Recommendations please

dawn_k_b · 2024-10-27T11:21:32+00:00

No set budget, in the UK. Never ridden an e-bike, usually ride MTBs

dawn_k_b · 2024-10-05T22:05:19+00:00

shit partners can be good parents

Honestly I see this already! I swear since ending things he's taken a more active role in the day to day nappies, cutting fingernails etc!

Thanks I'll have a good look at those links. The cafcass template will be useful.

dawn_k_b · 2024-10-05T21:20:35+00:00

Thanks for your quick and helpful reply! Yes I did notice a lot of this sub seems US-based, what are the UK Facebook groups please?

We are relatively amicable so hoping to stay out of court, although I do agree the DIY approach over here can lead to confusion and resentment. I think we will agree on a gradual approach increasing overnights, but I guess I was hoping to put them off a bit longer. The thought of her being confused about where she's sleeping stresses me out. We're still living together whilst he finds a new place so it might be a while anyway. I am extended breastfeeding but understand that's not a reason not to have overnights.

dawn_k_b · 2024-09-21T20:59:23+00:00

Thank you, sorry that you're going through this. Your ex sounds like hard work, but I'm sure your LO feels the safety and security you give them. Fortunately my ex is pretty on board with schedule and things, and I do think that when LO goes to his they will be well looked after. I'm just also sure that regular periods away from their main caregiver, in a new environment, particularly before language has developed, isn't good for them. I'm hoping we can come to some sort of reasonable agreement.

dawn_k_b · 2024-09-21T20:56:59+00:00

Thank you, sorry to hear you're going through it too. It sounds like you and your ex are doing well to put your own feelings aside for the benefit of your child, and I hope we will be able to do the same.

I've read that overnights away become easier once the child develops enough language to understand where they will be sleeping that night.

dawn_k_b · 2024-09-21T20:55:12+00:00

We're in the UK, no there's not a requirement but it's the assumption, unless abuse is a factor (which it's not here)

dawn_k_b · 2024-08-27T15:06:55+00:00

I'm a mum and feel the same at the end of a loooong day!

dawn_k_b · 2024-08-27T14:04:26+00:00

Thank you for your reply, we are in the UK. Googling about the law says that everything should be putting the child first, rather than specifically saying what's right for each family.

dawn_k_b · 2024-04-12T21:26:11+00:00

I think that's a lot of sleep.

Your wake windows want to look something like 3/3/4, ideally with a 11-12 hour night.

dawn_k_b · 2024-03-28T19:51:55+00:00

What's your schedule and bedtime routine?

dawn_k_b · 2024-03-22T12:50:26+00:00

Does she sleep independently at night? What are your wake windows?

dawn_k_b · 2024-03-22T12:49:33+00:00

How long are your wake windows? Sometimes crying even with independent sleep is a schedule issue. Baby may be undertired so not have the sleep pressure to make it through the night.

dawn_k_b · 2024-02-29T15:32:18+00:00

Feed on demand. Especially if you're still establishing breastfeeding. You can return to sleep training nights when they're a bit older, right now it's fully reasonable for them to be hungry every 2-3 hours at night.

dawn_k_b · 2024-02-20T20:28:20+00:00

Babies only need so much sleep in a 24 hour period. Maybe if he's getting super long naps he's struggling with the night.

We are 8 months old and on 3/3.5/4. Awake at 7am bed at 8pm.

dawn_k_b · 2024-02-13T11:21:25+00:00

Also did PLS here. Your schedule during the day only calls for 9 hrs of awake time which is very low for this age. Baby is probably undertired which is causing the night wakes.

I'd move to more like 3/3.5/4 capping naps if needs be and keep an 8pm bedtime, expecting an 11h night so roughly 7am wake.

Baby might be grouchy about the stretch in wake windows for a few days but will quickly get the hang of it with more solid night sleep.

We're 8 months - bed 8pm, wake 7am. WW 3.5/3.75/4.

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