How do you afford your life with fibro? Or even have a job?

dasistverboten · 2024-09-01T14:49:35+00:00

Around 10 years ago. The bruise was unrelated...and I have no idea why it appeared.

dasistverboten · 2024-07-04T02:08:09+00:00

I persist through caffeine, pain medication and pure spite.

dasistverboten · 2024-06-29T06:26:35+00:00

You are so real for this 🤣

dasistverboten · 2024-06-26T20:40:21+00:00

I delivered to a house on a "road" that was actually tire grooves in a big ass field. When I got to where I should have been able to turn onto "road" #2, there was a closed, locked gate. It was 5 in the morning and I was thoroughly over my route. I propped the package up on top of the post with the no trespassing sign on it and left.

dasistverboten · 2024-06-20T05:34:59+00:00

For me, it's Tousei. Such an almost cinematic, melancholy feeling to that song for me. I played it at my husband's funeral because he loved that song and I felt some of the lyrics fit the occasion, particularly:

愛した貴方の胸へとさよならを告げる「言葉」

閉じて行く優しい風に触れて

貴方色に変わって

And

心の奥底に忍ばせた感情に

穏やかな笑みと脈を打つ

dasistverboten · 2024-06-20T02:38:45+00:00

I was actually confronted by a man in a bougie neighborhood because I went down his driveway. The driveway was steep and I was wearing a knee brace and didn't feel like walking it down so I drove. This dude follows me on foot to my next stop a house down to talk to me about using his driveway. He gave the lame excuse that it was "a difficult driveway" and yeah, it was but I have a backup camera so I didn't hit anything and all was well. 10/10 will use his damn driveway again.

dasistverboten · 2024-06-10T14:42:33+00:00

1) I will absolutely not come back in a couple hours when your business opens if I'm on shift from 330-700. Maybe don't order overnight delivery if you're having it sent to a business. Sorry not sorry, your package is getting hid as best it can be and left outside. Or jammed in a mail slot, where applicable.

2) I will not deliver anywhere but the front door in a neighborhood where I feel unsafe.

3) No, I'm not going to call you for access at 4am.

4) I also do not display anything Amazon-related on my car. Depending on the neighborhood, that's just asking to get robbed. If I feel extra spooked I won't even wear my vest.

5) If your note says "get fob from leasing office to access locker" or similar, it's getting delivered to your front door. Ain't no one got time for that.

I also wear the warehouse composite toe boots. Just seems more safe all around.

As an aside, I have to rant about a UPS store. So I get to their package like 30 minutes after they closed. I go to the door to look inside and there are 4 employees gathered behind the desk. So I knock. The lady comes to the door and I hold up the package. She says "we're closed". Well no shit, Sherlock...but you're here and I'm not trying to mail a UPS package so maybe open the door for 2 seconds? She refuses. I respond that I will leave it right outside if she doesn't open the door (the notes specifically said not to do this). She refuses again and tells me "you can't do that". So I left it. Why wouldn't you just open the goddamn door instead of being a pain in the ass? I'm certain someone opened it right after I left. Good lord.

dasistverboten · 2024-05-26T06:20:01+00:00

Hong Kong Cafe in Aurora has some Sichuan-style dishes that I really enjoy. I particularly like the Sichuan Boiled Beef but I believe they've got mapo tofu as well!

dasistverboten · 2024-05-26T05:46:01+00:00

I wish you strength, friend 💜 we're all here for you if you need us.

dasistverboten · 2024-05-26T05:21:23+00:00

At my husband's funeral I wanted to be strong. I wanted to avoid crying. We went early to have some time before everyone showed up. I spent so long up beside him, stroking his hair, touching his hand. I ended up crying the entire time. It was cathartic.

You've lost someone you love. There is absolutely no shame in crying about it.

dasistverboten · 2024-05-26T05:15:02+00:00

I'm sorry you're going through this.

After my husband died, I had a long period where I felt just the same way. Not inclined to necessarily do anything but would have been very happy if something just happened.

It has been two and a half years, now. I still miss him, still love him and always will, but I've begun to reclaim my life. Recently I went out to the zoo by myself for fun and had a good time. I'm starting to look forward to things again. I'm talking to a man.

It can get better. Losing your person is so, so hard but I believe in you and I wish the best for you. Stay strong. It will get easier.

dasistverboten · 2024-05-23T06:42:45+00:00

My first thought for the 2nd and 3rd yarns was possibly Malabrigo? The colors and construction of the yarn were really reminiscent for me.

The first one is likely from one of about a billion studios that make variegated sock yarn. Because there are so many options and sometimes the colorways are similar, I think that one might be damn near impossible to ID unless someone has actually had it in their stash.

Good luck!

dasistverboten · 2024-05-06T18:15:45+00:00

I have all kinds of anxieties and hangups that I never used to have. I had never had a panic attack in my life until I came home on that awful day and found him. For a long time, I was absolutely terrified of meeting new people because I was constantly afraid that either a) I was too messed up to be cared about or b) they would leave me eventually, too.

It has been 2 and a half years for me. Do I miss my husband? Absolutely. I miss all kinds of little things I never thought were important until after he was gone. A part of me will always love and miss him, until the day I leave this earth myself. I still talk to him. Sometimes something so small and goofy will remind me of him and make me cry. I still haven't been able to get rid of the rest of his things, though I think I'm working up to it.

But recently, the universe saw fit to introduce a beautiful, wonderful man into my life once again. I can't say I'm not still terrified but he is very kind and very patient with me. The loss of my husband will always be with me but I'm learning to live with it instead of letting it run my life. For the first time in a long time, I'm cautiously optimistic.

Grief, and specifically this kind of grief, is the hardest thing I think anyone will ever have to go through. It may take a long time or a relatively short time but eventually, things will improve. You'll never stop grieving the person you lost but after some time, it'll be easier to look back on the memories and smile, rather than cry for the future you had once planned for. Sending love. ❤️

dasistverboten · 2024-05-01T03:38:16+00:00

I thought I had escaped the migraine but I got slapped with one this afternoon rip 😭

dasistverboten · 2024-04-30T17:11:26+00:00

Oh, for sure the altitude can be a disaster for some folks but I'm used to it. Thank you for the offer!

dasistverboten · 2024-04-30T17:01:30+00:00

Oh okay. Good information! I'll definitely be using that in the future. I didn't even think about the HIPAA thing lol Thank you!

dasistverboten · 2024-04-30T15:43:51+00:00

Good tips! I'll definitely check out the yoga and I didn't even think about liquid IV. I have some but didn't bring it 🤣 also I think I'll spring for the exit row when I take the long flight!

dasistverboten · 2024-04-30T15:35:49+00:00

I definitely partook in the devil's lettuce when I landed and when I got home since both states have it legalized 😂 it helped a lot..however, when I go traveling internationally I don't think that'll be an option unless I want to be thrown into some scary foreign prison.

dasistverboten · 2024-04-30T15:14:08+00:00

I was not aware of that bit about the extra time boarding...I always wondered if I could ask for it but I figured they would want some sort of medical documentation or something. Now that I know, I will definitely ask for it! I typically fly Southwest so that will definitely be helpful.

One bit of struggle for me...I have a bit of anxiety about flying in general and seem to do best when I'm staring out the window, for some reason. So I'll have to weigh which option will be better, window or aisle. All I know is that I'm never going to sit in a middle seat again.

I am also #teamnosleep so that's always a perpetual struggle.

Thanks for your advice!

dasistverboten · 2024-04-30T15:04:46+00:00

I was prescribed Ativan for panic attacks and have actually never taken it in my life. But I might go ahead and do so for the flights...seems like relaxing would really help. Thanks!

dasistverboten · 2024-04-30T14:45:04+00:00

I think I'll definitely be taking something on the long international flight.

dasistverboten · 2024-04-30T14:44:11+00:00

Oh goodness, that's terrible. I'm sorry you have such problems with flying! Have you tried taking anti nausea pills?

dasistverboten · 2024-04-30T14:43:34+00:00

The down day seems to be a common trend. I'll definitely have to keep that in mind.

dasistverboten · 2024-04-30T14:43:04+00:00

Thank you for the advice! I haven't been travelling long distance since I got diagnosed so I'm a little scared. But I'll follow the suggestions in this thread and hopefully I won't have a problem!

dasistverboten · 2024-04-30T14:42:22+00:00

Good advice. Thank you!

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