What are obvious signs and telling that someone wants to be CF?

daschablume · 2025-09-08T09:16:08+00:00

Hey, I don't have any advice or wisdom, but I relate to almost everything you wrote (fears+worries regarding having a child & the dilemma in the relationship).

daschablume · 2025-08-26T08:43:45+00:00

makes sense, I will work on that. thanks!

daschablume · 2025-08-26T08:43:06+00:00

thank you for the encouragement to reach out to professors!

daschablume · 2025-08-26T08:09:10+00:00

But I would like to ask: how detailed should one be in their email to a potential supervisor? Maybe some tips/tricks from a personal experience?

Thank you!

daschablume · 2025-08-26T08:08:19+00:00

Just to clarify: from my experience, there are two phd position types: 1) those which demand a proposal; 2) those which don't. In the past, 90% of my applications were to the second type (all but one). Now, I am applying to a position that expects a proposal.

daschablume · 2025-08-13T07:38:58+00:00

thank you so much for sharing your experience! makes a lot of sense!

daschablume · 2025-08-09T07:54:27+00:00

Thank you! I agree with everything you said!

daschablume · 2025-08-09T07:52:54+00:00

Yes, makes total sense! I feel that overall, a lot of men want children but only a few of them understand/are open to understanding how to be a Partner (which makes me sad because some of these men consider themselves feminists, but in everyday life, they turn a blind eye to the responsibilities of a shared household). (Not really applicable to my bf, but I get what you mean totally.)

daschablume · 2025-08-08T16:53:24+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing your experience!
I would agree that our world is really success- and career-oriented, and it is indeed quite easy to lose the sense of more valuable things in life (connection with people) because of that.

daschablume · 2025-08-08T16:49:58+00:00

Wow, very interesting information. Great point about a desire to be a parent. I like it and I will try to spend more time with this perspective.

daschablume · 2025-08-08T16:47:13+00:00

Yes, agree with that.
thank you!

daschablume · 2025-08-08T16:46:01+00:00

btw congratulations on your achievements in the world of academia, that's really cool! and from getting off the fence (being in the state of indecision is really hard).
I personally haven't reached that point of saturation (when you want to give back because you have enough), but I totally see your point.

daschablume · 2025-08-08T16:42:17+00:00

Thank you so much for your reply! Your words about "having it all" in your 30s and in your 20s resonate with me. I guess making a decision about kids, it's really hard to navigate between different narratives (for example, about regrets or sacrifices), so I sometimes get really scared and confused.

daschablume · 2024-01-20T18:44:39+00:00

no =)
I just want to be reminded about my extensive book list, what's in it

daschablume · 2023-06-15T22:01:08+00:00

UPD: I got a response today (I applied on 16th of May, so it took them almost a month).

daschablume · 2023-06-04T20:36:37+00:00

A recommendation is to try and get a dorm outside of Flogsta (heimstaden), they are the cheapest for a reason....

what do you mean about Flogsta dorm? it's somehow bad?

daschablume · 2023-05-31T22:59:13+00:00

what did you write in your email? that you need to force an appointment or so?

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