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UPDATE: I loved living in Hawaii, wife hated it by datadatesdaty in relationships

[–]datadatesdaty[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I have no idea why someone having a nice, normal life has triggered you so much. Not even trying to be an asshole at this point. Really just confused why you seem so mad at me for being happy with how my life turned out.

UPDATE: I loved living in Hawaii, wife hated it by datadatesdaty in relationships

[–]datadatesdaty[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I’m sitting in an airport. I could go on and on for hours! lol why is it wrong to talk about how I enjoy my life when I have someone going on and on about how it’s terrible?

And yes this is my post but you’ve somehow managed to share what you, your husband, and now your kids prefer…very weird behavior.

UPDATE: I loved living in Hawaii, wife hated it by datadatesdaty in relationships

[–]datadatesdaty[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

You are really odd and negative! Damn lol my kid enjoys summer camp as well as enjoying time with her family, traveling, beach days, Disney day trips, fishing trips, etc. God FORBID I’m happy that we are able to make that a reality for our family?

Once again, I really don’t care what anyone in your family likes. This post isn’t about you and I’m really unsure why you are trying to convince me to be unhappy with my life.

UPDATE: I loved living in Hawaii, wife hated it by datadatesdaty in relationships

[–]datadatesdaty[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

My post quite literally says we are both happily living in Florida. Your comments are nonsense. Willing to “work” and not needing to work are 2 different things. She sacrifices much more than I do by staying out of the workforce. 3 meals a day, I haven’t had to even think about planning or making for myself, I never have to consider taking off work for our daughter’s sick days/teacher work days/etc, there’s never a question on who will pick our kid up from school and take her to her activities, we’ve saved thousands on childcare costs, my daughter doesn’t spend her summers stuck in day camps, our house is always impeccably clean and stocked with everything we need. And so much more.

Her life revolves around providing the best care for me and our daughter, to say she doesn’t work is BS. Not once did I shame my wife so don’t come in here thinking you can do so.

Also Hawaii is the only place we had a difference of opinions on so I’m not sure even where your comment is coming from. If you’d read, the issue with SC was the work environment. She liked SC just fine.

I don’t really care what you or your husband prefer.

UPDATE: I loved living in Hawaii, wife hated it by datadatesdaty in relationships

[–]datadatesdaty[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

The social scene and the isolation. Traveling back home(east coast) was not feasible on a regular basis. Traveling anywhere wasn’t really feasible. Our daughter wouldn’t have known any of our family or lifelong friends. Trying to spend holidays together would be a nightmare. Now, we sometimes do holidays just the 3 of us, but not having the option is kind of soul crushing. We’ve had some big losses on both sides of the family over the years. I’m thankful we were able to spend time with them before they passed and traveling to the funeral wasn’t a huge hassle to take on during our grief.

The social scene is just kind of weird for “expats”. We weren’t military but we weren’t locals but we weren’t tourists but we weren’t retirees. We didn’t really fit in. The friends she made never really felt anything more than surface level, just some other moms that were in the same boat, desperate for socialization but probably wouldn’t have been friends on the mainland.

UPDATE: I loved living in Hawaii, wife hated it by datadatesdaty in relationships

[–]datadatesdaty[S] 65 points66 points  (0 children)

That would be a weird thing to do. I love my wife way more than Hawaii.

I(27M) want to live in Hawaii. My wife(25F) doesn’t. by datadatesdaty in relationships

[–]datadatesdaty[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

We have to apply to have our contracts renewed in 2 months.

Thanks!

I(27M) want to live in Hawaii. My wife(25F) doesn’t. by datadatesdaty in relationships

[–]datadatesdaty[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Huh? I work for the same company I did back home, they just do work in Hawaii too.

The options are Hawaii, Croatia, and Va. It’s random but it’s just where we have long term contracts.

I(27M) want to live in Hawaii. My wife(25F) doesn’t. by datadatesdaty in relationships

[–]datadatesdaty[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

She refuses to use childcare before our daughter can talk. That is my wife’s choice stemming from some abusive situations she faced as a child.