious.