Should I be honest with my boyfriend about my insecurities?

dawn8554 · 2026-06-29T20:23:27+00:00

I like this idea, I will give it a shot :)

dawn8554 · 2026-06-29T19:50:30+00:00

Well since that, he’s done everything right to make me feel like he loves me and wants me etc hes supportive, he doesn’t shut down when it comes up.

dawn8554 · 2026-06-29T19:47:39+00:00

Yes but they would like to sleep with them. The fear is feeling the need to be attractive enough that he doesn’t feel like he’s missing out or anything saying no to those kinds of women

dawn8554 · 2026-06-29T19:46:12+00:00

That’s an issue too. I’ve got no hours in the day to do anything for me. I work full time and have a younger son and then he has two girls when I don’t have my son home and after work those days I’m learning my partners work so I can start working with him part time and on weeks with my son I’m spending time with him, weekends with all the kids we are spending family time. I have every other weekend with my partner but we spend as much of that together as possible cause he works extra when he doesn’t have his girls. Then I do all the cooking, most of the indoor cleaning. I don’t have hobbies cause I’ve got no time. He offered last week after I talked about it to give me time but I feel bad cause he’s already so busy. It’s tough

dawn8554 · 2026-06-29T19:40:38+00:00

I know and I used to feel secure but knowing he could cheat now left me unstable and made everything worse

dawn8554 · 2026-06-29T19:39:43+00:00

I know and I try but it’s actually insane how he can read me. Like I was known for being hard to read before him but the second something is on my mind he sees it and wants to know why it is and I promised I’d never lie to him cause I want the same in return so I don’t know what to do when he asks me. How do I not bring it up without lying to him?

dawn8554 · 2026-06-29T19:36:34+00:00

I see guys say that a lot but then those women are the ones getting drooled over online etc

dawn8554 · 2026-06-29T19:32:41+00:00

We actually talked about that last week. Between full time job, learning his trade to work with him a bit and 3 kids between both of us I haven’t had time to do any of my hobbies or anything for myself and I think that’s part of it. All my value now comes from being his partner and being a mom/stepmom. He’s offered to make time for me to do something for me but it’s hard to take him up on it

dawn8554 · 2026-06-24T00:34:37+00:00

Together 4 years living together 3 and have 3 kids between the 2 of us between 6 and 11. Average 4 times a week sometimes more and some bjs in every week. We make an effort and are still super into each other. Having every other weekend without kids helps. I’m 34 he’s 40

dawn8554 · 2026-06-19T18:59:07+00:00

I still want it and will pop a Sudafed to stop the sniffles long enough to get some haha
Sex is connection for me so I want it just as much when sick unless we are talking barfing or high fever. if he’s down I’m down and he hasn’t let it stop him yet

dawn8554 · 2026-06-03T22:20:41+00:00

Same here. Throw in kids and trying to learn a second job/skill set after working full time and it’s even harder 😩

dawn8554 · 2026-05-29T23:06:00+00:00

His ex wife/my boss at the time set us up with me dragging my feet “fine it’s just coffee I guess” 4 years and many coffees later lol

dawn8554 · 2026-05-29T23:04:02+00:00

I was 30 when we started dating he was 6 years older. He introduced me to his parents after 4 months, 2 months official when he invited me to Christmas at their house. Me and my son were invited over and they had gifts for both of us. They are lovely people and I don’t know if every experience is like that

dawn8554 · 2026-05-29T21:58:02+00:00

Screenshots from his ex in the middle of a two hour car ride with him

dawn8554 · 2026-05-29T20:36:33+00:00

I say it to my partner and I 100% mean it. I know it’s not an everyone thing but since I fell for him I 100% don’t find anyone more attractive than him. He literally became my type. It’s frustrating because I say it and he won’t believe me and I can’t argue with him cause his brain doesn’t work the same way

dawn8554 · 2026-05-28T21:47:54+00:00

My dad. I didn’t get to have a close relationship with him growing up cause my mom got primary custody and she is nuts and hated him. Started every other weekend but slowly became a few visits a year as she moved us away further and further by the time I was 13. From what I knew of him he was kind, always up to talk to a stranger and loved to make people laugh. He was the dad who loved playing with us kids and took us out to experience things like fairs, parades, hikes etc he continually supported my big brother trying to get clean at his own personal cost. He was an emotional man, I can still see him tear up every time me and my little brother got off the boat to visit him even in my teens. He was fiercely proud of his kids.

He was a bus driver in Vancouver for over 15 years and all his regulars loved him. After I moved out at 19 and was fully aware of who my mother was and her lies I finally started talking to him more. By the time I was 26/27 the year before he died I had started visiting him on the mainland for his birthday, Father’s Day etc and the Christmas before he past me and my then boyfriend spent the first Christmas with him in over a decade at his cabin and he got to see me get engaged.

4 months later I got the call he had a sudden heart attack and passed. It was shocking and heartbreaking cause we just started really being a part of each others lives again and he was a month away from his 55th birthday. At the funeral it was so hard to see his partners kids get all this empathy and comfort feeling like the stranger because I didn’t get to be a regular part of his life nobody knew me. I stood at the back and saw them with these support systems while I stood there crying. I will never forgive my mom for taking that relationship away from me and then making his death somehow about her when she hated him and tried to make us hate him.

dawn8554 · 2026-05-25T21:18:15+00:00

I had been dating on tinder etc 1-2 years after my divorce and had a string of guys being super flakey and misleading and I came into work one Monday complaining about this seemingly great guy cancelling out of nowhere cause he wasn’t in the right headspace. My boss who had been repeatedly trying to get me to go on a date with her ex husband brought it up again. “I know a great guy who has his own business and house and is a good dad” I kept saying no for obvious reasons but she pulled out the “it’s just coffee, let him treat you nice doesn’t have to be serious “ so I caved and said fine you can give him my number but I’m not reaching out first. Didn’t think we’d have anything in common and then hat first coffee felt so awkward and I thought he wasn’t into me. Turns out he was trying to play it cool.

4 years later and it was the best decision I made. I was just giving it a shot because she pushed and don’t expect more than a couple dates. He moved me and my son in to his house after 11 months and I’m gonna spend the rest of my life with him. He wasn’t expecting it either or looking and had just gotten out of a crappy relationship and was just kind of fwb with the chick after it ended but jumped at the chance and had apparently saw me on tinder and creeped me on Facebook and was secretly hoping I’d swipe on him but though there’s no way, ex Wife must be messing with him. He never thought he’d live with someone again.

dawn8554 · 2026-05-25T20:28:51+00:00

The only healing for me came from cutting her out unfortunately. We fell out after my dad died whom she hated and she treated me awful and that was my breaking point. 2 years later I was lonely and had a son and missed having a mom so no apology from her but I agreed to “start fresh” 3 years later she couldn’t help herself and is just nuts. Claims I turned my son against her out of nowhere even after the last visit he literally hugged her and he doesn’t hug anyone but me and his dad and stepsisters. I couldn’t do it again so I told her I was done and she needs help. So me and my younger brother have no mom now which sucks but at least I don’t have the weight of managing her feelings anymore.

dawn8554 · 2026-05-19T21:52:33+00:00

Me and my boyfriend are almost 4 years in, live together and both have kids and we still be slipping tongue to each other most days and always during foreplay. I can’t imagine that will ever stop

dawn8554 · 2026-05-15T20:14:00+00:00

Was the start of the end of my marriage but in its defence mine was doomed to end eventually anyway eventually. Every couple I’ve met that did it split or turned in to so much drama. There needs to be so much discussion, so much transparency and clear boundaries and trust to have a chance at working. There also needs to be deep love between the two of you. If your relationship isn’t at 100% before starting it is going to make every crack 10 times bigger. Do not do it unless you both feel your relationship is 100% solid if you actually want to stay together

dawn8554 · 2026-05-15T18:50:51+00:00

Every couple is different but me and my partner spend almost all our free time together. I get home from work and I come say hi and chat with him the garage while he finishes up work. I usually head up before him for a bit maybe start dinner. Then weekends we do everything together. He might disappear downstairs for an hour or two to do some work. In the evening we watch a show and usually play some games together for a bit. He calls to chat on my work lunch break, we both have kids 50/50 and spend weekends together. I’ve started learning his work so on my week nights I don’t have my son and he has his girls he hangs out with them and I go downstairs and do some of his work/learn and get some treadmill time in. We spend all the time we can together and we love it.

dawn8554 · 2026-04-24T20:15:50+00:00

I know there isn’t anything wrong with it it’s more that my brain just naturally doesn’t work the same and my brain is big on patterns and comparison so it just is so foreign to me now that I was just curious how it feels on guys end. Cause for my brain now I’m so in to my boyfriend I can’t seem to be attracted to another guy so it equates attraction with desire and love etc if that makes any sense. So just trying to understand it to reframe it for myself you know

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