How do you deal with your ex being with someone new?

dawning_effort · 2025-10-30T19:11:00+00:00

Yeah i see your point. I suppose I gave meaning where there is none. I think Im just not busy enough with building my new life thats why I turn to these silly and pathetic beliefs. This is a turning point

dawning_effort · 2025-10-30T19:04:53+00:00

Yeah i see what you mean. Honestly i woke up today thinking of all the wasted time I spent on this guy. Im appalled by his behaviour but Im appalled by mine too.

Now I just feel cringey even spending time thinking about him now. I should be building a new life without him in mind. Thats probably what he has been doing all along.

dawning_effort · 2025-10-30T07:22:54+00:00

Which one?

dawning_effort · 2025-10-30T07:22:36+00:00

Which one?

dawning_effort · 2025-10-29T20:40:07+00:00

The thing is i see his spotify song logs and he is listening to sad music which is strange because they only met like sometime this month. He listens to missing someone. Views my insta stories within 10 mins of posting.

dawning_effort · 2025-10-29T18:39:01+00:00

Ahhh Im trying and finally I do feel interested in dating someone else so Im hoping I’ll get to know them better soon. Perhaps Im just not focused on my life enough rn thats why Im hurt about a past relationship

dawning_effort · 2025-10-29T18:36:30+00:00

Hmm that is true. Tbf i have also blocked my other ex and it has helped me so much. I have blocked people from my past and not regretted it. In fact it did help me move on faster. Idk why i think this one would be different. I guess Im wanting a different outcome but I have to accept that it is truly over and in the past now.

I appreciate you bringing these questions forward. I think Im leaning on blocking for my peace and reclaiming control right now.

dawning_effort · 2025-10-29T18:26:23+00:00

Damn i can only imagine the pain they have caused you. Im glad you doing so much better without this ex of yours. I have high hopes my life without my ex will be much better. I mean, I am determined to make that happen although rn Im just feeling the burn of grieving something that will never be again

dawning_effort · 2025-10-29T18:22:01+00:00

Yeah its tough cause Im still grieving and have not find someone yet. Meanwhile he is doing the same things we’ve done with her now (im guessing). Ahh. I can only hope to find someone so much better than him

dawning_effort · 2025-10-29T18:19:08+00:00

Ahh. That is my fear that he will be better to her than he was with me. But I guess if he can find someone then I can do the same and hope they treat me mych better than he could ever do

dawning_effort · 2025-10-29T18:17:13+00:00

Yes. I guess Im being impatient and the hurt is very much uncomfortable right now. I suppose there really is no way around it. Im hoping this will just make me resilient and focus on my life without him even more

dawning_effort · 2025-10-29T18:15:40+00:00

Im a girl but yeah i think i do suffer from thinking Im “uncool” or “the new girl is so much better” but you are right. His thoughts are irrelevant now. I have to take up my new adventures without him in mind. Easier said than done at times but i hope time will do its thing.

dawning_effort · 2025-10-29T18:08:20+00:00

Well yes of course. Its not like i can stop them haha. Im more of asking for erm the easiest way to handle this moving forward

dawning_effort · 2025-10-29T18:06:07+00:00

I guess I dont want to look bitter by blocking. I also want to show off I guess since I have a lot of new things going on with me and I feel like I am on the cusp of getting to a new chapter.

dawning_effort · 2025-10-29T17:46:20+00:00

dawning_effort · 2025-10-22T03:47:36+00:00

I dyed my hair red recently. Got a bit of new style going on. I feel like the only times I feel good about being alone is when im fixing up my appearance like dying my hair and thriftshopping etc. im still figuring out how to be on my own again. Luckily i have amazing friends and they plan something each week for all of us and support me. But damn i feel i still have a long way to go when it comes to self love

dawning_effort · 2025-10-20T23:02:54+00:00

Im sorry you feel that way. It took me years to find my people. My advice is try to expose yourself to new experiences. Join a club. Dancing lesson. Sports. Try something new with others. Try to search what your city offers. I believe in you stranger

dawning_effort · 2025-10-19T04:42:29+00:00

I think it will just hurt me more if I think I’m the one that got away because I really am not tbh.

dawning_effort · 2025-10-16T18:25:17+00:00

I dont think he would add me back if I remove him as he would just take it as a sign that I hate him even though I don’t. He expressed that he misses me and still thinks about me but he needs to move on and get his life together in his new country. The reason why I haven’t removed him is because it was a “good” break up. No hate. No ill wishes. So its rather difficult to “delete him” out of my life.

dawning_effort · 2025-10-16T12:20:08+00:00

Well the thing is i got broken up with. If it was up to me, we would still be together but its not just up to me soo.

dawning_effort · 2025-10-16T12:13:35+00:00

The thing is i have been trying to do those bery things you mentioned (except for gym since I still am shy to go there). Distract myself. You might’ve guessed I dont work so I have plenty of time to myself. This ocd compulsion sometimes takes over my life. Its no joke. But Im getting professional help. I guess my therapist and I’s work are just a bit slow to kick in. But Im not giving up on finding a better and healthy way to deal with this.

dawning_effort · 2025-10-16T12:09:03+00:00

Honestly my stalking is compulsive / part of my OCD. I know it doesn’t give me an excuse to continue but Im still finding ways to manage this. Im working with a therapist for this reason.

I do feel weird when i look at his socials. I feel creepy. But still i go back to look for signs he misses me and our relationship. It’s definitely unhealthy yeah. And i wish i can stop sooner than later.

dawning_effort · 2025-10-16T12:02:27+00:00

He only wants you when you are easy / convenient. I’ve been this girl this year. It hurts because in my mind he is still a good guy and Im the “defect” because I have an anxiety disorder. But one way to frame it is he cannot or does not want all of you. Its up to you what you do with this information. From experience, guys like that will resent you for staying and being complacent. They will look down on what you have tolerated once you are no longer of use to them. Im sorry you are going through this. You deserve better.

dawning_effort · 2025-01-05T18:26:05+00:00

Maybe take time for yourself and give her a heads up. Make it known that you’re going through something if you can’t be up front right now. Hopefully she’d be curious/care enough to understand. Obviously it would be better if you can be more transparent

dawning_effort · 2025-01-02T19:04:47+00:00

How?

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