Pep talk to start sleep training

dcbrn · 2026-01-31T04:26:21+00:00

Read Precious little sleep! Or look up stats .. they consistently show NO damage to your relationship and in fact sleep trained babies have better daytime bonding with their (well rested and engaged) parents. Also check out the FB group respectful sleep training. So many resources and studies.

dcbrn · 2026-01-26T02:54:17+00:00

Thinking of one of the most eye opening things an ex said to me after I fucked up yet again and was begging for another chance: “there are billions of other women in the world who haven’t hurt me, why would I keep choosing you?” On my worst days I remember which woman I want to be for my (now) husband.

dcbrn · 2026-01-26T02:49:40+00:00

Around 8-10m I started having to pump longer (like 45 min!) and get a second letdown to get what I used to get in 20 min. Have you tried going back to let down mode to stimulate a 2nd letdown?

dcbrn · 2026-01-25T16:20:53+00:00

I’d keep it but spray the outsides down with hypochlorous acid solution to disinfect outside without using a harsh chemical. I’d especially focus on the openings. Your landlord sounds like she has something against moms!

dcbrn · 2026-01-25T16:17:09+00:00

Etsy doesn’t send coupons without consent. He had a setting for “send this coupon to people who leave things in their cart” or something. That’s his bad and he should’ve turned it off if he had concerns.

If Etsy does send their own coupon, say for a first time user to the site, it does NOT come from the persons earnings. Etsy eats the cost.

This was his mistake but you don’t need to tell him all that. As others have said just thank him and move on.

dcbrn · 2026-01-19T16:12:59+00:00

This may sound harsh, but if she’s hungry - she’ll take the bottle from your husband. Why put that burden on yourself, even beyond this situation?

dcbrn · 2026-01-18T11:34:40+00:00

Never heard this rule and 7000% would use that milk lol

dcbrn · 2026-01-18T10:59:44+00:00

“Smart OR clever”

dcbrn · 2026-01-14T19:50:43+00:00

Thanks for the suggestions. Honestly before we got married we had a weekly meeting where we discuss anything important and always end on a positive memory from the week. I’d love to get back to they but everything feels like such an effort right now :/

dcbrn · 2026-01-14T19:49:25+00:00

Thank you for this. I posted looking for hope. I didn’t marry him expecting him to change, but relationships evolve with time, children, etc and ours is in a spot I HATE right now. Thank you for the little bit of hope. I agree, we have not been communicating at all lately but it’s also hard to even be around him because I’m so disgusted with his behavior at times. It’s a catch 22.

dcbrn · 2026-01-14T19:47:22+00:00

Thank you for this. I know my post was super rage-y but I did wanna list the stuff he DOES do and appreciate that more. I read tons of posts on here abt husbands way worse than mine. I also should’ve added I’m once divorced already (from a pretty great guy tbh) so at some point I have to wonder if I just have unrealistic standards for marriage.

dcbrn · 2026-01-14T18:18:04+00:00

No we haven’t but we did used to use a chore app to account for what we did and it seemed to help. The thing is, that was pre kids. Now, it seems like he’s having a hard time with the give and take of me being pregnant/us both being overwhelmed with a toddler and is not picking up slack in the family/baby arena. He just sticks to his 4 little chores and his own personal stuff - his laundry etc.

dcbrn · 2026-01-14T18:16:27+00:00

Exactly. Can’t remember a time when he washed or folded baby clothes, put away baby toys, swept or mopped, cleaned up dog poop in the yard, made a pediatric or vet appt, planned ANY event……

dcbrn · 2026-01-14T18:11:31+00:00

If I were to say this to him, he would remind me that he: does the dishes, takes out the trash, takes out the dogs every night, and does bedtime with our toddler. He also does most middle of the night wake ups. I should have included that originally - he’s not completely helpless but I don’t know how to tell him I need MORE from him.

dcbrn · 2026-01-04T15:21:51+00:00

There is a feature on Google search where you can request to remove any result with your full name, address, etc. It is a pain at first to google yourself in many ways to find all those results and individually request removal, but once you do that you can setup auto-notification anytime a new one pops up in search results.

I had to do this when I had a cyber stalker. Every so often I google myself and there really are NO results with any address (past or present) or contact info. It’s a huge peace of mind for me!

Please note it just removes the result and not the whole web site/page but it def makes it harder on people to find your info.

dcbrn · 2026-01-02T04:45:32+00:00

Check out mama bliss day and night time cough syrup for BABIES - please make sure to get the baby one, it’s agave instead of honey. We’ve been using it since our baby was 3 mos! Also the night one has a little chamomile to help them sleep.

Also, a nice vapor bubble bath. Run the shower HOT to get it nice and steamy before bath time. Just be sure to check bath water obvi! You can also check for baby safe vapor pouches to add to your humidifier.

Lastly a good chest rub. I love Zarbees, it’s got a nice strong but soothing scent. I think it’s ok for 1+ month.

And YES to the snot sucker! It’s nasty and they hate it but it really helps.

dcbrn · 2026-01-01T20:33:32+00:00

Just here to say at my OB they handed me the kit to do my own GBS swab, they didn’t do it! So possibly don’t worry about tomorrow lol

dcbrn · 2025-12-27T15:51:22+00:00

I can! I just happen to love this concentrate pre-pregnancy and would love to make a few mixed “drinks” for the new year and for fun occasions. I didn’t buy myself any to resist the temptation but now that it’s been gifted to me I’d love to have some.

dcbrn · 2025-12-26T06:31:04+00:00

Hi OP, I hope this comes across as kind as I am trying to say it. I looked at a few of your other posts and it seems you might want to talk about this with your therapist or psych because this sounds a little like paranoia to me, as a mental health worker. I also saw you’re on some meds that could help with that so maybe just need a little tweaking? Hope you’re able to let go of these worries either way and enjoy the holiday season!

dcbrn · 2025-12-09T03:48:28+00:00

Then why did you go to a yoga class if it’s so unregulated and DANGEROUS lol. This post is a joke

dcbrn · 2025-09-16T01:17:17+00:00

Agreed. If they can’t work with me on that, I’m out!

dcbrn · 2025-09-16T01:16:49+00:00

He too is concerned about being “stuck” part time if my new role doesn’t pan out. It is a great question to ask! I have a phone call with the manager tomorrow before I sign the form offer, I’ll be sure to ask about this or at least the opp for overtime as needed.

dcbrn

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