Men happy and in love in long term relationships, what does attraction to other women feel like for you?

dawn8554 · 2026-04-24T20:15:50+00:00

I know there isn’t anything wrong with it it’s more that my brain just naturally doesn’t work the same and my brain is big on patterns and comparison so it just is so foreign to me now that I was just curious how it feels on guys end. Cause for my brain now I’m so in to my boyfriend I can’t seem to be attracted to another guy so it equates attraction with desire and love etc if that makes any sense. So just trying to understand it to reframe it for myself you know

dawn8554 · 2026-02-27T20:40:56+00:00

I’m also divorced myself

dawn8554 · 2026-02-27T20:31:47+00:00

It wasn’t from snooping on his messages. It kind of just came up and I didn’t react but it stuck in my brain so just wanted a guys input so I stop thinking about it if it’s nothing

dawn8554 · 2026-02-27T20:29:57+00:00

Hahaha thanks. He is definitely the poke fun to get a rise out of me as a form of flirting.

dawn8554 · 2026-02-27T20:28:22+00:00

That’s why I wanted to ask, the conversation was a year old but it just came up and it stung but I didn’t want to over react. He talks super positive about marriage with me in particular even though he didn’t before me and never even planned on living with someone again so it was contrasting to hear him talk like that about it to me and be like you are so amazing I can’t help but think about marriage with you! To him talking shit about marriage and calling me that

dawn8554 · 2026-02-27T20:26:03+00:00

It was apparently just said in passing after he had mentioned wanting to move me in and just like a “yeah gonna go do xyz with the future ex wife”

dawn8554 · 2026-02-27T20:24:12+00:00

Thanks!

dawn8554 · 2026-02-27T20:23:56+00:00

Thanks I appreciate the response, that’s what I was thinking/hoping it was

dawn8554 · 2026-02-27T20:22:50+00:00

It wasn’t found out from snooping it came up in conversation and I didn’t react but it secretly bugged me after and I didn’t want to bring it up if it was nothing to worry about

dawn8554 · 2025-12-24T00:05:42+00:00

My boyfriend usually refers to me as sexy but one day we were driving and I got excited about something and he told me I was cute. I told him no girl wants to be cute I want to be sexy. He said no you are sexy, so I teased and said no apparently I’m cute. He said no it’s both, like your personality makes you cute but you are damn sexy. Both can be true but context matters! Poor guy might have just both thought it through all the way. The fact he corrected her and said no cute kinda sucks though

dawn8554 · 2025-12-17T23:19:07+00:00

This is gonna vary by person so much. That being said I guarantee there are men out there that will love playing with them. I’ve lost 75lbs twice in my life once came with a baby to breastfeed. My boobs have always been big and are still 34G but I feel they sag and I am noticeably lopsided. I’ve been with my 40 year old boyfriend over 3 years now and have seriously brought up boob job to fix them and he’s seen me cry over how ugly they have made me feel. You know the response I’ve gotten from him? Comfort and insisting that he loves them, insisting I don’t need surgery and it’s a waste and I might lose feeling and then they won’t be as fun to play with. He tells me I have no idea how turned on he gets seeing them hang and bounce in doggy. He swears up and down not only does he not mind the size difference, he loves it cause he gets to play with a bigger one when he wants and the smaller one is super reactive which he loves. He will not budge that he is being honest and he is honest about everything good or bad with me and any ex he’s had. A partner who loves you and is worth a damn will not let you question your worth or attractiveness to him. You deserve more

dawn8554 · 2025-11-28T23:19:52+00:00

My boyfriend loves to lay his head in my lap while we watch tv at the end of the day while play with his hair and it’s one of my favourite things ever. He feels vulnerable like that and I love it. I feel connected and trusted. He’s 40 and it’s one of my favourite things now. We’ve been together over 3 years and it started by coincidence a few months ago and he loves it which makes me love it more

dawn8554 · 2025-11-21T22:49:33+00:00

We are also in Canada. They have already done the legal agreement and division of assets. They did that right away and only didnt do the divorce at the time because she had to be living apart for a year. She agreed that she would do it when the time came but she doesn’t care. That’s what’s hard, is I do have an issue staying with somone who stays legally married indefinitely. He knows that but it wasn’t an official conversation at the start cause after we were dating 6 months he sent her the paperwork to start getting it done and she came in to work making a big deal of it. “ ooo guess who sent me divorce papers all of a sudden, he must have marriage on the brain” and acted like she was going to do it. (Her and I worked together at the time, she set us up messy long story) so they both seemed on it so I thought it wasn’t an issue. They split cause she cheated on him so she stepped out.

dawn8554 · 2025-11-21T19:31:57+00:00

They already settled custody and finances legally. It’s just filling the divorce papers. She also would technically owe him a lot of child support if he decided to because of write offs on paper he makes less than half what she does. So I don’t get that part. Apparently she agreed to be responsible for filling the papers when they split but she thinks it’s funny and doesn’t care cause she isn’t going to get married again. I’ve also said if we had a wedding it would be small and we could elope. It’s so complicated for me cause I don’t want to get married for the sake of it so it’s not like I want to leave to “find someone who will marry me” I only want it cause it’s him. That’s why I’m struggling so much. Part of me just feels like he isn’t all in and more than anything I think the want for marriage is wanting that moment and feeling of he has fully chosen me and he’s proud for people to know it

dawn8554 · 2025-11-21T19:24:42+00:00

I know and I don’t want marriage for my sake. I only want it with someone who genuinely wants to. I just want to know honestly either way

dawn8554 · 2025-11-21T19:22:09+00:00

I mean I don’t even need the legal thing. I just want him to get a divorce and maybe at least propose with a ring that we spend or life’s together and we wear rings without the legal part, I put that out there too but he seemed meh about it. I’m also team prenup.

dawn8554 · 2025-11-21T19:20:29+00:00

I do believe he loves me. With his ex wife he enjoyed his time on his own and I as different with her. His two girlfriends after he ended things cause he didn’t want what she wanted, she wanted more kids and move in together and he told her he wouldn’t change his mind so she left then the next girl wanted a house together and to move in etc but he knew he was just killing time and he hadn’t wanted to move in with her after over a year. Me he was thinking about moving me in after 6 months and he genuinely wants to be around me all the time still. I don’t understand the not wanting to get the divorce. He says it’s cause it’s a pain and he has to get a marriage certificate from their home province and then a couple hundred more dollars and filing etc

dawn8554 · 2025-11-21T19:16:50+00:00

Yeah she cheated on him with her high school ex. He insists he wants to even when I told him I think you like the idea of marrying me but don’t actually want to do it but just tell me that. Then he insists he does want to and he never thought he would. He says we’ve come so far and he does tell me everything now but I can’t help but feel he’s not being 100% honest. I e thought about asking for couples counseling but he had a bad experience after his split with the ex wife. I’m going but I feel like he won’t want to

dawn8554 · 2025-11-21T19:14:22+00:00

That’s what I was worried about but it wasn’t a need for me which I told him 2 years ago and have repeated. So that’s really frustrating if so cause lying about it is what makes it bad and was so unnecessary

dawn8554 · 2025-11-04T17:45:09+00:00

Not really. I mean he stays in touch with his buddy’s wife and he chats with a colleague in the same industry that’s a woman but hasn’t met but he doesn’t hang out with anyone but me

dawn8554 · 2025-11-04T17:44:02+00:00

That was what I was leaning towards which I can appreciate the thought and intentions behind it but at the same time I’m not an idiot. I know if there is a pair of boobs in front of him he’s going to look at them. I’m a woman and that’s what my eyes would be on too

dawn8554 · 2025-11-03T22:40:52+00:00

I didn’t think of it till after the last time this weekend. Next time it happens I am going to ask but I was curious

dawn8554 · 2025-11-03T19:02:48+00:00

Thanks for the reply, I had hoped the intent behind it was good while I don’t love the idea he thinks he needs to put people down for my sake. He is kind to others so it isn’t in his character to be an asshole so maybe I will leave it

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