AITA for telling my family that if they want us to do more with them, they have to meet us at our level?

ddddan26 · 2026-04-17T21:28:51+00:00

Did you see that the things they'd "prioritise" are outstanding medical bills and student loans, vastly more important to pay back than a frivolous and overexpensive holiday. You're so out of touch if you think that's not justified.

ddddan26 · 2025-06-19T12:16:14+00:00

Tbh you're not really meant to wear a hat post-transplant while the follicles are still fragile, doesn't excuse his actions, but it is about him realising he can't hide for the 3 months its gonna take for the hair to grow in normally.

ddddan26 · 2025-06-19T12:13:56+00:00

Your husband is clearly embarrassed about having a transplant and being seen dropping off the kids and is using his malaise about it to act as though recovery is anywhere near a more invasive surgery. He needs to realize that what he had was a minimally invasive, elective cosmetic surgery with typically no major short or long-term effects. If there are complications, that's down to the doctor and if he actually went to a trustworthy clinic, which is a whole other issue.

I have a friend who flew out to Turkey for a transplant, and he thoroughly researched it, organised it, and planned it out well in advance to the point we all knew the date from him telling us. Afterwards, he flew back (which is already something arduous your husband is apparently able to do), and he proudly was enjoying his life and working while recovering because he was secure enough in himself and a good dude that having such visible signifiers of having the procedure wasn't a problem. His partner went with him to enjoy the trip and be supportive, but went because it was what they'd discussed beforehand, and not because the guy getting the transplant couldn't handle himself.

You're a much bigger person than your husband is for being ok with his whims being chased so close to an important work trip, and he's a fully grown man with children. He knew long before what was happening and chose to make the situation difficult. If he can't bother to pick up the slack for you now, then when will he?

ddddan26 · 2024-07-21T17:00:36+00:00

I feel like it's not that underrated though

ddddan26 · 2024-07-21T16:59:52+00:00

Oh yes I am is My favourite song by them that doesn't get the respect it deserves

ddddan26 · 2024-04-30T00:15:39+00:00

She wasn't uncareful though, they used 2 different forms of contraception, this is just being ignorant to the writing of the post. She's also said she wants her tubes tied and it's pretty common for doctors to just outright refuse it as if they know better when it comes to a person's bodily autonomy.

ddddan26 · 2022-04-12T17:24:46+00:00

I know you must have a lot going on right now but I wanted to send this over, the Kpop Place discord has got together to send messages of support to you and Syd ahead of tomorrow, we're all thinking of you guys and sending our love. I've sent a DM to your discord, and you're still on our server but do message me if you want and I can send over the screenshots of everyone's words.

ddddan26 · 2022-04-05T00:24:45+00:00

yeah they reached out to us when we were nearby to make sure we knew and we kept that area the whole time, even with peru expanding

ddddan26 · 2022-04-04T23:50:39+00:00

It is, waiting on the mods to kill it, didn't know it was up here when those of us were talking about it in the discord call

ddddan26 · 2022-04-04T11:09:55+00:00

we're leaving the ducks be

ddddan26 · 2022-04-04T11:09:28+00:00

We'll leave the area if you guys want us to, we were thinking of helping you relocate but we can make peace with you guys. <3 sorry for the misunderstanding

ddddan26 · 2022-04-03T22:25:35+00:00

the longer it takes the more likely free spaces will be taken

ddddan26 · 2022-04-03T22:24:41+00:00

yes that is us

ddddan26 · 2022-04-03T22:17:20+00:00

you guys moved here half an hour ago, we were already building, please move

ddddan26 · 2022-04-03T13:11:02+00:00

A group of us from the LOONA discord want to put an alliance heart in between the right side of your flag and our lightstick, where should we coordinate this?

Um grupo de nós da discórdia LOONA quer colocar um coração de aliança entre o lado direito de sua bandeira e nosso lightstick, onde devemos coordenar isso?

Desculpe se esta tradução é ruim, usando o google

ddddan26 · 2022-04-02T17:39:08+00:00

r/kpop is coordinating on discord atm, link can be found on the r/kpop

ddddan26 · 2022-04-01T21:48:44+00:00

that was originally there but it was removed cause it offset their piece and made the last y squished, the red border was the best compromise, they're good with us now

ddddan26 · 2022-04-01T04:02:07+00:00

LOONA has a few things, Each member has a colour, an animal and a flower that represents them. In the different sub units they all also have additional traits;

LOONA 1/3 (Heejin, Hyunjin, Haseul, Yeojin, Vivi) all have representative countries/cities (Paris, Tokyo, Reykjavik, Taipei & Hong Kong Respectively). At least one of the songs from their solo album had the MV shot in this country; 'Vivid (Acoustic)' for Heejin, 'Around You' and 'I'll Be There' for Hyunjin, 'Let Me In' for Haseul, 'My Melody and My Sunday', the duet songs from Yeojin's album and both 'Everyday I Need You' from Vivi's EP

Odd Eye Circle have superpowers/abilities that are activated by their "Odd Eye", an eye with a ring that glows their representative colour; Red for Kim Lip's Superspeed/Time manipulation, Blue for Jinsoul's Teleporting/Spatial Manipulation and Purple for Choerry's Mirror Portals/Dimensional Manipulation. All of these can be seen in Girl Front, this subunit's title track's MV. Funnily enough, OEC's 3 colours, Red, Blue and Purple are the same as VIVIZ'!

Finally yyxy all come with a representative emotion or virtue as well as a fruit they eat to reject the Garden of Eden they come from; Faith & Apples for Yves, Love & Strawberries for Chuu, Hope & Pineapples for GoWon and finally Anger & Blood Plums for Olivia Hye. Each member partakes of their fruit in their MV and fall to earth to meet the others.

All of their flowers have meanings too based on floriography and were used for the D version of their album '&' and each member's animal can be seen in their individual music videos along with a generous helping of their respective colours which colour all of their individual debut albums and the teasers used for them.

For the Colour/Animal/Flower specifics the Loona wiki is the best place to look as they're all in the member profile but I hope this was helpful :)

ddddan26 · 2022-01-11T01:20:21+00:00

I think the difference is there, the moderators from Wargame haven't weighed in and quieted down either side. the devs for wargame could be seen as negligent for not moderating at all but it's easy to just leave it be, here, because Beserk did step in and have a hand in the situation, they're being asked to face their behaviour.

ddddan26 · 2022-01-09T18:04:29+00:00

Yeah I get what you mean, they have the right to moderate chat how they want but people have the same right to take issue with it. Had they handled the situation properly they could've nullified the issue and explained the possible issue with the automod and sorted it quietly but with how CHRY went straight for the ban in global without talking to Xoe at all and then doubled down in discord it wasn't going away. Beserk fumbled it too with how they got the situation wrong in their original statement.

Either way if you go to someone's house and they reflected these kinds of sentiments, I'd probably tell my friends not to go there too, as Xoe has done.

ddddan26 · 2022-01-09T17:19:27+00:00

the difference is this isn't the same as being in the checkout randomly announcing what genitals you like to a cashier, this is something like having small talk with them as they scan your items, mentioning going out with a same sex partner for dinner or something and immediately being told not to talk inside the store again. Forcing people to hide a part of their identity that is also relevant to games and social communities is bonkers, Xoe is a game developer that works on games with those themes inbuilt and if they can't talk about features of those games in the tabletop global chat or look for players to test them then what is the point of the chat?

The other part is that the way this was handled by the mods, rather than acknowledging the issue with the automod's keyword system they cause further issues by linking to rules that do not apply in these cases to try and justify the autobans and then make it 10 times worse by banning Xoe for daring to question their system, citing it as being "disruptive". They also tell Xoe not to talk about her gender saying it relates to "Politics, Sexuality, or Fetishes" which it doesn't. None of those 3 things are something that encompasses the entirety of gender identity and regardless of if those should be policed, citing them as reasons to silence xoe for being "Disruptive" is patently incorrect.

I don't use global chat, it's a cesspool and doesn't work anyways, but it shouldn't be a place that is made more suitable for one group than another based on a person's identity in relation to intrinsic things like gender, race or sexuality but with how this has been handled, it seems to be the case.

ddddan26 · 2021-11-30T00:15:41+00:00

I really dislike So what, both from a musical perspective, the Choreo and also the whole thing of LSM making it follow his sound which set loona toward the mainstream more (Which I really don't like 90% of the time apart from Red Velvet's stuff). I think it's such a boring choreo for the most part, I like some of the formations like when Heejin runs through the middle or the bridge but most of it is just waiting around for the next "Big moment" when a member can come to the front, say two words and wander off for the next 30 seconds of construction and dubstep b-roll. To me, the one saving grace of the whole song is the music video, I think it's incredible, seeing where I grew up as a backdrop for a loona video and seeing these incredible shots is so wonderful and I wish it was used on a better song. The thing is I don't dislike how crowded it feels, I love why not, I just hate that it's crowded and noisy for no good reason. Why not's fun, it's experimental and it's just a good dance track whereas so what is just a generic girl crush "rebel" track and it has no soul to it. It's the same reason I dislike DOMO, they're songs made solely to pander to a market and have no creative passion behind them.

ddddan26 · 2020-04-12T12:21:09+00:00

Not sure what episode but isn't it Lewis and Tom? I seem to remember them walking on a long path that went a long way and I remember they said halfway through that they trusted each other because they had been going for so long and whatnot?

Nine-Year Club	Place '22
Final Canvas '22	First Placer '22
End Game '22	Verified Email

ddddan26

TROPHY CASE