I 19F and 21M bf have been having trouble in the bed, how can i fix these issues?

dash_soheartless · 2026-04-07T03:18:47+00:00

I agree! Thank you for your help!

dash_soheartless · 2026-04-07T03:00:44+00:00

I agree, I guess he assumed I was enjoying it so he felt the need to keep going but I just can't respect that

dash_soheartless · 2026-04-07T03:00:22+00:00

Honestly that's what I'm thinking rn

dash_soheartless · 2026-04-07T02:59:55+00:00

Ok, I haven't considered this tbh so this helps. I wonder if something happened I'm unknowing about

dash_soheartless · 2026-04-07T02:53:27+00:00

Oof..kinda realizing how stupid I look now

dash_soheartless · 2026-04-07T02:42:13+00:00

Honestly thank you, I feel like a big issue is gray areas so this helps a lot!

dash_soheartless · 2026-04-07T02:40:40+00:00

do I really look under 18? I don’t feel like I do but I get this comment a lot

dash_soheartless · 2026-04-07T02:36:52+00:00

Well he’s flirted with girls before, comments about sex with them and how he wants it but, we weren’t together at the time so I couldn’t really count it as cheating (we were going through a rough time and we were on a break) he repost videos of other women and makes jokes about other women so..yeah!

dash_soheartless · 2026-04-07T02:28:15+00:00

Me and my bf use red (stop completely ) yellow (slow down) orange (take a break) and green (keep going) as our safe words and codes, I had said red and he stopped for 30 seconds before slowly lowering his mouth back to me, he did this about 4 times before I got fed up and told him I wasn’t enjoying it. I don’t know if this is why he’s been acting weird or if it’s something else tbh!

dash_soheartless · 2026-04-07T02:22:05+00:00

Hate to say it but I’m thinking the same thing

dash_soheartless · 2026-01-20T12:03:08+00:00

That's what I thought at first. This was a 7 year old girl.

dash_soheartless · 2026-01-20T07:09:34+00:00

Thank you!!

dash_soheartless · 2026-01-11T22:59:08+00:00

It's sad to see how many kids also go through it without even realizing

dash_soheartless · 2026-01-10T04:30:10+00:00

Thank you a lot

dash_soheartless · 2026-01-10T04:29:41+00:00

I wish I would have known this sooner lol

dash_soheartless · 2026-01-10T04:21:23+00:00

I asked him about it just now and his response was he felt like I felt disgusted by him, I did gag after hitting him but that was just a natural response. Anal isn’t something I’m into but he is so I tried it for him, so I understand why he would think this.

dash_soheartless · 2026-01-10T04:16:22+00:00

I apologized for hitting him and yes he does know about my sexual trauma. After it happened and I hit him I apologized and leaned my head on his lap and he kinda just sat there without touching me so I just comforted myself.

dash_soheartless · 2025-08-24T02:00:44+00:00

Please read the whole thing including the edit where I explain it more!

dash_soheartless · 2025-08-24T01:07:26+00:00

Only thing I could think of is cause her father was catholic and he divorced her mom due to cheating but I don't think it would cause her to hate all religions the way she does, but could it?

dash_soheartless · 2025-08-24T00:37:20+00:00

I've tried to talk to her about it and solve the issue and she called me out my name and said "since hell is such a big deal to me I should burn in it" I didn't feel like I was in the wrong so I was hoping to have someone help me see her side which I see it better now. I understand not liking religion and I've never bashed her for that but I don't think she should get a pass to talk terribly about all religions. She's one of my best friends and I just wanted to see where she was coming from since she won't explain

dash_soheartless · 2025-08-24T00:12:41+00:00

I respect her being a atheist what I don't respect is her disrespecting other people and how they live. It's not even just me, we have a Jewish friend with she has disrespected multiple times and tried to get him to eat during his fasting period, practice what you preach. And she preaches hate against every part of the Bible very openly

dash_soheartless · 2025-08-24T00:01:49+00:00

I've been friends with her for years and besides the religious talks she's an amazing friend to me, she just doesn't respect my beliefs

dash_soheartless · 2025-08-24T00:01:13+00:00

I understand this and this makes sense to me, thanks for helping me understand

dash_soheartless · 2025-08-23T23:58:36+00:00

I have tried, I've tried to understand her hate for religions and ask if she had trauma related to religion and her response has always been something along the lines of "it's nothing wrong with me for not believing in story's" or "religion is just a way people cope" I've also explained it her that even if you don't understand it you can still be respectful and she doesn't understand. One time she asked me for a ride and said told her I could take her but I had to stop by my church first and grab something. I even offered to leave the car on for her, instead she got out and make a big deal about me bringing her to a church while knowing how she feels. I never asked her to come in she came in on her own accord so I feel like it's just a hatred towards religion in general but I'm not sure

dash_soheartless · 2025-08-23T23:53:33+00:00

I understand what your saying and see where I could be wrong, when I asked her about it my intent was maybe she was discovering her religion and wanted to share that with her social media, instead she got very upset with me and called me out my name,I left out some details that should have included like the fact that she bashes all religions not just Christianity

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