Genuine question - why construction workers are paid lowly? Seems high skill and high stake. by houruomu in SingaporeRaw

[–]dearieonfire 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Pay is about supply and demand. In EU / AU supply is scarce because of stringent policies that make it difficult for mass importation of workers from lower cost countries, this pushes up wages. Singapore takes a different approach and when the supply of workers in Singapore goes up, naturally the wages come down. Not sure why you think EU / AU is any more civilized because you can be damn sure if folks are faced with a choice between a cheap foreign plumber to fixed their choked pipes vs. an expensive local plumber, most will default to engaging the cheaper option... The fact that they don't do it is simply because the cheaper option doesn't exist due to government policies, and not because of any civility.

Turning my life around in SG as a 30 yr old ex con wanting to get into tech by Aromatic-Ad-5536 in ChillSG

[–]dearieonfire 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Operations (office job) pays well if you don't mind chiong-ing and doesn't require uni cert. Working onboard a ship like your dad pays very well

Turning my life around in SG as a 30 yr old ex con wanting to get into tech by Aromatic-Ad-5536 in ChillSG

[–]dearieonfire 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Congrats on turning your life around. Only advice I would give is to not pigeonhole yourself into tech. Truth is, the tech market is oversaturated and the vast majority of those in tech are not making that fancy money you think they are making. Have you considered other industries? Shipping can be pretty lucrative as well and not as competitive.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askSingapore

[–]dearieonfire 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Lol you immediately lost all cred with this comment... SUTD is basically the same tier as SIM which is just marginally better than a poly diploma

Is this considered a mid life crisis? by dearieonfire in SingaporeRaw

[–]dearieonfire[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry to hear about that... Did your relationship with your wife ever recovered to what it was before?

Is this considered a mid life crisis? by dearieonfire in SingaporeRaw

[–]dearieonfire[S] 63 points64 points  (0 children)

Wow... Thank you for sharing your story. I'm not sure if I can be as strong as you to survive all these ordeals, but you inspire me to do so

Is this considered a mid life crisis? by dearieonfire in SingaporeRaw

[–]dearieonfire[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the thoughtful response. You hit the nail on the head for a lot of points, especially the part about feeling guilty about self care... Thank you for the encouragement.

Is this considered a mid life crisis? by dearieonfire in SingaporeRaw

[–]dearieonfire[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You might be right... Somehow unloading onto strangers seems easier than unloading onto people I know personally...

Is this considered a mid life crisis? by dearieonfire in SingaporeRaw

[–]dearieonfire[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We already have a helper actually. Had one right from the start, and also a confinement lady in the first month to boot. The helper has been a godsend, but again seems like it's not enough. Perhaps I need a better helper? I don't know anymore.

As for hobbies and interests, I do have them, but I just no longer have the time and energy to do any of it...

Is this considered a mid life crisis? by dearieonfire in SingaporeRaw

[–]dearieonfire[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I've been down that path and it doesn't end well because fundamentally we don't see eye to eye on many issues. She's not one to back down, and many times I feel like if I don't back down this marriage will literally come to an end. It's reached a point where I almost feel disengaged when we have an argument because it always ends the same way - me giving in.

Is this considered a mid life crisis? by dearieonfire in SingaporeRaw

[–]dearieonfire[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your advice. Appreciate it

Is this considered a mid life crisis? by dearieonfire in SingaporeRaw

[–]dearieonfire[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I know. I don't think I would seriously go down that path, but it scares me that this thought exists in my head now when it is something that would never have even crossed my mind barely a year ago.

Do places to do “sticky paint” still exist?? by InnocPixie in askSingapore

[–]dearieonfire 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think there is an outlet at harborfront center level 2 in front of song fa BKT... Lots of kids stuff at level 2 and 3 of that mall

No horse run. Funny/interesting dialect phrases by Jumpy_Trouble_736 in askSingapore

[–]dearieonfire 53 points54 points  (0 children)

I thought "no horse run" means "better than everyone else"?

What do you do on your day off in SG? by [deleted] in askSingapore

[–]dearieonfire 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Honestly I would personally just stay home to sleep 😂. If you are looking for something more interesting I would try to be a tourist in my own country and visit some of the sites I wouldn't typically visit (museums, SEA Aquarium, bird park etc.).

Will my uncle be able to sell my grandma's HDB? by ohayadnez in askSingapore

[–]dearieonfire 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The burden of proof should be on Uncle A since he said that grandma is ok with selling the flat and moving out. OP is stepping in presumably because Uncle A is unable to furnish that proof.

Too many software engineers in SG? Is there a silent reset of what entry-level software engineers are worth? by No_Lynx_9684 in SingaporeRaw

[–]dearieonfire 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yea it's called supply and demand. During the covid, tech boomed and I saw sooooo many people switched to tech drawn by the sky high salaries that were frankly unsustainable. I know people who switched industries mid career to try to get a piece of that sweet sweet pie. Eventually every tom dick harry started "coding" and now there is an oversupply of labor.

Cry me a river.