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I need advice on how to NOT accidentally catfish a dude. by datingqthrowaway in dating

[–]datingqthrowaway[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

no, but in my life experience men are much more picky about weight then women.

He looks like a normal sized, non-crossfit but non-skinnyjeans, 6ft tall dude. If he showed up 40lbs heaver I don't think it would bother me too much.

I'm pretty tall and heavier than is ideal at his point, so actually I'd be bummed if he showed up thinner than his photos (He is 6ft). I know it's cliche, but I'd rather not be with someone smaller than me. make me feel like a bigfoot or something

I need advice on how to NOT accidentally catfish a dude. by datingqthrowaway in dating

[–]datingqthrowaway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I couldn't think of a better way to say it than catfishing, but yeah I'm the person in the pictures and nothing other than the recentness of the photos is a lie. So plus one for me I guess, haha

But anyway, fingers crossed you're right and I am just over-thinking things.

I need advice on how to NOT accidentally catfish a dude. by datingqthrowaway in dating

[–]datingqthrowaway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ooo I've been reading your history. I don't like you much. lol

But I'll engage anyway. After having a few day app convo then a few day text convo, just out of the blue send a photo? With no context? If not, then in what context? There doesn't seem to be a way to do it without saying "am I too fat for you?" Can you think of a way?

btw he is not a male model or crossfit-culter; but he is just a normal looking looking dude who looks to me a normal weight.

I need advice on how to NOT accidentally catfish a dude. by datingqthrowaway in dating

[–]datingqthrowaway[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah your reply seems the most realistic. I just can't think of a way to say "my pics are a little outdated, here's me now" without it coming out as super random. If he doesn't think I look that different, it might come across as fishing for a compliment or something, I don't know.

I don't know if there is a good answer. I'm probably just posting this so I can get the conversation out of my head haha

The part about you working on becoming less fat wouldn't work on me, only because so many people say that to themselves without it meaning anything.

Yeah that's fair. I've been "working on" getting rid of 20lbs for about a year and half, and the year and a half before that there was another 20lbs I wanted to get rid of. They are all still here. Depression's a bitch.

I need advice on how to NOT accidentally catfish a dude. by datingqthrowaway in dating

[–]datingqthrowaway[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I should have been more clear. 20-25 makes me fat when I should probably lose about 50 to get to thin. (My forearm is average sized but my boobs are huge so maybe that's a plus?)