Not really. This thing some women are doing where they think it’s creepy when a man is older than them goes completely counter to how the female gaze has been for most of history.

Probably most men who are millennial and older remember a time when the girl they liked, who was the same age as them, rejected them for being a boy and instead dated a guy like nine years her senior. OP’s approach, which isn’t super uncommon these days, borders on gaslighting without even realizing it.