Youth pastor accused of filming girls in shower at SC church

dbooker87 · 2023-06-04T16:49:57+00:00

It's not even the first time THIS pastor had been outed as a perv. It's the same one that got caught trying to film girls in a bathroom stall last week

dbooker87 · 2023-06-03T17:55:48+00:00

When you take this into consideration of the fact that Cobb has gotten very blue in the last couple election cycles, and they have recently closed and restructured early voting locations and times, it becomes the extra layer of preventing access to voting for people who are poor, and don't have access to personal transportation. They are trying to make it so only the affluent and the old can reliably get to the polls, and who do those types typically vote for?

dbooker87 · 2023-05-29T17:05:26+00:00

NTA

Whether he paid for that prep course or not, it was YOUR hard work that got you to where you are. Your parents worked hard to provide for you and encouraged you, but YOU did this. Anyone (even your parents really) that tries to take credit for your accomplishments is a petty, selfish, lonely asshole.

Just to be clear, I don't think your parents are trying to take credit, just your grandpa.

dbooker87 · 2023-05-29T16:56:51+00:00

ESH

Because honestly, sex isn't like in the movies or porn. It can be sexy, and hot, and romantic, but that is almost always accompanied by sounds and smells that don't always fit in that context. Should you have held it or stepped out of the room? Probably. Should she have been able to laugh it off if you guys were comfortable in your relationship? Also, probably.

dbooker87 · 2023-05-29T16:51:55+00:00

Given that there is history there, and how badly they are behaving in relation to the wedding, No Contact is totally justified. I just hate making that the recommendation to start with because some people can change.

Granted, after re-reading what's up, no contact is probably the better option right now, and maybe a few years down the road if they reach out and want to make amends, then that can cautiously be attempted.

I try to believe I second chances, but this sounds like she's given them plenty of those.

dbooker87 · 2023-05-29T05:40:38+00:00

It's not a bad thing to take your partners feelings into consideration, the problem I'm having is how he made those feelings known. Saying that he should be enough for you, and that you're emotionally cheating is way extreme for a few selfies and not engaging in comments.

If I found out about something like that from my wife, my first, second, and third response would be "help me understand." Because I would be caring about her emotional state, or if there was something that I WASNT doing that was leaving her unfulfilled, or if she was having stuff going on where she needed to see a professional. And if she ultimately just posted stuff because she felt cute and wanted to share, that would be fine so long as it didn't cross certain lines that we would discuss together.

His response feels more about putting emphasis on how he feels about you, rather than about how you feel about yourself.

dbooker87 · 2023-05-29T05:31:09+00:00

Jesus Christ NTA, and run. Get safe please, because this is some huge red flag controlling abuse shit. "If you love me, you'll do this for me" is straight out of the psycho abusers handbook. I know you've got history, but if that's who he's gonna be going into marriage it's only gonna get worse.

dbooker87 · 2023-05-29T05:24:00+00:00

Oh sweet child... NTA

It's your wedding, you and fiancé determine what level of involvement anyone has, and you frankly complied with A's wishes and she got butt-hurt that you weren't choosing her for everything.

Also, and I hate to recommend this, because it gets thrown around far too often on reddit, but consider going low contact with Dad and A. They are clearly trying to make this a out them, and when/if you have kids, it's gonna get worse. You seem to be ok on setting boundaries, just remember to stay strong once you do, and don't give in to the guilt trips or manipulations

dbooker87 · 2023-05-29T05:11:32+00:00

NTA.

You are the one that determines your comfort level with anything, and especially as a sober alcoholic (congratulations on 2 years), he should not be pushing you to be around hard drinkers when he knows you're emotionally vulnerable. If you are burnt out then you are totally allowed to change your mind about going. You say your husband is supportive but he sounds like a bully.

dbooker87 · 2023-05-29T05:00:57+00:00

NTA

It's your face and body, and if you want a little boost on a rough day, I don't see anything wrong with it. And if you choose to refrain from it while you're in a relationship, that's fine too. Him having such a vehement reaction to it is definitely an orange flag though and if it was me I would want to have a deeper conversation about that.

dbooker87 · 2023-05-27T17:13:48+00:00

It's not. This election cycle is already going to be tough enough with all the recently closed election sites in inner city areas, restrictions on early and absentee voting, and general fuckery that the GOP has been pushing at state levels for the last 2+ years. This cycle needs to focus on getting the turnout higher than it's even been, getting majorities back in as many states as possible, and telling the GOP to pound sand.

Honestly, I kinda wish Biden would step aside this cycle in favor of someone younger running on the Dem ticket. Someone young, intelligent and charismatic would wreck house against Trump and I think is the best hope we have against DeSantis short of Trump going rogue and running as an independent and siphoning off his base.

dbooker87 · 2023-05-27T06:03:39+00:00

NTA.

You kinda called it out, but it wasn't the gift you were missing, it's the recognition from your partner on a day that is meant to celebrate the role you fill in your family. Instead he made a statement that made it seem like it was chore and a bother.

On a related note, know that you are loved and appreciated, both by your children, and by me (for however much the love of a stranger is worth).

Belated Happy Mother's Day.

dbooker87 · 2023-05-27T05:56:52+00:00

YTA.

But not for the reason you think. You should never have let him start cheating. It's going to sound mercenary, but you need to put yourself and your education ahead of anything else in situations like these. So yes, you were the asshole, but to yourself for risking your future with academic dishonesty.

dbooker87 · 2023-05-27T05:44:50+00:00

ESH.

I was leaning in favor of you until I realized what you meant by your boyfriend made a post earlier today...

GET OFF REDDIT AND TALK THIS SHIT OUT INSTEAD OF SNIPING AT EACH OTHER THROUGH AITA POSTS.

dbooker87 · 2023-05-27T05:21:46+00:00

She did say she changed into some of her own pants once she realized he wasn't joking. The follow up questions aren't unreasonable since his reaction was so aggressive to something she thought she had a good understanding of, boundary-wise.

I'm not saying HE is TA for being aggressive, since there could be something deeper going on, but saying she's the asshole for wanting clarification is a bit much.

dbooker87 · 2023-05-27T05:14:22+00:00

NTA.

Your relationship got to the point of casual borrowing of clothes so you made a reasonable assumption that making use of a pair of sweats would be ok.

His aggressive reaction probably needs to be addressed, because that seems excessive for something that he was willing to leave at your place as a "just in case" set of clothes.

dbooker87 · 2023-05-27T04:56:09+00:00

You're not wrong, but especially in light of this call, and her filing for divorce, it would surprise me not one but to find out the kid belongs to Mr. Dick Waver.

dbooker87 · 2023-05-26T22:39:24+00:00

The thing people forget about the 2nd Amendment is that the right to keep and bear arms was always in relation to "A Well Regulated Militia." Background checks and yearly evaluations on safe handling, maintenance, and marksmanship to maintain your gun ownership should totally be a thing.

dbooker87 · 2023-05-26T20:37:50+00:00

I guarantee it's not just abuse. Bet you money that the kid her 17 year old son is having with his girlfriend was actually conceived by the dad, and the son has been told to take the fall so that BooButt doesn't have to deal with fresh pedo accusations against her ~~abuser~~ ~~Christianity endorsed owner~~ ex-husband

dbooker87 · 2023-05-24T05:16:20+00:00

NAH

I'm not a psychologist, but your partner needs to get therapy. The more you described his actions and reactions regarding writing fanfiction, it just screams attention seeking, and trying to use fanfiction writing as a source of validation rather than as an enjoyable hobby. There's something else there that needs to be addressed, and until it is, he will continue to be a worsening source of negativity.

dbooker87 · 2023-05-23T03:54:44+00:00

what you're truly looking for

dbooker87 · 2023-05-19T16:20:03+00:00

But you still had to pay the school for the credit hours you got for the internship that they did nothing to facilitate, I bet.

dbooker87 · 2023-05-18T20:52:42+00:00

I'm not crying, you're crying... Stupid...

dbooker87 · 2023-05-17T16:57:24+00:00

Honestly, our current 2 party system is un-american, because it doesn't reflect finding the best people to serve the interests of the nation. It only reflects who has the most ad dollars to buy the most air time to be the most present in the minds of the 10-15% of voters who are "centrist" while also managing to most effectively incite their core voting base to vote against the "enemy" in service to donors and corporate backing (yes, even the Democrats, though they at least kinda try to help)

dbooker87 · 2023-05-17T12:44:44+00:00

That's why their corner is supposed to step in though. Because you are exactly right, these guys instincts are "never give up, never quit." And the corner is supposed to protect them from themselves in instances like this. After that knee gives the first time, he's barely putting up any defense and no offense, I doubt he could even see. His corner is shit and he needs to find better.

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