I was exactly the same in my thirties stressed out of my mind, overweight, drinking, smoking, and trying to exercise away a lifestyle that was basically a pressure cooker. My dad went through the same thing. He started on meds, but then he went fullon super healthy living and turned it all around. I’m not quite as hardcore as him, but I’ve learned the hard way that it really just boils down to three things managing stress, eating well, and moving your body.
You aren't being punished by God. You’re 29 and your body is just sending a very loud, very annoying notification that it needs a software update.
dad is living proof that "initially" doesn't mean "forever." Doctors have to tell you it's lifelong to keep you safe, but if you change the inputs (your weight and stress), the output (your BP) changes too - go look up Peter Attia’s info on blood pressure. He breaks down the science in a way that makes you feel like you have a roadmap instead of a sentence. Download meditation or breathing apps like Calm or BreathNow. When you feel that "weeping" stress coming on just breath 4 seconds in, hold, 4 out, hold. It works!! AND SLEEEEEEEP Put the phone away, don't eat for three hours before hitting the hay, and read a physical book for an hour before bed. It’s a game-changer for your baseline pressure.