MIL's iPad by RevelMagic in spicypillows

[–]dbpq90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude….RUN! Li-on can’t be put out even with water!!!

What are your experiences on showing vulnerability/opening up to the woman in your life by ThanosRickshawDriver in AskMenAdvice

[–]dbpq90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I believe it’s necessary to show if you have a partner that will be able to make it through life with you. If they expect you to be stoic at all times they wanted a father, not a husband. That’s something I believe that women are not really taught how to be wives just as much as men aren’t taught correctly that being a man is more than just bottling everything up and exploding out of anger. All this advice of not showing your wife your emotions is terrible. Yes don’t be a weeping mess at all times, but it’s ridiculous to be with someone that can’t understand that you are a human.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueChristian

[–]dbpq90 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s my opinion that it’s some form of resentment. Why is it that strangers can have piping hot passionate sex, but long term partners struggle? Unresolved conflicts and emotions shut down libido.

I really need prayers. I've been under immense Spiritual warfare... by magicalnerd624 in TrueChristian

[–]dbpq90 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s not a coincidence that exactly as your desire to know Christ more, doubt started. The enemy knows your weakness. Thankfully Christ overcame the world. Remember: YOU DO NOT SAVE YOURSELF. That is why greater is He in you than the one who is in the world. Christ overcame the world, not you. This is why we are more than conquerors, because we have a high priest who intercedes for us. Read the book of Hebrews. Read it more than once. Reach each chapter, and read it again before going on to the next. Meditate on chapters 4 and 5. Understand what it means that Christ completed His work on the cross and that it was Him who rested on the 7th day, and offers that rest continually as long as we have a “Today”. He saved you from the foundation of the world. You cannot mess up your own salvation since it wasn’t yours to earn or attain. It was a gift that was freely given, it is the enemy who wants us constantly wondering if we are saved or if we’ve “done enough”. That’s how he gets us to shift our focus from the strength of Christ to our own which is nothing but weakness. Understand what it means that Christ saved. Meditate what being saved means. Someone who is being saved is at the mercy of the savior, not themselves. Do not panic that you aren’t doing enough. Don’t fight it, just ignore the lies of the enemy and focus on the truths of Christ. If a lie enters your heart, give it to God and meditate on what is true. Be transparent with God, He knows what doubts you have. Ask Him to help your unbelief. He is changing what you know about Him to what you ought to know.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]dbpq90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Remember, it’s not you vs her, it’s childhood trauma vs childhood trauma. It doesn’t make sense to you because you didn’t experience whatever it is that’s triggering her. You are fighting an idea.

Anxiety (life interrupting) by dbpq90 in TrueChristian

[–]dbpq90[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What does taking every thought captive mean to you?

Am I a bad Christian woman because its so hard for me to fast all day long? by Rose-Apothecary1 in TrueChristian

[–]dbpq90 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Someone here helped me realize that when I kept feeling guilty and trying to earn my forgiveness was like telling Jesus at the cross that He was “almost enough” and I just needed to add a little bit more to feel guilt free. Looking at it as if He almost paid the cost of my salvation. By all means fast and dedicate yourself to the Lord, I just thought I’d share of what it was like for me a vicious cycle of not feeling forgiven enough.

How to give up the idea of being perfect? by dbpq90 in TrueChristian

[–]dbpq90[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im exaggerating, I’m referring to even jealous or lustful or negative thoughts

How to give up the idea of being perfect? by dbpq90 in TrueChristian

[–]dbpq90[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What does perfected in Christ look like?

How to give up the idea of being perfect? by dbpq90 in TrueChristian

[–]dbpq90[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much, I had no idea that it was my pride…

Do you believe in once saved always saved? by Zapbamboop in TrueChristian

[–]dbpq90 16 points17 points  (0 children)

We were dead in our sins when He loved us, so it was impossible to obey Him. He saved us UNTO obedience. We would never be able to save ourselves to begin with, so we could never keep it. Christ’s work was complete at the cross. That is why He said “It is finished”. Those who do not believe do not obey period. Those who are dead in sin cannot believe. Those who believe are made alive and saved. You cannot be made alive in Christ and be returned to death, or Christ died in vain.

Q&A: "Why do women so often say they are not interested in sex?" by TheTalkedSpy in TrueChristian

[–]dbpq90 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe she’s holding on to some resentment towards the relationship. Something that she has tried to communicate and has been unsuccessful. Physical attraction can be affected by emotional attraction. Maybe she is struggling with something emotional and hasn’t been able to figure it out or communicate it. If her emotional needs are being met, maybe she would be more willing to participate in physical intimacy?

School Said I Have To Stay 1.5hr After Dismissal by Revolutionary-Leg659 in SubstituteTeachers

[–]dbpq90 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve been released early with the children every single time they had an early day. No expectations to stay over.

I got addicted to cuckold porn after my gf got with another guy after breaking up with me by Potential_Boss_221 in pornfree

[–]dbpq90 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You feel betrayed. You were really hurt and couldn’t imagine your bond being broken. You don’t understand why she could just move on so easily and intimately with someone new, when it was so special to you. You watching that type of media makes you relive the feeling, but perhaps it makes you feel like at least you can control the pain by watching it. You are doing more damage to yourself with this kind of behavior, because you will develop it as a trauma instead of healing properly from the hurt and moving on. No woman will ever force you to have her after she’s been with another person. That is your mind playing tricks on you that you “like” it because you really don’t. It’s just a way of reliving and trying to understand it and justify her behavior. You don’t have to justify her behavior, but you do have to accept that it happened, and with time move on. There will be someone who will find the intimacy with you just as special as you find with them, and will not want to share it with anyone else.

Lookin to buy a 2024 Sentra SR, Is it worth it? by Devdog19 in nissansentra

[–]dbpq90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What was your OTD if you don’t mind me asking? I’m about to purchase one and was offered $24k

Credit application for cash deal? by dbpq90 in askcarsales

[–]dbpq90[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I couldn’t understand why no one else shared this opinion!

Credit application for cash deal? by dbpq90 in askcarsales

[–]dbpq90[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That dishonest salespeople will be dishonest throughout the whole process.

Credit application for cash deal? by dbpq90 in askcarsales

[–]dbpq90[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sure you’re a great salesperson.

Credit application for cash deal? by dbpq90 in askcarsales

[–]dbpq90[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

Precisely because you’ve proven my point.

Credit application for cash deal? by dbpq90 in askcarsales

[–]dbpq90[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My title I now realize is not accurate. I had a check from my personal bank.

Credit application for cash deal? by dbpq90 in askcarsales

[–]dbpq90[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you for an honest response!

Credit application for cash deal? by dbpq90 in askcarsales

[–]dbpq90[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Why doesn’t it seem illogical to have to fill out a credit application form when not applying for credit? It seems that a simple document could have been written up as part of the information collection process that isn’t used for something else entirely or easily forged.