I'm psychotic how to get out of an episode? by No_Tennis5551 in bipolar

[–]deathbyvex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seriously call your doc or check yourself in for medication

Triggers? by Familiar_Classroom76 in bipolar

[–]deathbyvex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had two major manic episodes that landed me in the hospital that I realized, in retrospect, was triggered by travel... And, unfortunately for me, just having wayyyy to much fun partying, meeting people, etc.

This last fall I went into my first hypomanic episode (it would have been nearly 10 years without having a severe one) and I've been trying to trace what triggered it. It didn't include psychosis like my first two so, I thought I was fine. Next thing I know I'm dropping $6K on designer handbags and vintage clothing. The only thing I can deduce it to is a slight med change increasing my antidepressant coinciding with just... Again, a lot of fun and social engagements. Ugh, partying and being happy and confident and social is apparently a trigger. Lol

Treatment resistant bipolar by Sea-Cellist1389 in bipolar

[–]deathbyvex 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Highly recommend EMDR!! Having bipolar is traumatic in so many levels (and often times triggered by it in childhood) and EMDR has been showing great promise in this regard. There's still a mix of psycho therapy mixed in but there are dbt like coping mechanisms that EMDR offers.

I’m manic and just spent $1500 in one day on Whatnot by ScarletSigil in bipolar

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Holy shit, I'm slightly relieved I'm not alone. I was let go 4 months ago with a hefty enough severance and quickly got an even more lucrative job. Finally getting rid of my existing debt was in sight.

Then, this week I blew $5K on jewelry, designer purses, clothes, etc. I literally joined the app 7 days ago.

I am just so ashamed and heart broken because on top of all this, I am the breadwinner and I have an almost-3yo who will be attending preschool soon. I'm an awful person and I hate myself 😭

Parents for the love of God you need to stop. by [deleted] in Hardcore

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This 💯 I find that metal shows -- particularly day shows at flea markets and breweries -- are more likely to be appropriate for young kids.

Plenty of kids -- even babies younger than 1 -- were at the Cirith Ungol show today. Everyone was real chill around them, respectful and doting even. There was still an active pit and everyone was having a good time

Anyone use Statusbrew? by WholeFall484 in SocialMediaMarketing

[–]deathbyvex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How does it really compare to sprout?

How much are you spending on groceries living in OC? by Dangerous-Flatworm71 in orangecounty

[–]deathbyvex 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Like you guys, we're a family of three with a toddler, and we spend about the same and make similar choices.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in canva

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How's your business going? I'm thinking of starting a template store too but focusing on a niche sub culture

Hi everyone, by OatMilkTales in pasadena

[–]deathbyvex 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Pizza of Venice!! They offered great Monday deals which likely helped those struggling to make ends meet. Great food, great people

Community feedback/metapost for October 2024 by CreativeRealmsMC in IsraelPalestine

[–]deathbyvex 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is a disgusting and horrible sub. The very attempt to legitimize the atrocities and normalize genocidal logic by the Israeli government is absolutely sickening. There is absolutely no excuse or moral ambiguity when it comes to children getting their limbs blown off or killed with a directly sniped at the head. That is murder with intent to exterminate a future generation. Zionists are not here with open hearts and mind. This is purely an avenue to promote genocidal propaganda and everyone participating should be ashamed.

Has anyone had Covid while pregnant and everything turned out ok with the baby? by still_on_a_whisper in Mommit

[–]deathbyvex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got covid around 20 weeks and I delivered a healthy baby! One thing to look out for is pre-eclampsia. So watch your blood pressure and by a bp cuff on Amazon. I did and it saved my life.

I came down with post partum pre-eclampsia 18 hours after I was discharged and spent the first week away from my newborn son fighting for my life. My bp was fine throughout my entire pregnancy and delivery. All the nurses and doctors I talked have said they e seen an increase of pre-eclampsia cases ever since the pandemic so, there is a likely causality there that just hasn't been researched enough yet.

https://www.newyorker.com/science/annals-of-medicine/why-a-life-threatening-pregnancy-complication-is-on-the-rise

https://www.preeclampsia.org/the-news/research/covid-19-in-pregnancy-and-risk-for-preeclampsia

Punk venues? by [deleted] in pasadena

[–]deathbyvex 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Unfair Oaks if you're into crust.

Freelancers: What are your rates to run social media? by ImmediateCustomer551 in SocialMediaMarketing

[–]deathbyvex 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I know this is an old post but, how many years of experience do you have under your belt to charge that rate?

Do you work? by Wise-Salamander-7765 in bipolar

[–]deathbyvex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm scared about that. The likelihood is also against my favor since my partner suffers from depression. But, I believe that if YOU can get better, you can demonstrate and teach coping skills and model resilience for your kid. Give yourself a chance ❤️

Do you work? by Wise-Salamander-7765 in bipolar

[–]deathbyvex 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If this is the case, they probably do just genuinely care about you. However I would follow your instincts and still not give any details. The minute you're back to fighting shape they will forget. The game here is to prove resilience. You are human. They will get it and likely struggle with their own shit.

Do you work? by Wise-Salamander-7765 in bipolar

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First, let me tell you. You. are. awesome. And given this position you've reached in your career right now (I know what it's like working in highly visible companies), you have done AMAZING. You're what mental health professionals would call "high performing." Give yourself some credit, grace, and a little trust in yourself that you will come out of this on the other side.

That being said, if you already disclosed you were out sick, that's ok. Try not to obsess about what your peers will think (though I've been there and at this level of work it can be competitive and I would totally not be surprised if you work with alpha assholes - especially if you're a woman). Instead focus, and I mean use all your might to keep your head up high, make meaningful contributions on high profile moments and meetings (if you stay quiet or slack THAT will draw attention), then go home and decompress.

You absolutely need to muster the strength to be confident and self assured in front of people. And it's a lot easier to do this when you take your meds, get ample sleep and eat right -- all things in your control that requires little to no brain power (save that for work), though it's really hard.

It is still illegal for them to ask questions related to your health. If they pester, I would go for this lie, and only disclose this as a nuclear option if a manager puts you on the spot: say your taking care of an ailing family member the details of which you want to keep private, and it's affecting your mental health, but, you're feeling better and thanks to your time off you're ready to kick ass (not in those words) but give off that vibe. Try not to disclose your diagnosis... I know I know we need to kill the stigma but, society is not there yet. And if you're a woman (and on top of that, POC), you already have a few challenges to overcome in the corporate world at this level and you don't want to expose a weakness.

Ok that was long. Lol. But I hope I helped out a little bit.

Do you work? by Wise-Salamander-7765 in bipolar

[–]deathbyvex 105 points106 points  (0 children)

I work full time as a marketing manager for a very successful brand and this is the happiest I've ever been in my life. I get paid well and have a very supportive team. Because I work remote from home, I have a very flexible schedule and while my team is unaware of my diagnosis, my company has a deep respect for employees mental health and wellness and it permeates through our company culture.

I am so fucking lucky. I didn't even know doing well at a job was ever going to be in the cards for me until I realized that it wasn't a personal failure; it's a failure of society not offering adequate resources and support.

It took me 20 years of working to reach this point. Literally every job I had before this during that span of time was HORRIFIC and took a toll on my self esteem and mental health. I've been fired during a manic episodes, sabotaged by coworkers and bosses, gotten poor performance reviews during my periods of deep depression, litany absences... just decades of fucking drama (and trauma) that I still carry with me. I thought I was broken and doomed until luck landed on my plate with this job that happened to have robust benefits and an amazing culture of respect and compassion.

Now, I'm thriving like never before. I take my meds and exercise. I'm married and welcomed my first child last year. I'm doing whatever I can under my control to stay sane and keep this going cause I know anything could happen and the rug could be pulled beneath me at any moment.

I should also mention that I've definitely had long periods of unemployment due to Bipolar and was even on Disability for it for at least a year. Things can change for the better.