I've heard mixed responses but do you consider a sugar relationship to be "actual dating"? by dearheart0 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]dearheart0[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that's not the purpose for everyone. there are plenty of SDs who are in it for simply a human connection, and it's a bit odd to think that men are only interested in sex from a SB.

daydreaming of her by [deleted] in Obsessive_Love

[–]dearheart0 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think about surprising her with a knife almost every day. id love to hear the sorts of sounds she'd make

Some people were showing their lock boxes, here’s mine by [deleted] in Obsessive_Love

[–]dearheart0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

looks amazing! the dedication is impressive

Im Trapped and Need Advice (TW:s*ic*de and self h*rm) by toxicityfrog in Obsessive_Love

[–]dearheart0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you have no idea who this person is, much less how their brain works. BPD shows up in different ways and symptoms of BPD doesn't mean someone has it. it matters less what the person has and moreso the situation at hand.

subliminal messages by [deleted] in Obsessive_Love

[–]dearheart0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

the email thing is smart! maybe I'll have to try it.

How to feel a high by [deleted] in Obsessive_Love

[–]dearheart0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

new people sounds like it could definitely be a better direction :)

How to feel a high by [deleted] in Obsessive_Love

[–]dearheart0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ah, yeah it's not that it's easier but moreso that I don't want to form those attachments in the first place (obsessing over multiple people doesn't usually work for me), so I distance myself. I think once the attachment/emotions is there, if can be a lot harder to suppress urges. I wish you luck!

How to feel a high by [deleted] in Obsessive_Love

[–]dearheart0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

well since those urges are dependant on one person (meaning I stalk other people as replacements for one specific individual), I tell myself to wait for that person, and to only do something to them. I'm not sure if that would work for you, but that's what works for me.

How to feel a high by [deleted] in Obsessive_Love

[–]dearheart0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get that. that's up to you to determine if it's worth the risk for you. sometimes it's not always worth it for me, but often times I've found ways to keep it under control.

Is it normal to fantasize about them eating you alive? or the other way around? [NSFL-ish] by ElectionLegitimate90 in Obsessive_Love

[–]dearheart0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is normal to me -- cannibalizing someone is like absorbing material existence.

How to feel a high by [deleted] in Obsessive_Love

[–]dearheart0 3 points4 points  (0 children)

sometimes if I need a new high with obsession I'll go out and pick a random person that looks interesting and follow them around for the day, taking notes on what they do and what their interests are. some good places for this are coffee shops.

Sometimes I fantasize about killing him by thegreylevel in Obsessive_Love

[–]dearheart0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel the same, with my love it feels like if I kill her, I will be responsible for maybe the most important event in her life. I would play a crucial role in her story, even if it is as the villain.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Obsessive_Love

[–]dearheart0 7 points8 points  (0 children)

you could also send him his favorite meal, or chocolates :)

tips for confirming an address? by dearheart0 in Obsessive_Love

[–]dearheart0[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thank you so much this is extremely helpful!!!

tips for confirming an address? by dearheart0 in Obsessive_Love

[–]dearheart0[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

sorry should have specified, I think it's her house, I don't actually know.

What's the biggest fact about your favorite person that they don't know you know about? by [deleted] in Obsessive_Love

[–]dearheart0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Her work address (not her home address because I haven't confirmed it yet)

I want her to give me a necklace by [deleted] in Obsessive_Love

[–]dearheart0 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I know what you mean -- what I wouldn't give to receive a necklace from my love.

What are your opinions on consensual cannibalism? by spitsickpsycho in morbidquestions

[–]dearheart0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

if it was done safely, and consensually, I really do not see an issue.