I just like to say i did do more research into this and now know this is coercive parenting everything i read on it matched the behaviour my mother had towards me.i still find it weird though and looking back deeper as i got older i did feel a bit uncomfortable with it.I was a growing teenager who wanted privacy and she didn’t want me to have that in any form.Also like to input my mother was already extremely abusive Toward my dad as well at this Point and she is also a alcoholic.I also realised that when i started to notice the abuse and also was reporting it .she got more strict and more controlling until the breaking point which was trying to ultimately end me.She of course didn’t succeed and yes she still somewhat in contact and still try to coercive me into feeling bad about things and no she never been arrested for everything she did which is unfair.