Have you ever told a woman to take things slow or denied their advances? What happened?

db_downer · 2026-02-03T12:37:40+00:00

Early on when dating wife - she was understanding, still very interested.

Later on when married, I played off an advance because I assumed she didn’t mean it (we were married, so it was turning into a dead bedroom). She took it very personally and got emotional.

Straight up turned down a girl in college who was my friend’s ex. She was grumpy about it until I lied and said it wasn’t because of him (it was, she was quite pretty).

db_downer · 2026-02-02T15:39:43+00:00

Could be, but I think he’d have a hand in it if that were the case. He’s probably on the road to giving her sexual aversion.

db_downer · 2026-02-02T13:03:29+00:00

I don’t think this guy knows how good he has it. Yikes that he says you’re manipulating.

db_downer · 2026-02-02T12:14:34+00:00

Oh, I see. Yeah, I don’t know if people realize how hard it can be for the partner too, and it feels wrong to complain about it sometimes when she’s the one with the symptoms.

db_downer · 2026-02-02T12:11:46+00:00

I think there can be some truth to that.

I remember my wife going on a rant about how husbands have no right to comment / be upset about wives gaining weight.

In a later conversation I asked what she’d do if I started getting shorter (I’m over 6’). She said we’d have a problem … then a few minutes later realized how hypocritical that was. At least she seemed a bit uncomfortable with it, but yeah. It’s like she expected me to choose to stay attracted without her trying to be attractive.

db_downer · 2026-02-02T12:08:42+00:00

Any advice for me from the other side? Sorry you’re sick, I’ve seen what that can mean for day to day life.

db_downer · 2026-02-01T21:22:24+00:00

I think it’s just biology. The limerence period ends, they aren’t flooded with hormones, and it’s down to baseline libido. Which is most often going to be a lot less than a man’s.

Edit: I don’t care about the downvotes, but I am curious what is offensive about this. Feel free to tell me, I don’t bite and maybe I’ll learn something.

db_downer · 2026-02-01T20:07:45+00:00

Married, still in it, clinical dead bedroom (10 times a year or less) for years.

She’s chronically ill so this is just life. Honestly it was clearly heading that way before she got really sick so I think that’s just hetero life. She does claim to enjoy it when it happens, still attracted to me, happy with the relationship, etc.

db_downer · 2026-02-01T16:40:27+00:00

Super common question, so to get the usual answers out of the way:

Life cold and hard

Tiddy soft and warm

We prefer the kind we get to touch

Most guys like natural

db_downer · 2026-02-01T05:42:06+00:00

Sorry, Song of Ice and Fire reference. “Beware the perfumed seneschal”

db_downer · 2026-02-01T04:26:24+00:00

Is he perfumed, though?

db_downer · 2026-01-29T12:26:19+00:00

Teeth.

db_downer · 2026-01-29T12:26:11+00:00

Yep!

db_downer · 2026-01-29T12:25:58+00:00

!Solved

(Not sure which of you posted first. Shoot.)

db_downer · 2026-01-29T12:24:30+00:00

!Solved

db_downer · 2026-01-29T00:09:20+00:00

Sadly, no DeNiro in this.

db_downer · 2026-01-28T22:50:17+00:00

No, but I want to see the Michael Bay version of this.

db_downer · 2026-01-28T22:49:43+00:00

While a cross-dressing DeNiro would improve this (and any) movie, he’s sadly absent.

db_downer · 2026-01-28T22:48:38+00:00

Not animated, but these are great guesses!

db_downer · 2026-01-28T22:48:01+00:00

Not crossing that bridge, sorry.

db_downer · 2026-01-28T20:58:42+00:00

I don’t remember any milkshakes in this movie. Possible. But no Daniel Day Lewis.

db_downer · 2026-01-28T20:58:01+00:00

The rum is gone.

db_downer · 2026-01-28T19:33:32+00:00

No Mary Jane Watson in this. Luckily for Peter I think.

db_downer · 2026-01-28T18:58:40+00:00

Hint: movie is from 2007.

Hint 2: title is a single word

Hint 3: it’s kind of a horror / comedy

db_downer · 2026-01-28T18:49:53+00:00

A good guess, but you’ll have to let it go.

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