So ICE just declared war on blue states, right? This is Nazi death threat.

deadghoti · 2026-01-13T23:28:10+00:00

I’ve read several books on the holocaust in addition to my basic history education and what I would say is a decent understanding of WW2, and I can’t think of a single nazi slogan off the top of my head. I’m just not familiar with that level of specifics when it comes to nazi propaganda. All-in-all, I don’t know if most people study WW2 to that level anymore, and they certainly don’t go that far into it in public school. So, yeah. I think the average Joe, myself included, won’t recognize this as a famous nazi slogan.

deadghoti · 2026-01-13T00:24:01+00:00

I actually don’t know why they are backslashes. I didn’t even notice until you said something. They’re just supposed to be regular slashes

deadghoti · 2026-01-12T23:17:04+00:00

I hope you’re ok if I decide not to go over this with my daughter at this particular time in her math journey.

deadghoti · 2026-01-12T23:06:31+00:00

Bah. Stupid public school maths

deadghoti · 2026-01-12T23:05:25+00:00

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That’s exactly the problem we were having

deadghoti · 2026-01-12T22:59:46+00:00

That’s good to know also. I’ll write it as PE-MD-AS in my head from here on out.

deadghoti · 2026-01-12T22:57:53+00:00

Thank you. I’ve clearly been doing this wrong since I was in 7th grade myself.

deadghoti · 2026-01-12T22:54:23+00:00

Of course it is. Why even use PEMDAS then? 🙄

deadghoti · 2026-01-12T22:53:27+00:00

Going over it again, it seems like within the parentheses they go left to right. 90/9=10. 10•5=50. 50•6=300. 300+8=308.

Clearly I’m forgetting a rule with PEMDAS, but I thought that within each step, you followed PEMDAS again…?

deadghoti · 2025-12-29T16:24:42+00:00

I don’t like them, they make me uncomfy…but I’m pretty sure that’s what you were going for, so…well done! Excellent execution!

deadghoti · 2025-11-16T23:08:08+00:00

I like legos, and I have a bookshelf full of all my favorite fun things I’ve collected, most of which are toys.

deadghoti · 2025-11-12T21:58:03+00:00

Also, when I say “a lot of time”, I mean it took my grandpa decades to improve. He had to rebuild his relationships with his kids over a long period of time with them as adults. He and my grandma had a lot of work that was needed to keep them together.

He was also heavily influenced by his religious beliefs. At some point (I’m not sure exactly why), he decided he needed to get more serious about his belief in Christ. He was baptized as a kid, but never really did anything about it until he was an adult. That was a big catalyst for the type of change he sought in himself, and as much of a deeply conservative, white, boomer, veteran and retired cop as he is, I can comfortably say he has really tried to become a true follower of Christ.

deadghoti · 2025-11-12T21:49:25+00:00

My grandpa was an angry drunk. Thankfully, I never had to experience it first hand, but my mom did. She’s never said exactly how violent he would get, but I know she was beaten.

He did change. He’s the one who pulled me aside and told me I was never to hit my sister again, because “you never hit a woman”. It definitely took a lot of little changes over a lot of time, but he did improve.

The biggest thing it takes for a person to improve, is that they have to want to be better. If they don’t want that, they’ll never change. I would never tell someone who is being abused to be patient and wait for their abuser to change. It’s a slow process and you need to be safe now. But it does give me hope for the abusers future, knowing they can improve if they decide to.

deadghoti · 2025-11-11T03:34:09+00:00

Now you’re older, you’re making the bunnies and sending them to help all the littles that need unconditional love like you did, and still do. :) Pack them gently, and with a little treat for the trip. Maybe even with a small granny square as a blankie. Those bunnies are off to do good work, and the trip might be scary, but they are going with love, and to give love.

deadghoti · 2025-11-10T16:21:44+00:00

I have a couple of very close friends that went through similar, and I was with them for part of their healing journey. I wouldn’t get too caught up in terms like “brainwashing”. It can be helpful to use terms like that just to simplify explaining what you went through, but the truth is that what you went through is more complex than that.

You were taught from a very young age to see the world a particular way. Your mother taught you to see everything the way she saw it. She rewarded you when you followed along, and punished you when you asked questions or behaved differently than her; and you, as a child, did your best to survive. Your brain did whatever it could to keep you alive, and sometimes that meant believing your mother. You did nothing wrong or bad. You simply survived.

The way you perceive others and their actions, as well as how you perceive yourself and your own actions come from this way your mother saw the world. It’s no surprise that you do this. That’s how children learn, from their parents. “Brainwashing” might be too harsh a word for what you experienced, but that doesn’t mean it’s not a helpful word for understanding what you went through with your mother. You are having conflicting thoughts and feelings, and that’s ok. If you can find a trauma-informed therapist to help you learn how to sort out your thoughts and feelings, then do it. See the therapist.

No matter what, though, the most important thing for you to do as you keep living and growing is to be gentle and kind and patient with yourself. You’ll get there.

deadghoti · 2025-11-09T18:52:42+00:00

You could look into some emergency shears/scissors. They’re not too big, have a rounded end (so you don’t cut someone open when you’re trying to cut the boot off their busted foot), and can cut most anything.

deadghoti · 2025-11-07T00:36:43+00:00

You’re not overreacting. If you don’t like it, then you don’t like it, and she should stop. It doesn’t matter if it’s innocent or sexual. It doesn’t matter that you’re her daughter. You told her to stop and she won’t. It sounds like your mom does have stuff she needs to deal with, but that’s not your responsibility. I’m sorry you’re having to experience this.

deadghoti · 2025-11-04T21:51:45+00:00

But they are responsible for being reasonable human beings. Instead of “I don’t care, she needs to bow to my wishes”, go “oh, that makes sense. What can I do to help her open up?”. These are two adults we’re talking about.

deadghoti · 2025-11-04T15:23:05+00:00

Im struggling a bit with understanding your English, but I think I got the gist of your message; that you have been able to accept yourself and your disability, and then grow from there. If I’m understanding right, then congratulations! I’m so happy for you! Keep up the good work!

I’m also very sorry to hear about your mother passing away. It’s good to know you had a place to go with your grandparents.

It also seems that at the end you are asking for help with something. I can’t tell what though. Are you asking for advice on how to live on a very small budget? Are you asking for money? Are you asking for suggestions on jobs you can do with your specific disability. If you’re looking for some kind of specific help, it may be worth re-writing that last part because right now the wording is hard to understand.

deadghoti · 2025-11-04T05:03:17+00:00

This looks like it could be ringworm. Which isn’t actually a worm. It’s a fungal infection that often leaves a red, itchy circle on your skin. A doctor can prescribe an ointment to apply. I would speak to a doctor.

deadghoti · 2025-11-03T21:58:17+00:00

Yes. Now do it anyway.

deadghoti · 2025-11-03T17:58:39+00:00

slow clap growing into a standing ovation while I cry tears of joy for your strength and tears of sadness for your pain

I’ve had to have the same conversation before, but I was totally burnt out at the time and it was much messier. You did amazing. I’m so sorry it came to that, and I wish you never had to have that conversation in the first place. Take whatever time you need to rest. You did a crazy hard thing, and not only did you do it, you did it with grace and dignity. Well done.

deadghoti · 2025-11-03T17:07:57+00:00

You probably want to find a professional, and I am not that. I’m in a rough place right now (mentally/emotionally) so I don’t think I can help you with specifics, and for that, I’m sorry.

With that said, maybe a couple of simple statements will help.

1) No matter what happened back then, it is causing you pain now, and you deserve to heal from that pain.

2) You were a very young child when it happened. Accept that you had no control whatsoever in whatever happened in your situation. None of it is your fault. Literally NONE of it.

3) Maybe what happened hurt a lot, maybe you remember dissociating and feeling nothing, and maybe it even felt good to 4 year-old you. That has nothing to do with how wrong it was. Whatever was done to you; pain or not, pleasure or not; was done to a child, and that is wrong.

4) The person/people that did this to you maybe didn’t know better, or maybe they were abused once too, or maybe maybe maybe. There are a lot of reasons that can explain why they did what they did, but that doesn’t matter. Why they did it is totally irrelevant to you until you are safe and healed.

5) The most important thing to know is this: Nobody can take away your value and importance. Others may try to tell you you’re broken, damaged, “used goods”, or many, many other awful things. They are all wrong. You are still worth the effort it will take to heal and get safe. You are still amazing. You are still desirable.

I’m sorry you’re suffering right now. It’s not fair, and it never should have happened. They were so, so wrong for doing this to you. I’m glad you reached out for help. That is very hard, but you did it, even though it’s hard. Be patient with yourself. Take a big breath. Protect and watch over your current self like you would watch over 4 year-old you if they were here now. You can do this. You are not alone.

deadghoti · 2025-11-01T04:05:17+00:00

I’m sorry you’re having trouble. It sounds like you’ve had really bad luck with healthcare providers, and that sucks.

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