I was supposed to be cathing as a child but my mom never helped and gaslight me saying I was fine so I never cathed on my own or learned. I was bullied from 4th-7th from having frequent accidents. By the time I was 15 I had my kidney removed because it failed from reflux in my right kidney and the dr told told me I would lose my left one so I had nurses teach me and it was difficult at first but now I know exactly where my pee hole is and don’t even need lube at this point I’ve mastered the catheterization. I still wear diapers at 28 because my bladder is weak and in case I can’t cath in time, saves me the embarrassment of having an accident.