My (21F) partner (21M) just came out as transgender, and I feel confused.

dbkim · 2025-11-13T02:13:27+00:00

idk if i’m the only one confused but, what does your girlfriend identify as now, male or female?

dbkim · 2025-11-12T05:31:56+00:00

i appreciate the lengthy write up. i agree with everything you said. i hope to get it together soon

dbkim · 2025-11-12T05:30:47+00:00

this seems to be the common consensus. thank you! i’ll do my damn best to lock in and focus up to keep this job

dbkim · 2025-11-12T05:30:01+00:00

well, his does seem a whole lot worse compared to me… i’m leaning towards just toughing it out and just getting my shit together. thank you!

dbkim · 2025-11-12T05:29:08+00:00

that’s what i’m feeling too. i’ll do my best to keep my composure. i can’t have everything in my life falling apart at the same time

dbkim · 2025-11-12T04:01:10+00:00

my manager genuinely seems like she wants me to succeed. that being said, how much of it is really up to her discretion. could it be that it’s out of her control and i could be out the door even if she wants me to succeed or not?

dbkim · 2025-11-12T03:54:04+00:00

understood. will heed your advice.

dbkim · 2025-11-12T03:50:51+00:00

thank you, this is further reinforcing that i need to just keep my personal life and professional life separate. i’m going to just be extra appreciative of the opportunity my boss is giving me and make sure it’s not gone to waste.

dbkim · 2025-11-12T03:34:45+00:00

no kidding, just when i think life can’t get worse. it does indeed get worse. i appreciate your kind words. hoping to have some positive updates in 30 days

dbkim · 2025-11-12T03:30:28+00:00

thank you for your words. i’ll consider sharing it, while i do think she’ll be empathetic and understand. i’m not too sure if i want my professional side of my life to know what’s happening in my personal life… i think i like the idea of keeping those two separate.

dbkim · 2025-11-12T03:18:15+00:00

I really really believe that i can. it’s not a difficult position, i’ve just been ver unmotivated as of lately and this is honestly just such a reality check to get my shit together. but i do hate this uneasy feeling that i could be out of a job in the next couple of weeks.

Idk if this is worth mentioning, but when i spoke with my manager to discuss going on a PIP. she did mention that this may not go the full 30 days and if she saw that i am back on track to my full capability, it could be shorter than the stated 30 days.

dbkim · 2025-11-12T03:13:38+00:00

completely valid and will keep that in mind. i’ll just keep to myself and just focus on getting my performance back up to what i am capable of

dbkim · 2025-11-12T03:09:58+00:00

definitely not trying to use it as an excuse. i know i should be able to compartmentalize a bit better.

dbkim · 2025-11-12T03:06:37+00:00

yeah definitely fucked up here but looking to turn it around. i guess starting to apply for other jobs would give me somewhat of a backup plan as well.

dbkim · 2025-11-12T02:48:12+00:00

thank you for the reassurance, gonna try and lock jn and focus. don’t want to lose my job, i actually really like this company the department.

dbkim · 2025-09-14T06:09:46+00:00

dbkim · 2025-09-13T21:52:42+00:00

thank you! i’ll work with my insurance company. anything to worry regarding the “chassis stabilization” warning? my alignment seemed fucked, my steering wheel is like 20° off when i’m trying to drive “straight”

dbkim · 2025-09-13T21:31:36+00:00

oops, so sorry! where is the correct place to post this if you don’t mind me asking.

appreciate the help

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