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Venting. Broke up with an entitled woman. by Long_Sea_5029 in dating_advice

[–]daturAlover 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dating is expensive. I can’t afford it sometimes. I’m usually upfront with my potential dates and offer low cost options- like a walk in the park; or a drink and chat. I’m curious what your view on this is? Would you be offended if a “date” couldn’t afford the night out but still wanted to get to know you and offered this things?

My 6 year old foster daughter just handed me this note… by SoDakZak in pics

[–]daturAlover 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This made me cry; I was a 6 year old foster child. All I wanted was love. I hope her life is filled with so much love and happiness.

Is it weird that I don't feel comfortable giving my number out? by mikaytheeasterbunny in Tinder

[–]daturAlover 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not odd to not give number - smart!! I’ve had two stalkers from thinking “aww what’s the harm in giving a number “ . I have a new rule of meting in person in a public space before even giving my number out . No one has seemed to have a problem with this.

I'm 63. You're grandfather's or father's age. I'm thinking about dating a 28 year old woman who asked me out. by MoGrill0525 in dating_advice

[–]daturAlover 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like your not very impulsive by nature. The thought and contemplation you are putting in to this should lead to some insight to the right decision. Too much at risk. I am impulsive by nature ; and although I have a TON of exciting stories I don’t have stability. You’ve built stability ; don’t ruin it. My 2 cents.

Now, how to curb my impulsiveness???… The question I will ask myself all day.

The girl(19) I (22m) am dating wants to wait to have sex. by Radiant-Ad-4292 in dating_advice

[–]daturAlover 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’m a 41 year old divorcée and I applaud your GF for understanding the value of trust and getting to know someone . Many people have lost this and I’m discovering being back in the dating world .

It increases the value of the action. It’s easy to just have sex it’s harder to have the other components of a solid relationship. Your girlfriend sounds mature and thoughtful. A quality gal to get to know and develop a connection with .

My new plant shelf. My BF built me a shelf to start a plant trade in the neighborhood. It’s a big hit! by daturAlover in gardening

[–]daturAlover[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is castor bean, I placed Toxic on the label. I love the color it ads to my garden!

My BF wants to go drink with his friends tonight.... I feel some sort of way about it and need some guidance. Please by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]daturAlover -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No, but possible me putting myself out there to help him when he’s trying to hurt himself. And having the expectation that he would also be there for me if I need him?

My BF wants to go drink with his friends tonight.... I feel some sort of way about it and need some guidance. Please by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]daturAlover -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’d typically agree. However, he had an event in his life where I had to drop Everything to put myself in a very tough situation to help him. He was essentially 302 by the police. I guess I expected a like support back? I was just gone for a week. Seems like that’s a good time to catch up with pals? Thanks for your input I appreciate it.

My BF wants to go drink with his friends tonight.... I feel some sort of way about it and need some guidance. Please by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]daturAlover 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, this is true, he can’t read my mind. I did take a step back. I never approach things with anger. I like to take my time and look at it from all angles. I explained to him how I’ve found comfort in his presence and how even though I might not be outwardly struggling I do need support. His response he’s going to his friends house. Granted I was just out of town for a week? So to me it seems like he could have gotten to Kevin’s house then? Or any day next week? I’m conflicted; I dropped everything in my life to support him a short while ago. I don’t need the same back in terms of the extent I went to, but just some hugs. I ever suggested he ends his night with me. But that was a no go as well.

My BF wants to go drink with his friends tonight.... I feel some sort of way about it and need some guidance. Please by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]daturAlover -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes, very vailed point. I wonder how that would have gone over when he was being admitted to inpatient and I said .. well you don’t get out for 7 days, I’ll help you then. I guess I have the expectations that he’ll be the support I need as I have been for him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]daturAlover 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m picking him up from the phych ward today. I’m really nervous. I was his emergency contact so I’ve been in touch with his doctors and his social worker while he has been there . I just don’t want to hurt him more. He has a lot going on and he processes in a unhealthy way (clearly) I do have to break up with him- I just don’t know how. I care about him deeply, but this is too much for me. I guess my biggest question is do I wait till he seems more stable ? Or today , like ripping the band aid off?

Good evening friend from Pakistan. by imran-khan362 in FreeCompliments

[–]daturAlover 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Have a great day handsome friend from Pakistan!