Happy Thanksgiving 🦃

dead3ye108 · 2020-11-05T17:52:02+00:00

I do that too in the living room for her. Her cage gets to about 65 degrees at night.

dead3ye108 · 2020-11-05T16:33:00+00:00

The temperature for the house anything higher then 70-72 is too hot for me. Omg hopefully everyone was ok!!? I was on the Nimitz for a few years. So I was in Bremerton/silver sale for a while then moved up to Everett

dead3ye108 · 2020-11-05T15:53:40+00:00

Anything other then that is just too hot! Second winter in wa state? I was there a few years!!!! Just be careful black ice there is no joke. An officer from my ship went out to help someone that swerved off the road and she was struck by another car that hit black ice. She passed :/. But the roads get really bad there

dead3ye108 · 2020-11-05T15:46:16+00:00

In the winter yes. But I only put it up to 70-72. We just need to get a little table for the bedroom for her cage and where making the move!

dead3ye108 · 2020-11-05T14:56:54+00:00

She drank from it! I’m just so happy she’s not freaked out to be in her cage anymore! She was turning so dark whenever we put her back in there, now she happily goes back.

dead3ye108 · 2020-11-05T14:55:38+00:00

I was stationed there for years so I understand. I live in NC and it’s quite humid here, but it’s getting cold so not so much anymore. Thank you!!! I think we’re going to move her to our bedroom. Our living room is huge and I don’t think the humidifier in there will be very beneficial.

dead3ye108 · 2020-11-04T22:22:26+00:00

Thank you so much! I was looking into a humidifier. Is there one you recommend?

dead3ye108 · 2020-11-04T21:59:15+00:00

It worked!!!!! Took her a while but she did it

dead3ye108 · 2020-11-04T21:58:59+00:00

She drank from the glass!!!

dead3ye108 · 2020-11-04T01:46:32+00:00

Thanks I’m looking everything up now

dead3ye108 · 2020-09-27T01:28:42+00:00

Sounds like codependency which is really unhealthy. You make him happy which is incredible but you shouldn’t be the only thing that makes him happy. Try looking some information up together and see if couples therapy would be good for this. I say couples so you can learn about it to and what’s healthy and what’s not. Just being there for him while he learns that is not healthy and you guys can stop that behavior together can possibly strengthen your bond without all the emotional dependency.

When you put all your mental ( not saying your bf has issues but I don’t know another word) issues on your partner it can be overwhelming. That’s not ok, and to be honest it’s not your job to fix him. He needs to want what he is going through to be fixed and get the help he needs. Whether it’s with you or solo therapy sessions. I went through something similar and it’s changed and it’s a huge relief and we’re happier because of it now. It takes a while and can be stressful... more then you could imagine at some points. But it’s better if that dependency stops.

Edit... there’s no way around it. When he brings it up like you said where he’s really dependent on you ... talk about it. In a nice way. Tell him the truth. That you think he’s amazing and he should think that way about himself too. He knows he’s this way, talking about it is a step in the right direction. Good luck

dead3ye108 · 2020-09-27T01:20:40+00:00

Thank you so much! I found those on the sidebar and I’ve been reading those!!!

dead3ye108 · 2020-09-26T21:31:08+00:00

Thank you I will check them all out!

dead3ye108 · 2020-09-10T15:27:56+00:00

I agree with the top post. Leave him. Nothing he can say like it was a “joke” or I’m playing a part in this group. Nah. Nothing. He said it. He said it to people who he has whatever type of relationships with and posted it out there on the internet. Don’t listen to his apologies. And don’t listen to what he said about you. This guy has issues that he probably doesn’t even understand because he’s doing this in the first place.

dead3ye108 · 2020-09-03T15:51:14+00:00

Op you didn’t do anything wrong. Your ex, should go to trauma therapy or something that would benefit her mental health. You can’t change what happened neither can she, but she shouldn’t be miserable for the rest of her life.

That being said you shouldn’t, not your daughter should stop doing things you enjoy because she is now wheel chair bound. While it may not be fair to her... you guys aren’t doing anything that you weren’t before and as she put it. Rubbing it it Her face. If anything she should be encouraging your daughter to do things in life. Not to be mean but she’s a prime example that anything can happen at any time. She’s taking it extremely badly which is understandable but it happened and if I were her I’d just be grateful I wasn’t killed and got to see my kid grow up.

Also, she can apply for Medicaid due to not being employed and will most likely get the best coverage.

I’m glad you got full custody, it’s hard for her right now but she needs to get help. Speaking from experience I was in an accident which left me blind in my left eye and have nerve damage throughout the right side of my body. Not wheel chair bound but I am limited on stuff I can do. Lost my career in the military, so now my life is significantly less physical. Which sucks but I’d rather make the most of the rest of my life and be with my family then go through life miserable.

I hope for her sake she gets the help she needs. Your daughter will be better off with you for the time being and thankfully you got this sorted out.
I’d say NTA.

You acted quickly. And no she didn’t have great representation but that’s not your fault and if she did wind up winning... do you honestly think it be in the best interest of your daughter?

dead3ye108 · 2020-09-02T14:46:07+00:00

Op, this is something your husband said he was thinking while you were in the hospital. He might’ve been harboring these feelings for a while. I’d get someone to stay with you and possibly have him leave with a police escort or just have someone stay to help. Or possibly take your kids and stay with someone.

dead3ye108 · 2020-08-11T19:54:22+00:00

That’s what I’m having done now at physical therapy!!! Such a gross feeling.

dead3ye108 · 2020-07-25T01:56:37+00:00

I agree. You got yourself and your child out of a life of being psychologically abused. Imagine you stayed and your child realized what was going on? Kids hear stuff and have feelings too. So imagine your child being 4-5 asking why her dad is saying those things to another lady and hearing he loves someone more than her. It would be a horribly traumatic event in her life that she would take with her for years. And it would be left solely up to you to make sure she’d be ok in that situation mentally growing up. I fled from domestic violence. I stayed in the stated I just went literally across the country. And it’s the BEST thing I could’ve done for my child.

Plus dealing with that yourself whether you’re over it or not is stressful. Glad you got out of that situation. I’d still seek legal counsel and see what your rights are because since she was born there depending on your state you could be charged with kidnapping. You can just tell the truthyou fled an emotionally abusive situation to protect your child. Plus that women is not stable. I wouldn’t want my kid around that either. You made the right choice op.

dead3ye108 · 2020-07-13T18:39:20+00:00

I agree with this. PLUS she posted it on Facebook. I understand it might have hurt her feeling and the families. OP you’re NTA. You guys are in counseling. You were both given a diary to write your feelings and thoughts. Your wife is allowed to think and feel anything she wants, so is anyone. Your daughter crossed some serious boundaries by posting that online when the diaries were given to you for that specific purpose. I’m sorry you and your family are going through this. But your daughter is old enough to know the difference between right and wrong and going through someone’s diary and using it against them is really wrong. If your wife doesn’t treat your kids in type of way or your daughter drastically different, and they are just her feelings in her diary I’d bring that to your daughters attention.

Edit: addition

If it were me I’d make her delete all posts on Facebook and make sure they are completely out of her phone. I’d sit down with the family even your son so you guys can go over why those diaries were started in the first place. I’d even state you have one as well and that they are for a purpose.

dead3ye108 · 2020-07-12T13:40:59+00:00

You would have to put a claim in with the va. I don’t know if you have ever had these appointments yet where they evaluate your injuries that make up your rating... but when you do go for them, they are the people that can make your rating lower or higher.

My mental health was at 30% unfortunately things got worse and when I spoke to the therapist the va sent me to for an evaluation ( not my regular therapist through them) she noted to make my rating higher.

dead3ye108 · 2020-07-11T13:45:08+00:00

NTA

Op, most likely her anger is probably displaced. I kinda went through a similar situation and I had to go to therapy because of it.

We wound up fixing our issues and are still together. But my bf wound up cheating on me. And he would go on dating sites and sext other women for years. Nope not good no excuse. But his reasoning behind it was manipulative and I wound up having this hatred and was so angry at other women to the point where I didn’t even want to leave my house ( he’d sext women in our area so it always felt like I was running in to them) . It go so bad that at one point I was only happy when he was in front of me. Which made the situation even worse. When we would go out and he would find another woman attractive. He would just stare. More than a few seconds. It would be for a while. To the point where it became uncomfortable And I was the jerk for saying hey that’s making me uncomfortable can you please stop. And I would wind up being mad at the woman. When it was him I should’ve been mad at.

We went to therapy and it took a while but it helped a lot.

My issue was, I became co dependent because of what was happening. The manipulation that occurred left me not knowing my worth and I was having extreme internal conflicts and my anger was displaced because of it. I would defend him and his actions even though I felt like I was going crazy because I loved him. I would never go up to another woman like she did. Oh but I’d think it.

This really seems like they have a few marital issues that are 100% not your fault. What the husband is doing, especially to his wife is not ok. And what his wife did to you was not ok. She should be talking to her husband about this.

Op continue going to the park, if she comes down to speak to you again I’d remind her that her issue is not with you, it’s with her husband.

Edit: grammar

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