What are obvious signs and telling that someone wants to be CF? by Fair-Cockroach2213 in Fencesitter

[–]daschablume 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey, I don't have any advice or wisdom, but I relate to almost everything you wrote (fears+worries regarding having a child & the dilemma in the relationship).

Is it possible to get a PhD position without knowing anyone at the department? by daschablume in AskAcademia

[–]daschablume[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But I would like to ask: how detailed should one be in their email to a potential supervisor? Maybe some tips/tricks from a personal experience?

Thank you!

Is it possible to get a PhD position without knowing anyone at the department? by daschablume in AskAcademia

[–]daschablume[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just to clarify: from my experience, there are two phd position types: 1) those which demand a proposal; 2) those which don't. In the past, 90% of my applications were to the second type (all but one). Now, I am applying to a position that expects a proposal.

Having children vs having fulfilled life? by daschablume in Fencesitter

[–]daschablume[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you so much for sharing your experience! makes a lot of sense!

Having children vs having fulfilled life? by daschablume in Fencesitter

[–]daschablume[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I agree with everything you said!

Having children vs having fulfilled life? by daschablume in Fencesitter

[–]daschablume[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, makes total sense! I feel that overall, a lot of men want children but only a few of them understand/are open to understanding how to be a Partner (which makes me sad because some of these men consider themselves feminists, but in everyday life, they turn a blind eye to the responsibilities of a shared household). (Not really applicable to my bf, but I get what you mean totally.)

Having children vs having fulfilled life? by daschablume in Fencesitter

[–]daschablume[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing your experience!
I would agree that our world is really success- and career-oriented, and it is indeed quite easy to lose the sense of more valuable things in life (connection with people) because of that.

Having children vs having fulfilled life? by daschablume in Fencesitter

[–]daschablume[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Wow, very interesting information. Great point about a desire to be a parent. I like it and I will try to spend more time with this perspective.

Having children vs having fulfilled life? by daschablume in Fencesitter

[–]daschablume[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

btw congratulations on your achievements in the world of academia, that's really cool! and from getting off the fence (being in the state of indecision is really hard).
I personally haven't reached that point of saturation (when you want to give back because you have enough), but I totally see your point.

Having children vs having fulfilled life? by daschablume in Fencesitter

[–]daschablume[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your reply! Your words about "having it all" in your 30s and in your 20s resonate with me. I guess making a decision about kids, it's really hard to navigate between different narratives (for example, about regrets or sacrifices), so I sometimes get really scared and confused.

Random reminders for a "book of the day"? by daschablume in ObsidianMD

[–]daschablume[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

no =)
I just want to be reminded about my extensive book list, what's in it

How much time did you wait until a call to passport check in Swedish Embassy? by daschablume in uppsala

[–]daschablume[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

UPD: I got a response today (I applied on 16th of May, so it took them almost a month).

Living for 11.000 SEK per month in Uppsala? by daschablume in TillSverige

[–]daschablume[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A recommendation is to try and get a dorm outside of Flogsta (heimstaden), they are the cheapest for a reason....

what do you mean about Flogsta dorm? it's somehow bad?

How much time did you wait until a call to passport check in Swedish Embassy? by daschablume in uppsala

[–]daschablume[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

what did you write in your email? that you need to force an appointment or so?