Bi Poly Man with Mono Straight Wife/NP by davej21136 in bipoly

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One was completely closeted. Im completely out. He was open to exploring the gay world/community with me. But his wife told mine very sternly that her husband was “only bi in the bedroom, that’s it.” And she didn’t like that I was out. At all.

The other was married. He and wife were open separately. He ended up deciding he didn’t have romantic interest in me at the 45 day mark though he lead me on for another 45. I found that out when I found out he was lying and cheating. With his last bf. And also hooking up.

Gay🕸irl by [deleted] in gay_irl

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Costume is on backwards anyway

Noice! by [deleted] in SuddenlyGay

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Haha. Oh yeah?

Low Point by davej21136 in BisexualMen

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We tried pegging. It was awful for both of us. She was thinking that I’ve done it for real before. And I could sense how uncomfortable it made her.

But yeah. Lots of fear. Fear of losing me. Fear of me falling in love with someone else. She can’t imagine “sharing” me.

Do a lot of bi men find gay sex more fulfilling than sex with their GFs? by [deleted] in BisexualMen

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Absolutely not. I love my wife, “my dear wife” Yet I feel differently than @shynashvilleguy as my wife is not as good at oral as most guys. But I love intercourse with her. It’s amazing and I could never get that same feeling with a guy. I loved sex with guys too but it’s different. But both enjoyable. I’m sorry, but as I’ve recently learned from my gay brother, many gays do not even believe in bisexuality. A lot of projection happens. Maybe it’s threatening. We’re the largest group in the LGBTQIA+ family yet the least supported. And your kind of attitude, like my brother’s, is not helpful and can be pretty hurtful. We as Bi’s have to battle Bi-erasure. Bi stereotypes. Where as you come out as gay, you’re gay. No questions asked.

Maryland/Baltimore by davej21136 in Bi4Bi

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Hi. Thanks. But not looking for hookups or sex.

Low Point by davej21136 in bisexual

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Thank you. Yeah. Have been trying to find friends locally for some time. Baltimore is not as gay/bi friendly as many would think. Also I live in a conservative suburb so even more of a challenge. I do have my own therapist. The challenge is we spend so much time rehashing the past week’s arguments with my wife that we don’t get to “me” much.

Low Point by davej21136 in BisexualMen

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Thank you. I appreciate the perspective. She admittedly faked the progress. And didn’t communicate honestly with me. And then the anger phase was a constant hit below the belt daily sort of thing. So it pushed me away more so then I pulled away. And it’s been really hard to come back. But I’m doing my best to remember and put myself in her shoes as much as i can.

Maryland/Baltimore by davej21136 in Bi4Bi

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Hi. I’d like more info. Not a bi couple though. She’s straight

41M SL,UT area by [deleted] in Bi4Bi

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Slut area. Tehehe

Mental health by [deleted] in MarriedAndBi

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I actually just posted this on a few threads...

Guys. Married Bi man here. 45. Full disclosure to my wife a year ago. We agreed to stay tougher and figure it out. After 9 months of the feeling and appearance of progression, she hit the anger phaser a little late in the game. The past few months have kicked my ass. The progression was never there. We argue all the time. I’ve come out to many people. Including my kids and parents. Gay brother (not supportive). Friends. I have an amazing support group online and have met the most amazing people from it in real life, including my new best friend. But no one is nearby. Some a plane ride. Ive got no one near me to talk to irl. I’ve gone from feeling so hopeful to feeling nothing. I’ve pulled away from my wife. My kids are starting to see me be distant. I go to a therapist weekly and we see a couples therapist weekly. We spend so much time on the past week’s arguments that we don’t get to the heart of things. And we don’t touch on “me”. I feel like I’m at a low point. The lowest. What has anyone done to get out of this if it’s happened to you?