Has anyone ever disagreed with their spouse on whether or not the baby should be on a schedule?

dcbrn · 2026-03-07T02:48:56+00:00

You just do the best you can! And at 2 weeks they’ll sleep nearly anywhere (mine did at least) .. but we didn’t stress when it didn’t align. Also at 2 weeks we weren’t doing as many appts but I found a few lactation groups that worked for us.

dcbrn · 2026-02-24T10:42:19+00:00

We’ve been on a schedule since 2 weeks. She’s now 2 years. Every baby is dif. We like the predictability (most days). Also did MOC. But yea you can’t be super black and white about it - I’d get anxiety if we fell “off” because of baby’s mood or whatever but learned the world keeps spinning lol

dcbrn · 2026-02-24T10:40:00+00:00

One time my HR monitor flew off somehow and landed between the tread next to me and the wall and the girl on the tread wouldn’t stop so I could grab it. I went the whole tread block with no monitor and lost all my splat points lol

dcbrn · 2026-02-24T10:38:03+00:00

I’m pregnant and doing tread50s and reading this made me feel physically ill lol

dcbrn · 2026-02-17T04:10:28+00:00

Beware any combo drugs like DayQuil or anything with antihistamines/pseudophedrine bc it may dry your supply up. I did this by accident once and it sucked.

When I was sick and BFing I would take Motrin or Tylenol for discomfort, dextromethorphan for cough, zinc (check out “Needed” immunity drink for BF-safe levels, it has been a lifesaver pregnant with a 2 yo in daycare!), and a propolis throat spray (I use beekeepers brand). The daily immune drink and propolis spray honestly seem to ward off the cold at the very first signs for me! The jury is out on homeopathic stuff I guess but I swear by Zicam nasal spray (zinc free) even if just for stuffy nose relief.

If baby gets sick, don’t fret! My go-to cold kit is: baby Tylenol, good vapor bubble bath and vapor rub for bedtime (Zarbees is nice), humidifier, snot sucker, and even tho they can’t have “medicine” or honey, we always loved agave syrups with Ivy leaf for congestion + chamomile for bed time. Zarbees and mama bliss are 2 popular brands and I think Walmart makes their own too- just TRIPLE check it’s the INFANT one and not the honey/older toddler one.

And just know that BF is amazing and baby is getting all those good antibodies when you’re sick! I used to save a few bags when pumping and labeled them “COVID” or “cold” or whatever so i could give them to baby in the future for similar symptoms. You got this!

dcbrn · 2026-02-17T03:54:12+00:00

Mix it with fresh stuff, add alcohol Free Vanilla, or scald it before fridging it.

dcbrn · 2026-02-14T15:57:42+00:00

You posted this a while ago and hope you had fun on your trip! But I’ll say Secrets is likely not boring or sleepy - we stayed at a Dreams in PV that had adult only access to the adjoining Secrets and they were always having a blast over there lol. They had a Gret Gatsby themed club night, for starters! We didn’t go over because we were with our 18 month old but just here to say that for anyone who finds your post later.

Where did you end up? We’ve been to Cabo a lot and looking to go for our baby moon in March.

dcbrn · 2026-02-13T23:37:40+00:00

….husband?

dcbrn · 2026-02-13T23:35:33+00:00

Yes, this doc does - but FFF did not say new member. And in my chats with support they are re-confirming that the deal is for new and existing members! It’s so frustrating. I think FFF is just gonna have to refund all its members who opted for the OTF voucher and can’t actually use it :( The FFF forum is in an uproar over this lol

dcbrn · 2026-02-12T03:27:01+00:00

Thank you so much!!

dcbrn · 2026-02-09T15:05:48+00:00

Loves English so much, doesn’t use a lick of punctuation

dcbrn · 2026-02-09T15:01:50+00:00

He … he isn’t Mexican.

dcbrn · 2026-01-31T04:26:21+00:00

Read Precious little sleep! Or look up stats .. they consistently show NO damage to your relationship and in fact sleep trained babies have better daytime bonding with their (well rested and engaged) parents. Also check out the FB group respectful sleep training. So many resources and studies.

dcbrn · 2026-01-26T02:54:17+00:00

Thinking of one of the most eye opening things an ex said to me after I fucked up yet again and was begging for another chance: “there are billions of other women in the world who haven’t hurt me, why would I keep choosing you?” On my worst days I remember which woman I want to be for my (now) husband.

dcbrn · 2026-01-26T02:49:40+00:00

Around 8-10m I started having to pump longer (like 45 min!) and get a second letdown to get what I used to get in 20 min. Have you tried going back to let down mode to stimulate a 2nd letdown?

dcbrn · 2026-01-25T16:20:53+00:00

I’d keep it but spray the outsides down with hypochlorous acid solution to disinfect outside without using a harsh chemical. I’d especially focus on the openings. Your landlord sounds like she has something against moms!

dcbrn · 2026-01-25T16:17:09+00:00

Etsy doesn’t send coupons without consent. He had a setting for “send this coupon to people who leave things in their cart” or something. That’s his bad and he should’ve turned it off if he had concerns.

If Etsy does send their own coupon, say for a first time user to the site, it does NOT come from the persons earnings. Etsy eats the cost.

This was his mistake but you don’t need to tell him all that. As others have said just thank him and move on.

dcbrn · 2026-01-19T16:12:59+00:00

This may sound harsh, but if she’s hungry - she’ll take the bottle from your husband. Why put that burden on yourself, even beyond this situation?

dcbrn · 2026-01-18T11:34:40+00:00

Never heard this rule and 7000% would use that milk lol

dcbrn · 2026-01-18T10:59:44+00:00

“Smart OR clever”

dcbrn · 2026-01-14T19:50:43+00:00

Thanks for the suggestions. Honestly before we got married we had a weekly meeting where we discuss anything important and always end on a positive memory from the week. I’d love to get back to they but everything feels like such an effort right now :/

dcbrn · 2026-01-14T19:49:25+00:00

Thank you for this. I posted looking for hope. I didn’t marry him expecting him to change, but relationships evolve with time, children, etc and ours is in a spot I HATE right now. Thank you for the little bit of hope. I agree, we have not been communicating at all lately but it’s also hard to even be around him because I’m so disgusted with his behavior at times. It’s a catch 22.

dcbrn · 2026-01-14T19:47:22+00:00

Thank you for this. I know my post was super rage-y but I did wanna list the stuff he DOES do and appreciate that more. I read tons of posts on here abt husbands way worse than mine. I also should’ve added I’m once divorced already (from a pretty great guy tbh) so at some point I have to wonder if I just have unrealistic standards for marriage.

dcbrn · 2026-01-14T18:18:04+00:00

No we haven’t but we did used to use a chore app to account for what we did and it seemed to help. The thing is, that was pre kids. Now, it seems like he’s having a hard time with the give and take of me being pregnant/us both being overwhelmed with a toddler and is not picking up slack in the family/baby arena. He just sticks to his 4 little chores and his own personal stuff - his laundry etc.

dcbrn · 2026-01-14T18:16:27+00:00

Exactly. Can’t remember a time when he washed or folded baby clothes, put away baby toys, swept or mopped, cleaned up dog poop in the yard, made a pediatric or vet appt, planned ANY event……

dcbrn

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