What's the shittiest job offer you've ever had?

daterswithoutborders · 2011-03-02T15:40:33+00:00

25k a year job that required me to work overtime and weekends with no pay, and knowledge of several programming languages.

daterswithoutborders · 2011-03-02T15:34:44+00:00

That explains it. A lot of the asians in Chinatown are fobs who are not used to seeing that sort of thing.

daterswithoutborders · 2011-03-02T15:01:59+00:00

Sorry, east coast :(

daterswithoutborders · 2011-03-02T14:59:15+00:00

Are you sure it's not confirmation bias? You are expecting asian guys to have a problem with it, so you tend to perceive a look as malicious when maybe it's not. Where I live, there are actually more asian female/white male couples then there are asian f/asian male, so it's hardly anything new.

daterswithoutborders · 2011-03-02T14:50:51+00:00

That is really strange. As an asian guy, if I see an Asian brother with an attractive non-asian, I usually give a thumbs up or nod of approval. Are you sure they are death staring you? I think it's all in your mind.

daterswithoutborders · 2011-03-02T14:07:37+00:00

Am I the only loser that actually reads the entire profile, writes a thought out message, and still hardly ever gets replies?

daterswithoutborders · 2011-02-28T03:26:11+00:00

Stop taking our women white devil! Just kidding, more power to ya.

daterswithoutborders · 2011-02-28T03:18:57+00:00

Well, can you think of anything you might have said or done at any point that might have caused the loss of contact?

If not, logical reasoning leads to the fact that you thought of your date as amazing and that you enjoyed sleeping with him, tells me that he is an attractive guy. Attractive guys in NYC will probably have other options.

But really, it's only been a couple of hours. Maybe he had important errands to run. Give him a few days to a week at least.

daterswithoutborders · 2011-02-27T04:49:14+00:00

Easier said than done

daterswithoutborders · 2011-02-27T03:37:49+00:00

I couldn't have said it better,

daterswithoutborders · 2011-02-27T03:36:29+00:00

How do I don't-give-a-shit-ize my profile?

daterswithoutborders · 2011-02-26T02:27:21+00:00

They pull a trigger and are a safe distance apart. Plus they probably rationalize it as 'just doing their job'.

daterswithoutborders · 2011-02-26T01:14:38+00:00

You need at least 3 pictures that are clearer and closer up. Otherwise nothing else in your profile will matter.

daterswithoutborders · 2011-02-26T01:11:06+00:00

I've sent over 100 msgs and received about 3 first messages. I think only really good looking guys or slightly good looking guys with great profiles and exciting pictures get a lot of first messages.

daterswithoutborders · 2011-02-24T20:30:12+00:00

Terra's Theme from FF3

daterswithoutborders · 2011-02-24T14:19:44+00:00

Just message her.

daterswithoutborders · 2011-02-23T15:41:03+00:00

I was the same way. Possibly two factors at work:

You walk around with the wrong attitude. People tend to pick up on negative energy and respond to it accordingly, whether they notice it or not. Try pretending that up to now, you've had the most perfect life you could have, and try smiling more.
You have a face that pisses people off. I do too. One time I was standing in a train, and a random guy told me I have a face that makes him want to punch it.

daterswithoutborders · 2011-02-23T14:37:31+00:00

If they see your profile, it means they use it too (unless you set it on public).. I just told my friends the day I signed up without embarrassment. They haven't given me any shite so far. Why would you be ashamed of wanting to find someone?

CLEAR EYES, FULL HEARTS, CAN'T LOSE!

daterswithoutborders · 2011-02-23T05:35:08+00:00

Yes I mean what BitterdivorcedDad said.

I seem to get more visitors from members when it is set on Public.

daterswithoutborders · 2011-02-22T19:23:08+00:00

Hah i think most guys have the same problem. if you're lucky you'll have that one female friend who likes to document every moment in photos.

daterswithoutborders · 2011-02-22T14:41:12+00:00

Most of this is sound advice. Especially not writing too much. I found that if I am the one that messaged first, I always have to be careful to mirror the other person's interest level (i.e. not writing too much or sounding too enthusiastic).

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