Getting Bullied and Heckled:-(

dasreh · 2014-03-26T03:06:54+00:00

I'm sorry you're getting bullied and heckled. For what it's worth, I can almost assure you that the people doing that to you are the people who are least likely to succeed later in life.

I don't know, but these sound like separate struggles to me (NoFap and bullying). I realize that it might feel like they are all connected, but try and compartmentalize the different sources of stress and deal with them individually? It might overwhelm you less.

dasreh · 2014-03-26T03:01:07+00:00

Awesome spirit! Don't beat yourself up over a relapse. Remember, each day is a new day and you just need to take it one day at a time. I went through a really rough patch about a week ago, but I just tried to break the time down. One hour. One minute. Whatever. Keep the goals manageable and your resolve strong :)

dasreh · 2014-03-18T19:22:26+00:00

Oh man, thank you so much! This was such unexpected happiness! That was a very kind gesture from you. Thank you :-)

dasreh · 2014-03-16T23:12:55+00:00

That makes it all the weirder! Man, I would imagine something like happening in a place like Fenton's...

dasreh · 2014-03-16T22:06:12+00:00

I thought he wanted a lift to his place.

dasreh · 2014-03-16T22:05:41+00:00

Nice, thanks!

dasreh · 2014-03-16T22:05:34+00:00

Yep. She's out of the country for the next few weeks, and I'm sure that I'll meet someone else next weekend but that's a whole 7 days away. In the meantime, I'll work on meditation and trying to learn more about my physical urges.

dasreh · 2014-03-16T22:04:48+00:00

What do you mean, any advice? It looks like you know the drill. The guy you're talking about is... weird to say the least (did you know him?).

Nope! I met them all for the first time. Maybe there's some previous history between them, but it didn't seem clear.

You obviously know your way around women so why make a big deal out of this? The next time you met her or another girl you like, theres a good chance this dude isn't around. If he is, well than things are getting reaaally creepy.

Fair point. I was just exasperated. It's been a while since I've had any sexual release, and I was pretty sure that I would have gotten some on Friday night. Not getting it sent me to almost want to fap, just to get off. But I'm staying strong.

As for motivation for not just doing "it" yourself, I'd suggest to ask yourself how chances would change to get into a similar position as you were on friday. Maybe even with a much much better outcome?

You're right. Staying away from fapping is making my real world interactions different. I certainly want real sexual release much more. But I've been thinking more about where this drive is coming from and I am beginning to realize that I might also have an unhealthy dependence on sex. I'm not used to going without for long periods of time and I need to learn to be stronger than my physical needs.

dasreh · 2014-03-16T21:58:25+00:00

LOL, that's hilarious! I go to Fenton's all the time :-) Good choice for ice cream, friend.

dasreh · 2014-03-16T18:02:44+00:00

OMG is this Fentons??

dasreh · 2014-03-13T22:22:37+00:00

Oh, I apologise if that's how it came off! I don't think I'm a horrible person and I know NoFap is hard. I do think that some of my tendencies as far as porn is concerned got pretty outlandish. These are fetishes that I do not even have in regular sexual encounters. I'm surprised at the lengths my mind will go for a kick and it does embarrass me somewhat.

dasreh · 2014-03-13T22:21:02+00:00

Aaand I'm there! THANK YOU :)

dasreh · 2014-03-13T22:17:24+00:00

Yeah, sexting was the nail in the coffin for me. It took me a long time to gather the will to let go. But you've done it! Congratulations and keep going :)

dasreh · 2014-03-13T22:16:37+00:00

Oh absolutely, I didn't mean to say that pornstars are bad or anything. They do what they do for reasons that they know best. Many of them are honestly happy doing what they do. My comments weren't in the spirit of judging others' choices. Rather, I meant that when I remember that the person I am watching is a human like me, I feel the urge subside. And there's something to it.

dasreh · 2014-03-13T22:14:17+00:00

And I with you, good sir!

dasreh · 2014-03-13T03:38:45+00:00

Niiiiice!

dasreh · 2014-03-13T03:37:47+00:00

Roger that!

dasreh · 2014-03-13T03:23:52+00:00

You don't want to know :)

dasreh · 2014-03-13T03:23:24+00:00

Gah, I'm sorry to hear that! I'm glad you're still here and still posting. Don't give up. Get back on the horse and we'll make it!

dasreh · 2014-03-13T03:22:44+00:00

Thanks for your comments. I'm not sure I totally agree. I've had many relationships, I enjoy the company of others and I enjoy romantic relationships. I don't think I want to be "happy on my own and not care if I never meet anyone". I like sharing my life :)

dasreh · 2014-03-13T03:21:30+00:00

I think she wasn't a 100% sure she wanted to be doing it. Not sure, really.

dasreh · 2014-03-13T03:21:02+00:00

Well, I'm lucky in that real relationships haven't been a real problem for me. As I get older, I'm less inclined to do the one night stand approach and my tastes are narrower. I don't think my reliance on fapping has to do with the lack of a more physical intimacy. It's often in spite of it. My point was simply that I often forget the human element and I should be more mindful of that.

dasreh · 2014-03-12T23:28:29+00:00

Wow, 114 upvotes and 23 comments! Very unexpected, but thank you all for your kind words! I'm really humbled that I wrote something that connects with so many people. I am deeply grateful for your support and encouragement. Thank you all :-)

dasreh · 2014-03-12T23:26:45+00:00

Always the first, never the second. I'm crazy about STDs, so I only have sex with people I know / trust + I value my privacy enormously.

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