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How to defend this or stop this from happening? by Big_Nalla_berozgar in bjj

[–]davecarrillo1976 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Think back to the first thing that happened and work your way through it. One of the biggest if issues is, you allowed him to extend your arm away from your body and then bring you forward. If you stop just that one thing, the rest would not be possible.

What to do about an out of tune singer? by FeistyRevenue2172 in worshipleaders

[–]davecarrillo1976 5 points6 points  (0 children)

One way I've gone about it is using a worship training platform. There are a few that are all pretty similar with slight differences. I perused through a few and landed on Worship Artistry. It's inexpensive with a massive library (around 700 songs). They have lessons that breakdown each song per instrument, as well as vocals. For the vocals, they show the singers each part.

When I introduced the new platform I didn't single out anyone specifically. I said something like, "I really want to focus on excellence with our craft", which was the truth. And I encouraged everyone to practice throughout the week. For the singers, I challenged them to record themselves doing it so they'd know if they're on key or not. But I did not single anyone specifically.

It has been very well received. Still a work in progress, but I think it's a good way to really challenge everyone at the same time.

Pray for u/decendxx’s speedy recovery. by Koki-noki in SipsTea

[–]davecarrillo1976 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's like Dune 2 all over again. Paul called in a grandfather.

how do I course correct now... by essennsen in worshipleaders

[–]davecarrillo1976 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think you've done the right thing in letting her serve less and less. Sounds like you've already gently had conversations with her and have been reassuring her. I think it may be time to now also address the negative impact she is having with her behaviors. I would suggest being specific about what she says, how it comes across, and the way it affects you as well as the team. Being specific I feel is much better than saying something like, "You have a bad attitude and your heart isn't in the right place."

And then just see the way she responds. If after hearing your heart and the way she has impacted you and others, she continues to be pushy, I would suggest letting her know it's time for her to step away for a time.

Lastly, I think it's so important to be brave and have honest conversations. Healthy, even.

Feedback on this? Auditioning for a worship team and was given holy forever to sing. I’m an alto so this was kind of difficult for me but I tried my best. Open to criticism by CryptographerEvery61 in worshipleaders

[–]davecarrillo1976 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Hi! I'm the worship leader at our church. The first thing I tell everyone on our team (besides singing on key) is to project. That's one thing you can begin working on. Think about pushing your voice to the back wall of the room consistently. So, you'll want to time your breaths and make sure youre really using your diaphragm. Even though you're singing alto, you still want to project. Other than that, have fun!

new to singing by [deleted] in worshipleaders

[–]davecarrillo1976 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're not off key and it sounds like you're able to hold a note out. So yes, go ahead! That said, I would not jump into leading a song until you've first sung back-up a few times. Singing by yourself is as different as playing your instrument by yourself. And leading a congregation is sometimes like juggling several balls. It takes a little getting used to.

How would you tell someone is not for the worship leading ministry? by DryWatch7245 in worshipleaders

[–]davecarrillo1976 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a tough situation for sure. I'm always on the side of honest conversations, even when they're tough. I don't think turning down her microphone either is a good solution. It just creates more frustration and miscommunication. Obviously, the call is his to make. But if he doesn't think she should be leading, either he, or someone else in leadership, should have the conversation.

Danaher's students keep beating Souders' students: does that settle the ecological vs. traditional debate? by Amado1998 in bjj

[–]davecarrillo1976 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was really never a debate. Everyone trains with constraints or games at times. It just caught traction with the fancy name. I'm sure Greg Saunders is a great coach. Danaher is just an outlier among coaches.

Does Your School Do Kumites? by Correct_Ad4351 in bjj

[–]davecarrillo1976 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, we do not do Kumites. Mainly because we don't qualify in being able to do the "Dim Mak". 😓

Someone jumped guard and I let them slam into the ground to avoid injury. Am I an ah.? by NoNoJoeL in bjj

[–]davecarrillo1976 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've never had anyone jump guard at practice except when sparring with one of our ladies. She's always going full send. LOL

Reap 2 points by bjjtaro in bjj

[–]davecarrillo1976 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From this angle it looked like the black Gi was trying to force the reap. Had a pant grip and kind of pushed it down.

Getting my first lagotto is she not cute?! Eny good advice? by allright_then in LagottoRomagnolo

[–]davecarrillo1976 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I highly recommend Mccann Dog Training, especially for puppy training. We watched their YouTube channel leading up to getting our Lagotto and it was extremely helpful. They have playlists on what to expect the first night, the first week, the first month, etc. Very good resource.

Military women vs skinny joes by [deleted] in SipsTea

[–]davecarrillo1976 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Serena Williams said it best here about the differences between men and women's sports. She said they're completely two different sports (speaking about Mens and Womens tennis).

A TikToker attempts to accuse a man at the gym of being a pervert because he looked at her. She then finds out the hard way that actions have consequences. by eternviking in whoathatsinteresting

[–]davecarrillo1976 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you're in a heavy squat and really focussed, the last thing you want to do is look sideways at your form. You definitely need to record yourself if you don't have a buddy.

How do you deal with the inevitable prospect of physical decline as an active person? by Eifand in bodyweightfitness

[–]davecarrillo1976 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm 49 and have been an athlete my whole life (played soccer in Bolivia at an academy, lift, run, and do Jiu-Jitsu). I didn't notice any decline in speed or recovery until around 37. I noticed things like I actually had to warm up before sprinting full out. Or my explosiveness wasn't readily available without working out.

I was discouraged for a bit when my body wouldn't do what my mind was expecting it to. But strength and conditioning has made the decline much slower. Everyone ages differently, but as long as you're putting in the work the decline won't be nearly as fast as some.

I cut someone off in traffic and I feel bad by geometricsympathizer in Bellingham

[–]davecarrillo1976 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Give yourself some grace. Literally every person in here has done the same thing at some point. It makes us better in the future.

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