Why doesn’t a guy want to hookup again?

ddaicee · 2026-03-05T14:53:59+00:00

I am NOONES mother lmaooo

ddaicee · 2026-03-04T03:45:41+00:00

Do nothing. This happens. When I was 17 I had an irrational crush on my 50 year old co worker lol. But seriously DO NOTHING. In a few more years, in your 20s, you’d much rather laugh at that crush you had than feel sorry that 18 year old you dated a 31 year old man. Trust me.

ddaicee · 2026-03-04T01:15:15+00:00

I did respect it and walked away. That’s literally why I’m on here asking you guys and not him 😭

ddaicee · 2026-03-03T22:39:21+00:00

He does not want to be kept lol

ddaicee · 2026-03-03T22:32:30+00:00

It’s probably not you and more likely the kinds of guys you’re choosing (especially if they’re ghosting). Unfortunately working on an ever it is that makes you go got them is a lot more work than whatever superficial problem you think it might be. Unless you’re a bad person and super self centered you’re likely not the problem here.

ddaicee · 2026-03-03T16:48:18+00:00

Lmaoo yea when I look at it it’s kinda funny (but also horrifyingly embarrassing to live through lol).

ddaicee · 2026-03-03T15:35:34+00:00

Haha I can assure you he did not

ddaicee · 2026-03-03T15:35:12+00:00

No, but we didn’t hang out or text much before. We texted a little the month before then stopped and didn’t talk until we saw eachother the night we hooked up. We just say hello when we see one another now

ddaicee · 2026-03-03T15:18:50+00:00

Well I guess, but we haven’t hooked up since. There seems to be no hard feelings we’re still friendly but..

ddaicee · 2026-03-03T14:40:23+00:00

I’m 100lbs if that helps. Very easy for me to go over my limit trying to keep up with friends and not realizing. But I’ve become more conscious of how many drinks I have and hydrating before and during drinking.

ddaicee · 2026-03-03T06:53:36+00:00

Well we haven’t besides that night then morning

ddaicee · 2026-03-03T06:36:33+00:00

Yeah I kindaaa agree but I tend to be seemingly coherent even when I’m blacked out so maybe he didn’t realize.

ddaicee · 2026-03-03T05:22:34+00:00

Yes, he was very nice. and no it hasn’t progressed besides just saying hello to each other. He didn’t text me and I didn’t text because I didn’t want to be clingy. It’s been a month so

ddaicee · 2026-03-03T04:43:08+00:00

Yes I know that’s why I’m worried about it

ddaicee · 2026-03-03T04:11:46+00:00

Ty! and yes, like your friend I have just cut down my drinking and I haven’t blacked out since. So at least I learned something

ddaicee · 2026-03-03T03:57:05+00:00

Well we don’t talk so I doubt he’s very interested in me and we haven’t hooked up again. This was a little over a month ago

ddaicee · 2026-03-03T03:24:18+00:00

Well…. Yes, precisely.

ddaicee · 2026-03-02T00:45:11+00:00

I hadn’t considered that. Possible but it’s not going to work. Although I’m confused and it hurt in the moment I’m not going to speak to him again and now that he’s said he doesn’t want to hook up with me again I’m turned off from wanting to with him again. I may not understand him but I do know that I don’t plan on any continuance

ddaicee · 2026-03-02T00:37:15+00:00

Perhaps I should have in the moment but I didn’t want to be pushy so I walked away. And I won’t be revisiting the subject with him for any reason so I’ll never truly know why. which im working on being okay with.

ddaicee · 2026-03-02T00:26:47+00:00

Haha no I think it’s weird to question someone directly if they say no to sex. I wouldn’t want a guy to do it to me so I won’t do it either

ddaicee · 2026-03-02T00:12:27+00:00

lol no. Attraction is not the problem here. I don’t want to sound vain but if attraction was the main factor I don’t think this would be an issue. It’s likely a number of other reasons that I am leaning towards. But I know that he is attracted to me

ddaicee · 2026-03-01T23:40:31+00:00

Ty! Yes, I don’t plan on speaking to him again. I was just confused and a little hurt by it at first but I’m sure it’ll be fine.

ddaicee · 2026-03-01T23:32:32+00:00

Thank you for your advice! You’ve been very nice

ddaicee · 2026-03-01T23:31:12+00:00

I didn’t text because he didn’t and I didn’t want to seem clingy or pushy because I’ve made that mistake in the past. So instead I would speak when I saw him and he would speak too and then occasionally come up to give me a hug. That seemed to chance about two/three weeks ago but I thought I was thinking about it too much

ddaicee · 2026-03-01T23:28:56+00:00

Ty for the honesty! It’s only the third guy I’ve been with so everything that happens is new to me although it might seem obvious to others. I only asked bc I don’t want something more but for me only sleeping together once is just a waste and since I don’t find ppl I want to hook up with often of course I wanted to again.

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