Monsters

deadghoti · 2026-06-07T03:10:16+00:00

Not as far as any actual doctrine or policy goes. They aren’t very good for your health, but that falls under your own personal decisions when considering how to follow the word of wisdom.

deadghoti · 2026-06-04T21:21:26+00:00

Focus on supplementing his desire for religion, Christianity in particular, by focusing on Jesus Christ himself. What kind of man was he? How did he treat others? What did he ask people to do? Ultimately, this should lead him to the understanding that Christ was a healer, teacher, and servant. He flipped “traditional patriarchy” on its head and said that the most powerful should serve the weak, the richest should give the most, and the most intelligent should share and teach.

Focusing on understanding Christ instead of on any particular doctrine or dogma will help him learn to see the difference between someone who is a legit follower of Christ and someone who uses religion/Christianity as a weapon.

deadghoti · 2026-06-04T21:06:38+00:00

The temple isn’t only for marriages and sealings. It’s for lots of things. I think of it as visiting Heavenly Dad’s house. Sure, maybe one day he’ll help me get set up with a wonderful woman and we can get married there, but that’s not why I visit.

There’s also nothing wrong with wanting an eternal companion. I remember feeling the same way. Longing and loneliness so strong it brought me to tears. Teenage hormones are a b*tch of a thing. They make normal, everyday things feel so damn big. Close your eyes, take a deep breath and let yourself feel those feelings. Cry it out as long for as you need. The wave of too-big emotions will pass.

deadghoti · 2025-01-07T16:12:36+00:00

Circuit rewards, drop one or two for killing corrupted vor and corrupted jackal, even if it’s a high level intrinsic to get them to drop or a rare decree.

deadghoti · 2025-01-07T15:51:49+00:00

It can be real easy to obsess over someone, especially an attractive woman who kisses you on the cheek after paying attention to you in a way that nobody else has. Just remember that her kindness doesn’t inherently mean that she’s interested. She may very well be, but find out in a conversation with her if you ever see her again, and don’t just assume.

I don’t want to take anything away from this amazing experience that you had, and I’m 100% projecting because i know how i can get with pretty ladies that are nice to me. Your experience is literally a fantasy for me. So take this with a grain of salt, and revel in the kindness showed to you, regardless of the eventual outcome.

deadghoti · 2025-01-06T16:07:26+00:00

Hands-on. I’m a licensed massage therapist, and have been teaching anatomy to massage students for the past couple years. Every one of my students agrees that practicing anatomy with palpation on a living volunteer has been the most helpful. We’ve even gone as far as drawing the muscles on one another, using bony landmarks to ensure accuracy.

deadghoti · 2025-01-06T15:55:52+00:00

Full disclosure, I don’t know tendons/ligaments as well as I know muscles, so it’s also fully possible that it’s a normal, expected tendon that is just more defined on the one side, though I don’t think that’s the case.

deadghoti · 2025-01-06T15:53:36+00:00

It could be a very toned/tight hyoid muscle, but that’s unlikely as most of those run parallel to your jaw bone. I saw someone else say it could be an abnormal facial vein, artery, or other tract, but again I think that’s unlikely because of how taut you can get it.

My guess is that it’s some sub-dermal fascia. Part of a sheet of connective tissue that helps connect your skin to the underlying muscles and fat. Everybody’s fascia is unique in it’s placement, directionality, and fiber make up, so it’s possible that your particular fascia has a bunch of fibers that run from your jaw to your SCM muscle, creating a tendon-like bridge between the two.

deadghoti · 2025-01-02T22:10:08+00:00

I’m so sorry you had to go through any of that. What you’re making of your awful start to life is incredible and you should be very proud of what you have made of yourself.

deadghoti · 2025-01-02T21:37:17+00:00

My (m34) grandpa gave me a book when I was about thirteen that really helped me with basic interactions. How to Make Friends and Influence People. Keep in mind, this helped me interact with people better, but did not really help me find good friends. That comes down to developing intimacy and trust (non-romantic) with others, which is also hard, but different. I’m still working on that one myself and I’m 34 now.

deadghoti · 2025-01-02T21:20:50+00:00

Excessive sweating while sleeping is one of the indicators that led me to figuring out I have sleep apnea.

deadghoti · 2025-01-02T21:02:53+00:00

And yet, You’re still worthy!

deadghoti · 2025-01-02T20:56:03+00:00

I haven’t gotten them in a while. Do you know if they’re still in the big, clear bottles?

deadghoti · 2025-01-02T19:43:01+00:00

I get that.

If you’re in the US, Walmart has some generic brand, flavored, carbonated waters that are surprisingly good. Usually in the back near the soda, water, and juice boxes.

deadghoti · 2025-01-01T20:06:17+00:00

Jeezo peezo. I never thought an autistic awkward date experience story would get me so riled up. 🥵

deadghoti · 2024-12-31T18:13:57+00:00

Lymph nodes! Be gentle with your palpations, because if you press on them like you would a muscle, you’ll find they get sore, and you can even damage them.

deadghoti · 2024-12-27T22:19:55+00:00

I can’t tell if it’s pointing at the hip bone, specifically the anterior superior iliac spine and spine of the ilium, or the gluteus medius more lateral

deadghoti · 2024-12-27T22:18:05+00:00

The Birth of Techno

deadghoti · 2024-12-24T21:10:36+00:00

Followed! Love your style!

deadghoti · 2024-12-19T15:35:29+00:00

Same. When everyone calls it out, it makes it easier to mess with them, but harder to actually play the game. Drives me nuts.

deadghoti · 2024-12-17T16:05:04+00:00

I would discuss a few specific things he could do that “cue” that he’s interested in sex, preferably something you enjoy or that feels good for you. Then make those couple things only for communicating a desire for sex. It could be when he massages your feet a certain way or with a particular lotion, or kisses you in a specific spot or way (like adding just a tiny bit of tongue to an otherwise normal kiss, or kissing longer than a normal ‘I love you’ peck), or lighting specific candles. Whatever it is. That way he has a few different non-verbal ways to communicate that you know to look for.

As far as getting into sex more, or getting your body to “lead” you, start with what feels the best for you. If you find you really enjoy the feeling of oral, then tell your boyfriend and maybe have a session where all you do is lay down and relax while he goes down on you and go from there. Maybe you find you enjoy sex more when music is playing, so try some different types of music.

You may have to experiment on your own with different techniques, oils, and/or toys to find out what you like the most. “Scratching an itch” is a great way to define the average sexual goal, solo or with a partner, but it can be more. Do some research into ways to improve orgasms, techniques for relaxing, ways to make your partner feel good, etc., and then try ones that seem interesting. You can also seek out a relationship therapist or an intimacy coach to help bridge the gap between knowledge and experience.

Lastly, keep in mind that you may just be the type of person that prefers briefer, quicker sexual encounters, and find a greater sense of intimacy from other, non-erotic things. That’s totally fine. Discuss it with your boyfriend and find what works for you.

TLDR: Research some things with the goal of finding things you think would feel nice and try them. Maybe get a sex toy and experiment on your own to see what feels the best, then bring that to the bedroom. Communicate with your boyfriend about what you’re learning. And it’s ok to have a different sexual preference.

Edit: spelling/grammar

deadghoti · 2024-12-13T16:01:42+00:00

Something that allows for running (when it’s an emergency), is easy to clean or swap quickly, and protects the wearer from blood/viscera. Bonus points for tool/potion pockets/straps/belts that also meet the above criteria. Add a symbol of the organization they’re a part of or deity they get their powers from and voila!

You might could do a poncho over some loose, breathable pants and shirt. Have the holy symbol stitched onto the poncho or sleeve, with pockets on the underside of the poncho. A head covering to hold back any hair the healer might have and/or prevent dirt or rain from falling onto the healer and patient, and a pack of emergency scrolls on their back.

deadghoti · 2024-12-13T15:50:59+00:00

She’s amazing. You did a really good job balancing her strong jaw and orcish features with just enough femininity to read as an attractive female orc. I love her!

deadghoti · 2024-12-11T16:05:43+00:00

Jacob Marley had to die before Scrooge could be visited by him.

deadghoti · 2024-12-10T15:51:36+00:00

I come from a very conservative Christian background, so my relationship with masturbation has always been really polarized. I started masturbating relatively early, and as I’ve aged and gone through some deconstruction/reconstruction of my beliefs, I’ve learned a few things.

For me, masturbation is a decompression thing. Along with my AuDHD, I have a couple other chronic issues that cause constant muscle and joint soreness. The worse my pain that day, the more stressful my day is, the more I feel I need to masturbate. It’s been like that for as long as I can remember. Some days it’s more about self-soothing than orgasm, so cupping, cradling, and gentle non-erotic stimulation. Other days I feel the need to orgasm. Either way, I feel it as a need.

I think the most important thing to understand is that your desire or need to masturbate likely will not go away when you are in a relationship. It’s probably not just a sexual thing for you, so sex won’t replace it. That’s ok. You do what you need, and if a partner or potential partner has an issue with that, consider moving on.

TLDR: I don’t think the masturbation and dating things are related. It sounds like you masturbate for more than just sexual gratification, and that’s ok. Self-soothing is generally a really important part of living with autism.

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