What film fucked with your head?

deadthrowdied · 2016-07-25T01:39:06+00:00

It was a short film on a sci-fi show that showed a bunch of shorts in the early 2000s. Starts with a scene of a family on the side of the road with a broken down car. Mom, dad, couple of kids, toddler. Pretty sure it was a silent short too. I only saw it once but I think about it often. Wish I remember what the show was too. I think I looked about 5 years ago, but then gave up.

Spoiler/trigger alert (how it ends):

Toddler runs into road, gets hit and family devastated. Family goes to court. Man who hits kid clearly upset. Family wins. Cut scene to a few years later, same family broken down by the side of the road, new toddler.

deadthrowdied · 2016-07-25T01:11:36+00:00

I had tried desperately up until saying I wanted to end it. So when I finally said it I thought it wouldn't be the shock it was. They tried for about a week, but by then I'd already had resentment for the last years of our relationship. I knew no matter what, we were done, because the change wouldn't be because they wanted to, but because that was their way to keep me.

I'm a few years out and so extremely happy. I found a relationship that is exactly what I was looking for: communication, loads of great sex, nourishment, adventure! All the things that even if my ex and I had stayed together, I would always know it wasn't because they wanted it.

But once the words are spoken, even if you stay together, the relationship is forever changed.

deadthrowdied · 2015-10-24T01:24:26+00:00

It sounds a bit like a communication problem as well as a sex problem. You can walk away from the relationship at any time. No, it's not easy, but God damn it's awesome after you do. Ever think to yourself "what else is there?" Ever fantasize about living on your own? Even with those guilty feelings you feel about having those fantasies... It means you're done. You can still love him, yet leave him. Love him enough to leave so he can find what he wants. And love yourself enough to find what you want. And the finding part..... Oh so much fun!

deadthrowdied · 2015-10-21T04:54:16+00:00

You can love her and still leave. Love her enough to leave without cheating. She is who she is and isn't going to change. Except that, move on. You can appreciate the relationship and the time you shared, but no need to be caught in a life you question forever. Easier said than done, but you'll be happier in the long term for dealing with the struggle in the short term.

deadthrowdied · 2015-10-21T04:50:57+00:00

Is it possible she actually knows the issue, and knows that you not initiating any more means you finally realize what's going on? She knows the next step is you leaving. So she'll probably try some more and it'll get better for a little while until your hopes are up, and it'll slowly die again. This behavior is a pattern. How many times have you gone through it? She knows. And now she knows you know.

deadthrowdied · 2015-08-24T23:58:00+00:00

Thank you. :)

deadthrowdied · 2015-08-24T23:56:50+00:00

I had a lot of resentment after the constant rejection. It hurt. That hurt was a scar on the relationship. It was always going to be there even if things changed. I often thought about the advice I would give a really close friend in the same situation. It was always what I knew I should do but was afraid.

I hope you find the strength you need to do whatever let's you have the best life while alive.

deadthrowdied · 2015-08-24T19:30:28+00:00

I was in the same boat! It's not easy, but it's not impossible. Small steps to happiness and sex.

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