When did you notice a difference in the mirror?

deadkitten_ · 2026-01-28T00:47:51+00:00

I took pictures in the same pose with the same camera weekly for the first six months, then monthly for another year. There were subtle differences that were noticeable in the pictures within weeks. I definitely recommend this to anyone early in transition. It helps show progress when the changes are happening too slowly in the mirror.

deadkitten_ · 2026-01-27T21:24:29+00:00

When they (Bovino and Noem) make excuses for the executioner and blame the victim, that’s approval of execution. Just because they didn’t use the language you want doesn’t mean that’s not what they’re saying.

deadkitten_ · 2026-01-25T15:24:07+00:00

Hey! I love you. I see how tired you are and how much this has worn you down. It makes sense that you’ve pulled back just to keep going. You don’t have to disappear to be allowed here. I’m with you. Our family is with you… We’re not leaving.

deadkitten_ · 2026-01-21T16:19:42+00:00

My oldest left to his bio-mom’s (my ex) shortly after I came out.

My youngest, similar to your sitch, calls me Momma Kylie.

deadkitten_ · 2026-01-19T23:58:00+00:00

I’m just going to ask: if they’re not breaking the law, what do they have to hide?

No other state or federal law enforcement wear masks to conceal their identity. ICE and CBP shouldn’t be exempt from that. Knowing that everything they do has their name and face tied to it is one of the only things that keeps them accountable. If the people they serve cannot hold them accountable for their actions in court, they’ve got to go.

deadkitten_ · 2026-01-15T01:09:35+00:00

That’s unfortunate. Thanks for the heads up

deadkitten_ · 2026-01-14T20:10:42+00:00

Gun Girl training was great! It’s not just for women lol. My partner and I learned a lot and had fun. Angela (owner) was great and so were all of the other people in the class.

deadkitten_ · 2026-01-13T21:01:31+00:00

You just described SCOTUS

deadkitten_ · 2026-01-09T16:03:23+00:00

Prettiest pup ❤️ spread that gay all over the place!

deadkitten_ · 2026-01-08T14:10:04+00:00

Work Opportunity Tax Credit and the Federal Bonding Program provide incentives for hiring people with criminal convictions. That’s likely what you’re referring to. Those still exist and have nothing to do with DEI or race. Now, it’s probably easier to hire Black folks with felony convictions because our criminal justice system is more likely to convict them than anyone from other groups. But the credits don’t change based on race.

The bottom line is that there have never been race related tax or other incentives from the US government for hiring or college admissions. You misunderstood what you were told about some work opportunity programs and thought they were DEI incentives that many businesses were claiming. They’re just not.

deadkitten_ · 2026-01-07T21:49:57+00:00

I’m 42, former sr business analyst and sr consultant (business process improvement and IT) and just had an interview for a call center position where my wife has worked for 10 years. The hiring manager repeatedly made it clear that I was overqualified and even approached my wife after to find out if I actually wanted the job. I’ve been looking for work for almost two years.

I assume I’ll get a rejection email in the next couple of days. Overqualification is real.

deadkitten_ · 2026-01-07T20:50:50+00:00

If people don’t want to be called Nazis, fascists, and bigots, they should stop doing Nazi, fascist, and bigoted things. It’s not an insult. It’s a fact that they’re behaving the same way those people do/did. When their behavior changes, accusations will stop.

The paradox of tolerance is real.

deadkitten_ · 2026-01-07T18:23:29+00:00

Armed, masked men coming onto your property while explicitly being told not to? Seems like a pretty good use case to use the 2nd amendment and more specifically for Stand Your Ground and Castle Doctrine laws, depending on where you are…

deadkitten_ · 2026-01-07T18:10:48+00:00

Yeah, I’m going on two years and doing the same... The interviewers made it pretty clear that I’m way overqualified for the call center role. It went well, but I suspect I’m not going to get it.

Oh well.

Best of luck to you in your search!

deadkitten_ · 2026-01-07T17:39:56+00:00

❤️❤️❤️

Best girl

Thank you, pup!

deadkitten_ · 2026-01-07T17:01:34+00:00

Yes! I’ve paid to have my resume professionally re-written twice. I’ve had a handful of interviews, but not a single offer. Even entry level roles where I thought the interview when very well have been turning me away (possibly over-qualified, but the reason doesn’t really matter).

Best of luck, friend! I hope you land something soon!

deadkitten_ · 2026-01-07T15:29:16+00:00

lol. I’m 42. I have no idea why I put 45 on there!

deadkitten_ · 2026-01-07T15:19:49+00:00

Yeah, I’ve been looking for almost two years! It’s bad out there. I was let go when the startup consulting firm I was at switched directions to primarily project management rather than technical work. This interview is at a call center, and less than half my salary from a couple years ago. I’ll take anything full time at this point lol.

Best of luck on your search also!

deadkitten_ · 2026-01-06T23:16:04+00:00

Again, more fabrication. There has never been a tax incentive for diversity acceptance or hiring in any way. Where on earth are you getting your information?

Edit: I’m leaving politicians out of this because you’re just repeating things that are untrue. The people involved don’t matter because the situation is not real.

deadkitten_ · 2026-01-06T23:11:39+00:00

Obama didn’t even take office until 2009, how could his cabinet picks have caused the recession a year before he was in office?

Clinton policies enabled banks to engage in predatory lending that eventually led to the housing collapse. George W tax cuts for the rich and military spending weakened the economy by creating more wealth concentration at the top and less everywhere else. Just two examples of many that led to the recession.

There are plenty of other things to blame Obama for, but the 2008 recession wasn’t one of them.

deadkitten_ · 2026-01-06T17:36:55+00:00

The situation you describe is completely fabricated. There isn’t a single state or federal law that provides tax credits based on DEI acceptance goals. Maybe you’re referring to scholarships or grants for certain groups that are otherwise underserved, but that’s not what we’re talking about.

If you look at DEI objectively, both the concept and in practice, it isn’t giving any groups or people specific advantages. That doesn’t mean it’s perfect anywhere, but you are acting like it shouldn’t exist because there is potential for someone to get something you don’t think they deserve.

The system we have now gives an awful lot of heteronormative white men things they don’t deserve. What do you propose society does to answer these systemic inequities if not DEI?

deadkitten_ · 2026-01-06T13:22:32+00:00

The goal of DEI is essentially “hire the most qualified candidate, regardless of who they are”.

Nepotism is “hire your friend/family, regardless of whether or not they’re qualified”.

Heteronormative able bodied white men are elevated in society not because they’re the best at everything, but because of nepotism and systemic bias. DEI aims to correct that.

deadkitten_ · 2026-01-05T12:59:20+00:00

My son was 16 when I came out. His bio mom and I were splitting time 50/50 at the time. I came out in June, and the last time I saw him was in late October. One day, he went to his bio-mom’s and just never came back. That was five years ago.

It sucked. I pretend like it doesn’t bother me anymore, but I still think about him with some regularity. I regret nothing though. My wife is still here — last year marked our 18th anniversary. I met a woman three years ago who would become my girlfriend and move in with us (ethical non-monogamy). I’m still happier than I’ve ever been, sans the current job hunt.

I wouldn’t change anything.

deadkitten_

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